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Does anyone else here really like their privacy? I know I do - my mother keeps walking into my room without knocking, and I have actually resorted to jamming boxes by my door so she can't get in!

Am I over-reacting, or do you think ((as I do)) that everyone deserves their privacy?

i know i do, i think everyone need their own space every so often.

I hold my privacy very high, not only about my room or what ever, but also stuff that happens: I HATE it when people talk about stuff in my life when I told them to shut up

i hate when ppl are talking about me behind my back

and i;ve already learned members of my family not to enter my room without asking

I personally couldn't care less actually, if people are so fascinated about my life let them talk

However there are times when I wanna be alone, and people just won't **** off

My mum pisses me off tho - I've told her how much it annoys me but she keeps doing it, and she just shouts at me and says she doesn't want to listen to my selfishness! I'm only asking that she knocks and waits for me to open the door!

Oh it's worse because my mother insists on having my room cleaned
So everything gets touched and moved around and ****ed with, and I told her many times not too , but she keeps doing it, and she tries to hide it so i don't notice, but I do every time

I know what you mean! I even offered to do my own room - and she said no because, and I quote, "I couldn't do as good a job"

What she really means is that she doesn't want to lose her oppurtunity to snoop around my room!

Exactly the same thing, like I swear she touches and opens and everything, good thing she doesn't read my books

She wants to see if she can find anything incriminating in there

Leave an empty beer bottle there as a tester

Sauron, I want my bottle back

i hate when my sister come into my room, cause she knows she not spossed to, and then, on top of that, she takes things from out of my room and puts them other places in the house, like in the basement, and then if she finds something of importance, she'll hold it hostage

No chance winkiss

well, I'm sure you can find some use for it still

You would be suprised
*takes bottle to glass place and maked a whole 50 pennies!*

the bottle, its uses and me are all full of surprises

Oh really?

Its strange for me, cuz I'm 23 and I should be out on my own.
But mommy & daddy pay for school, clothes, car and partying expenses.

So I let them invade my privacy!
As long as they let me invade their wallets!

I'm such a whore! winkiss

Yeah, you always let people "invade" you for money.

See, i always thought this was an ongoing joke between BF and Tex

Now im beginning to believe its real fear






























drool

fear <-- That fear smilie is more like an earthquake smilie.
And with that mustache i'd have to say the Great San Francisco Earthquake of 1906!

Thats not a moustache

its a great big cavity!

Beautiful, beautiful. *claps*

I'm very big on my privacy...and my family is very nosy, so it drives me crazy. I tend to keep my bedroom door locked while I'm in there because they haven't yet figured out how to knock before entering. It REALLY bothers me.

Here here! Thank **** for locks on doors! Don't you just hate it when someone walks in when you and your girlfriend are goin at it? Oh, it's never happened to you? ...Me either.

I have a key for my door

I don't, so if someone's really determined they can still get in even if it's locked...but my mom's thinking of letting me put a key lock on my door because I keep going in my room and finding my brother on my computer

Smack Barb then!

My mother and father do the same thing...

Makes me want to move out

Sheesh...you kids....

Just wait until you are parents too and THEN see how you look at it !

I won't hide the fact that I am a parent twice and a grandparent three times. I was even as young as some of you are now.... ( NA...never THAT young... ! ).

Your own space is a very important thing to youngsters so that you can chill and sloth about... fine...but, if you would just tidy up your bedrooms half of the time your parents would never want to or need to go in there.

If your mums and dads can trust you to look after your own space then I see no reason why you should not be able to lock it to make it your own and nobody elses...Just make sure that your mum or dad don't find stuff that they shouldn't when they come for their bi-annual visit !

I do. On a regular basis.

Papamau -- I do keep my room (kind of) clean, and my mom wouldn't clean my room for me anyway, being as I'm 18 I'm supposed to be old enough to take care of myself. She doesn't clean my younger brother or sister's rooms either, it's their responsibility to keep their rooms clean and if they don't they're grounded. And my mom DOES trust me to have a lock on my door, which is why I have one to begin with. She doesn't just barge into my room. It's my siblings who do that, and it really drives me crazy. My mom respects my privacy; my brother and sister don't.

Pap, I do clean my room, and I'm going to Uni in a week - if mum doesn't trust me now, then she's gonna have a nervous breakdown next weekend!

Hah, my mom's been going spazzy about me leaving since last summer...and I'm not even going away until January at the earliest!

ok. the most annoying thing is when they are just entering my room and without anyword turning the hi-fi off

or even worst turning elecricity off

what is their problem?

my mum does that with my dvd player. She says she 'wants to talk' - yeah well, you could've just asked instead of wrenching the socket out!

but seriously, turnoing off electricity in whole house just because i turned it too laud
it's insane

Hate to break it to you kiddies but your parents own the house AND your room not you. Unless one or more of you is making the house payment that is . More than likely the reason they go through your room is because they suspect you have been up to something. I've always had the belief that if you are going to hide something from your parents the LAST place to stash it is in your bedroom. I never went through my daughters room until she started acting seriously weird and then it was a good thing I did because I found out somethings that had I not put a stop to, Id be visiting with her at the cemetary today instead of on the phone. I've said this once awhile back in another thread, your parents dont OWE you anything beyond food, shetler and looking out for your well-being. The youth of today are under the impression that they are on equal ground with their parents and that simply isnt true, IMHO anyway but then Im an old school type of girl.

yeah i know, when i once asked them to let me do what i want, they told me i can always move out

LOL that would have been my reply.......and actually my son did exactly that......couldnt follow the rules of the house, was given a choice follow the rules or leave...he left......found out in about 1 month that he had a better deal at home....and he returned with his tail between his legs. No matter how crappy things are with your parents, unless there is some form of abuse involved, it's always way easier to just ride it out till you get old enough to leave home. Life out of your parents house is expensive....hell I WISH I could go back and love with my parents and not have to pay bills etc. and Im a middle aged woman.

i usually don't have problems with them

only from time to time some misunderstandings happen and i can never win with them, i've already stoped trying.

I don't mind, my parents almost always knock and so does my bro, and they never search through my stuff or clean up the room (the cleaning lady does that but she's still not messing everything up )

and when I want some real privacy I just lock the door

(that's not good though in case of emergency )

Privacy is essential to just about every person in the world. Especially for teenagers. Parents need to learn this.

thats what my mom tells me when i tell her to stop cleaning my bathroom, cause evrytime she does, she takes everything from off the counter and puts it in the cabinets below the sink, but she puts them in weird places so i can never find my contact lense solution on saturdays. what i find wierd is way she wants to clean my bathroom herself, and not make me clean it

BF I agree but teenagers living under their parents roof are not entitled to exclusive privacy....

don't smoke in your room then?

Yes, but every parent should understand that a kid asking them to simply knock on the door before entering the room is just common courtesy. It's not like kids are asking to not enter their room all together. My parents don't have a problem with this. They knock on my door, and they actually wait untill I say "Come in" before they barge in.

Every parent with a good kid should do the same.

Also, it is extremly rude for parents to go through their kids things without telling them and without reason. If you think your kids are doing something wrong, don't sneak into their room while they're out and search through their things. And if you do, don't lie about it and try to hide it, kids always know when parents go through their room. Usually because the room is much more tidy then it was before.

Oh I agree that knocking is completely within the limits of common decency....however I think that a child shouldnt have a lock on their bedroom door and if you have tried finding out whats going on with your kid through talking and have gotten no where then the next logical step is a room search. BUT you need to tell your kid you did it and not lie about it.

See, like I said, my mom lets me have a lock because she does trust me. JP, you know me well enough to know that I am a good kid. The reason I have a lock is to keep my brother and sister out, not my mom. My mom wouldn't go through my stuff anyway because she knows that she wouldn't find anything. She understands that I need my privacy and respects it, it's my siblings that don't.

Sadly not every parent trusts their kids. As a parent I would rather have my kids lose a bit of their privacy to make sure that everything is ok. Sometimes people forget that parents are not there to be friends with their kids. We are there to provide support and guidance even when the child doesn't want it.

I don't think it is privacy you want so much as the respect of being treated like an adult. We parents sometimes have trouble with that. We see our kids through different eyes. In a perfect world parents would treat their kids with that respect. Sadly we do not live in a perfect world. We are also not perfect. I know it can be frustrating when you know you are ready and deserving of something such as the level of privacy you want. For some reason your mother is not ready for that. Hang in there. Give you mother time and good reason to trust you. It will happen.

yeh, but I pay rent now I'm 18

when my parents remember to knock, they open the door at the same time!

but thanks for taking my side! I wish my parents paid attention to people I meet on the internet...

That is all I'm asking for - that they knock and wait for me to open the door before they barge in!

I think you're right there. My brother is nearly 25 and they still treat him like he's 14. I think that even when I've got my own grandchildren my parents will still treat me like a child.

I'm 41. I have all the damn privacy I want. I forgot how being a teenager sucks.....

Gundy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! hows the pitchfork girl?

don't smoke period