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two of my friends have been sexually harassed and they told me today:

1)one was at her ex boyfriends house with a friend and the friend left for a second, and while she was gone he started to interfere with my friend and she told him to stop it but he didnt and he did it for 5 minutes until her friend came back and got him away from her......this happened in september and she told me today and started crying

2)my other friend wont tell me exactly but she said that it has to do with her 22 year old sister's ex boyfriend who is like 23 and she said it was similar to what happened to my first friend.....and that happened a year ago (i think) if she tells me more ill tell you guys

they dont want me to tell anyone and i feel really awful...it makes me sick just to think of it thats why im asking you guys what to do

omg how old are you're friends?

both are 13

That is really horrible I wish I could give some advice that would really help. All I can say is listen to them, and make sure they don't feel like it's their fault.

yeah....i honestly don't think i can say anyth more than that too...do ppl report these things to the police or sumth?

thats terrible
obviously someone has to do something

yeah their parents shld know abt it......

they only told me and each other and the friend that walked in on the first one knows also

It's sexual harrassment... or sexual assault even.. rape is non consensual sexual relations.. that's the definition in my Criminal Justice book...

In the first situation, the friend came in and saw this?

then they shld definitely tell their parents!

yea she made him stop because hes scared of her

No one should have to keep this a secret, especially someone who's only 13 and doesn't really know what to think of it...

good thing she was there

i know.......what should i do......they could press chaarges even but they dont want to tell anyone and i dont want them to lose their trust in me

be very supportive, thats all you can do if you dont want to lose their trust

although an adult really should be told

yeah ive been sayin that all along an adult shld be told

Tell the cops, get those bastards in prison where they will be fingered and raped.

Oh my god, Virginia, im so sorry to hear that...
Can you tell me how old were the people who did the assulting?

the first was 14 the second was 23....i think

Best advise I can give is "See a crime....Report a crime" so report it to the authorities.

or get your friends to tell the cops

ack i have to go wwalk the neighbors dog..bye

bye - hope it works out *hugs*

One was ten years older then the girl he harrassed?
Get him a cell next to other child molestors and rapists

before i go, read this its the song "date rape" by sublime:

Let me tell you about a girl I know,
had a drink about an hour ago.
Sitting in a corner by herself, in a bar in downtown Hell.
She heard a noise and she looked through the door.
And saw a man she'd never seen before.
Light skin, light blue eyes, a double-chin and a plastic smile.
Well, her eyebrow raised as he walked through the door
And took an empty seat next to her at the bar.
"My brand new car is parked right outside. How'd ya like to go for a ride?"
And she said."Wait a minute I have to think."
He said, "That's fine. May I please buy you a drink"
One drink turned into 3 or 4 and they left and got into his car
and they drove away someplace real far.

Now babe the time has come.
How'd ya like to have a little fun?
And she said." If we could only please be on our way, I will not run."

That's when things got out of control.
She didn't want to, he had his way.
She said, "Let's Go"
He said, "No Way!"
Come on babe it's your lucky day.
Shut your mouth, were gonna do it my way.
Come on baby don't be afraid,
if it wasn't for date rape I'd never get laid.

He finished up and he started the car
He turned around and drove back to the bar.
He said."Now baby don't be sad, in my opinion you weren't half-bad."
She picked up a rock.,threw it at the car, hit him in the head, now his got a big scar.
Come on party people won't you listen to me.
Date Rape Stylie.

The next day she went to her drawer, looked up her local attorney at law,
went to the phone and filed the police report and then she took the guy's ass to court.
Well, the day he stood in front of the judge he screamed, " She lies that little ****!"
The judge knew that he was full of shit and he gave him 25 years
And now his heart is filled with tears.

That night in jail it was getting late.
He was butt-raped by a large inmate, and he screamed.
But the guards paid no attention to his cries.

That's when things got out of control.
The moral of the date rape story, it does not pay to be drunk and horny.
But that's the way it had to be.
They locked him up and threw away the key.
Well, I can't take pity on men of his kind,
even though he now takes it in the behind.

That's the way it had to be.
They locked him up and threw away the key.
Well, I can't take pity on men of his kind,
even though he now takes it in the behind.

DATE RAPE

She didn't want to TAKE IT!

her sisters ex boyfriend (her sister doesnt know about this)

Unfortunately most rapists don't get put away

They can both be tried for this...the 23 year old one is going to jail either way...even if your mate at the begining wanted to have any relations, it is still a ststetory rape...

There are two kinds of crimes, violent crime, and so called white color crime....this is a violent crime and they could go down for it....

The 14 year old on might not however get tried as the 23 year old one...

I I say report it...rape and domestic violence are least reported crimes ever...

People like that are revolting...

*nods vigorously*

but who is gonna tell someone?

MY FAVE SONG.....!!!

but thats the way, it had to be, they lock him up and threw away the key but i cant take pitty on men of his kind, even tough he now takes it in the behind!!!

I know it all by heart!!

heey!!!!!i resent that!!!

I don't think either will get put away for life.. but I say take whatever punishment u can get for them... they're young, and it can get worse

sorry Bloomi, I don't know if Michael Jackson is guilty or not.. I don't know enough about it.. I didn't mean to insult u, I'll edit it and take it back

if that happened around my area, people would just take the law into their own hands

and that wouldnt be nice at all

They arent gonna get life....i never said that....this spot on a record, shoud do them for life...

oh ok, gotcha Lil

thank you - i didn't mean to be hard or anyth but you know how defensive i can get
*hugs bid*

*hugs Bloom back* I forgot how ur his number one fan

always hv been and always will be

Just tell them to reoprt and not be afraid!! Good luck!!

mmhmm gd luck virginia!*hugs*
ive gotta go now every1 -bye!

Bye!

does what happened to the first one count as rape?

Tried....he'll be tried and he will have a record too....if that is what you asked

ok thanks mila im going to email her...she doesnt like to talk about it in person or she starts crying and shes one of those girls that never let you see them cry...

good luck! I tried to help you, and with that i did my revision in criminal justice!

*hug* you are a great friend Virginia

*hug* thanks so much!

Wow......sorry to hear about your friends V...... I would call the cops and give them the names of the guys who did this and tell them what they did. Don't give them the names of your friends unless they ask. I would guess that they won't want to arrest the guys who did it, but then they will know who they are so if they ever do something more serious, they will know that they did something before.

that's not right... i think it's time for me to assassinate somebodies

fukn wankas........


if de girls are really upset about it, dey shood talk to sumone dat dey no and trust, or perhaps dey cood talk to a councilor or sumone who specialises in dese sorts of situations.......

i found out what happened to my second friend.....her sisters ex boyfriend ate her out while she was at his house ooooh god im about to start crying

omg.......

yea shes 13 hes 23...

Statetory rape..........

god i wanna bash dose motha f*ckers

Your friends should get councelling, with a lil research you can find ppl that specialize in that kind of thing. Secondly they should file a complaint, sadly enough it's probably too late already but they should do it anywayz.

Hmm but why are you actualy telling us this Sparrow?

ya what he said:

God a 23 year old raping a 13 year old? That guy was messed up....

*forms mob*

Get him!

I don't think it was rape.. I think it was sexual harrasment, or assault.

The 23 year old one is gonna get charged either way, and could even be labeled a peadophile...

actually, there are many different type of child molestors, and many are not pedophiles.. at least... I think that's what I was told... I can't remember, I'm so tired. Damn finals!

Or labeled as one of my gigantic shotgun pancakes...

No. Peadophele is an adult person who has sexual rellations with children..she is 14 and therefore shes still a child, hes 23 and hes an adult.

To comment on what Rex and some others have said, prolly jokes but still -I never let an opportunity pass-, you CAN NOT take justice into your own hands, It doesn't work that way: your Democratic legal system doesn't work that way.

Vengeance doesn't bring salvation or peace of mind

lets just say look out for your mates at all times cause a lot of guys are just b**tards!!!!!

That sounds terrible sparrow.

BTW, to keep this thread P13 I have slightly edited the first post.

I'd beat the crap out of them if they even tried to touch me!
dont let them think you are weak and always take some pepperspray or a knife or something on the way: remember: you're not gonna use it your just gonna tell them you are when they try to do something to you..
I carry a knife in my sock when I go out sometimes or just a letter opener in my handbag or something...

But both of these girls knew these guys, I doubt they had any reason to expect them to do something like this. More than half of sexual assaults are by people we know.

yeah but if they do something to you you should do something to them... I'd beat the crap out of them anyway
does it really matter if you know the person or not?
when you are sexually abusing people I'd say that was wrong so I'd stand up for myself... wouldn't you if a guy tried to do something to you?

okie if you have to "arm" yourself to go out I think your country is messed up

yes, I would definately defend myself. However, if I was with people I knew and had no reason to not trust them, I wouldn't bring pepper spray with me.
But yes, I would definately fight back. I wouldn't just say no, I would punch, hit, kick, do anything to get out of that situation. I've read too many sad stories to be too scared to not do anything.

kill the ****ed up morons!!!
actually theres a reason the police exsist, u shud tell them, even if ur friends will hate u, itll be only for a little while

thats jus fuucked up...the feds ought to be told and that 23 yr old scum shud get jail, the 14 yr old shud end up in a detention centre...

yea i noticed...its all good i understand why you did

he goes to one of the worst schools in the country....just as bad as one basically



and my second friend talked to her sister and they went "for a walk" and she feels better now.........no news on the first

Something needs to be done...if they do it once, they will do it again...in most cases of sexual assult/rape or the crimes of that nature, the offeners that go to court have offended before...

i know, but i cant really make them do something about it, i mean its up to them....i can call the cops but they have to do the major stuff after all it happened to them and if they wont then nothing can be done.....maybe thats how they want it to be, i dont know....

god i sound so pessimistic!

my first friend just emailed me back this is what she said:

heyy virginia nice song haha you dont have to kill paul just let him be it
really didnt hurt me in any way but thats ok. umm paul is just going to deny it
so it doesnt matter nd im not going to press chargess. then i hav to go to court
nd get tested for shit and its going 2 be annoying. o well talk to you later.

uuummm...oook...but sumth HAS to be done - the guy might think "ive got away with it once,i will again" THEN you know what'll happen!