Double Standard

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silver_tears
Why is it alright for movies to depict half naked women but not men?
How many films show women half naked, or topless or in bikinis?
And then how many movies show men the same (obviously not in bikinis, not counting Austin Powers stick out tongue)?

Not to mention about men, complaining that movies with guys half naked are gross and disgusting, while females don't complain about movies with girls running around in bikinis?

Why is there such a difference?
Like why does our society not show the same standard for both?

This really bothers me miffed

hh?
if i give my opinion...will you hurt me shock

silver_tears
Oh yes roll eyes (sarcastic)

And why can't men compliment eachother?
Why can women call others of their sex beautiful, pretty, hot, etc. but men can't compliment another male?

§pearhead
because society, on the whole, doesn't accept gay males

silver_tears
Why would it be gay to do so?

I mean if I compliment a girl, people don't assume I'm a lesbian, I'm being polite and friendly, men should do the same.

§pearhead
Right; but guys tend to be harsher on each other, and being "cool" often doesn't mean complimenting one another on how they look with that hairstyle, etc.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not disagreeing with you...just saying what it's like.

hh?
i've seen lot of "non-gay" guyz compliment each other...but not like "you look sexy"

more like "you look good", "you look gangsta" laughing out loud

no expression

Jedi Priestess
I for one dont want to see everyting a man's got up on the big screen. I'd like a little left to the imagination. yes

FeceMan
This is when equality meets reality. smile

Jackie Malfoy
You must have alot on your hand to think about this.When it is reallly not a big deal.JM

silver_tears
I assume you meant alot of time on my hands?

And you are wrong yes
I don't, it's just some people actually use their minds while they do other things yes

And it is actually a big deal.

Jackie Malfoy
How is it a big deal?Please exclaim it to me?Thanks.JM I see nothering wrong with that.I don't even watch movies like that.So I would not care less.JM

silver_tears
You see nothing wrong with people being seperated based on sex then?
So I suppose it's alright for women to make less then men based on the same performance and experience?

And it doesn't matter whether you do watch the movies or not, the fact is it exists.

Jackie Malfoy
Goodnight Silver.Pleasent dreams.JM (Smiles to herself)

silver_tears
Oh they will be, no worries yes

Jackie Malfoy
Now that is spooky!JM (Decides to sleep with her lights on tonight)

silver_tears
I can go to bed with the knowledge I'm not an ignorant idiot happy
That's what makes them pleasant yes

Mr Zero
We can. Some of us even do. I have 2 male friends that always ask me to come along when they go shopping for clothes for my advice.

And if you saw how I dress you would know how pitiful that is, but the point is still valid, dont generalise about my gender please.

silver_tears
Oh forgive me, general statement there...
Why exactly do they ask you to come along then?

dave123
excuse me? men go topless more often than women on TV... look at Arnie in the terminator films stick out tongue but when a chick comes through the teleporter thingy, her hair or some random object covers her up stick out tongue

and i told my friend he was "looking smart" in his suit... and he was.

but if it say "you're looking hot" then it assumes i'm looking at his ass or checking his face out, which would be gay if i purposefully looked.

when women are hot, their breasts are on display, and it hard to NOT notice them stick out tongue

trust me, you'll see more male skin in the average film than female skin, because it's more accepted for men to show off their nipples than women

(except this one lesbian porn film... but thats an exception) stick out tongue

misha
simple - men are sexual pigs

dave123
infact, to promote equalness, everyone that has seen me without a top on, i DEMAND a topless pic of them mad

dave123
^^^ all the girls, that is embarrasment

misha
certainly eek!

dave123
i'm serious (seriously perverted, that is wink )

if silva seriously wants equalness, she'll get her cam out straight away droolio

misha
and i have absolutely no problem with that droolio

dave123
you have no problem posing topless, or you have no problem with silvs topless? stick out tongue

misha
bot of course eek!

dave123
my inbox is waiting then, mish stick out tongue

misha
hold on, hold on roll eyes (sarcastic)

dave123
eek! lucky me

sucker

misha
sucker? confused who?

dave123
anyone that actually posts a naked pic for "gender equality" stick out tongue

misha
im not going to POST it, just email eek!

yerssot
cause men go to movies to see some half naked woman/women and women go to see what the actress is wearing (general statement)


5 shifty


Troy?


General statement
I don't like unnessary nudity in movies... movies should be about the plot and great acting


because society in general still thinks that men are sexual pigs and women are pure and innocent roll eyes (sarcastic)

all general statements...

misha
and theyre not? shocking

yerssot
they are if you take them apart... if you compare them to women, they're perhaps just above average

dave123
i'll be checking it every second eek!

misha
check in 5 cool

misha
then why is there still such thing as kiddie porn, pedophiles, rapists etc!?

yerssot
cause menkind is not made to be correct

and don't think that they are ALL male... yeah, compared there are much more men doing that... but there is no connection between the percentage and being male, women can perhaps hide their collection of porn better... or guys are too ashamed to admit they are raped?

dave123
....still nothing, mish sad

misha
oh come on thats just too stupid!

99% of those assholes are male and you know it!

misha
what, it musntve worked!
ill try again when i get back!

yerssot
I don't have statistics, so I can't agree or disagree... but I do stick to my point:
women (not all of course, just in this example) can perhaps hide their porn better and men are perhaps too ashamed to admit they were raped.

misha
believe what you want erm

yerssot
don't get me wrong, I just have something against women always being depicted as totally innocent and pure while they are not.
there ARE females that have porn collections, there ARE female pedo's and there ARE female rapists.

that's my point I'm trying to make erm

dave123
god damn, this is why gender arguments never end no expression

there are 6 billion people, you can't just group them into 2 groups of "male" and "female" because thats way too vague, and gender is a variable we cant choose....

Alpha Centauri
I don't complain about seeing naked guys or girls in movies. Girls because they're girls and guys because well...why should I complain? I'm not gonna sit there staring at the guy's pieces am I? Guys who are tempted to look are the first ones to complain I've tended to find.

The reason why "Girls" don't complain about naked girls in movies is because from my estimation there are far more females who appreciate the female form than guys who appreciate the guy form.

I'm secure enough in my masculinity to see what women would find attractive about certain guys but I don't squirm at the sight of a naked guy coz I neither find them attractive nor am I insecure.

-AC

Darth Surgent
Males are victims of rape far more frequently than most people are willing to admit/believe.

Mr Zero
Because as fashion impaired as I am, they are far worse. So I go along to tell them the difference between what they look good in and what makes them 100% certain to never have sex again.

fever red
There definitely is an overt display of female bodies in movies/television/advertisements...but recently, the imbalance is being "corrected," as men are persuaded to be insecure and body-conscious, and women to consider an object as somehow more obtainable/desirable than an equal being...
I'm loving it, but trying to resist the reprogramming/redirection of my values.
Try Sex and the City. LOL. The men are always naked, and the camera cuts discreetly from most of the women, popping to a scene of them slipping into a negligee/robe. Of course, Samantha ALWAYS displays her breasts (love the one where she is in the exam room with the robe intentionally reversed so the opening is down the front).
All hail Samantha.

Line
since the beginning of film making (and photography. and painting. and sculpturing. and everything else) women have been the object for the male eye. thus she's been forced into some male idea of what is pleasant to the eye et voila! the half naked, gorgeous looking female movie star was born.
women are now so used to being depicted everywhere, on posters, in films, in art, in commercials, etc. etc., being naked and beautiful that it's become an integrated part of everyday life. men find role models in other men doing sports, politics, killing. women find them in Barbie an claudia schiffer. now suddenly more women go to the cinema and therefore more naked men start appearing. the male eye aren't used to that. so it complains.

about the raping: yes, men fall victims to rapes too. but that doesn't change the fact that the rapist will always be male too. women just aren't equipped to do rapes. they can do other nasty stuff, yes, but never rape.

yerssot
I'm sorry Line but I heavily disagree with you.

About the first part, there are plenty of statues in ancient greece that depict nude and semi-nude males, so you can say that men has been an object for males/females eyes too. But in the middle ages that idea changed due to war; plague; etc. and artists focused back on females, preferably fat ones to express their hope for a better time. So it's more of a history/culture thing then just simply seeing someone as an object. (that is what I understand from your post, please correct me if I'm mistaken?)

secondly... there ARE female rapists, you are very wrong about this. A simply google-search brought this article up from BBC News (UK):
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/uk/1319211.stm
There is even a book available by Moira Lines called "Victim of a female rapist".
This of course doesn't take away that it's a "men's job" sort of speak but that it's not only by men either.

The Omega

lil bitchiness
Agreed very much.

Men will always be rapists - im not trying to be descriminative, but thats a fact - as you said i cannot see how a woman can rape a man. If you are talking about older women raping boys - thats child sexual abuse and although its appaling it is different.

Same goes for domestic violence - 99% of victims of domestic violence are women and children - there are men who are the victims of domestic violence, but that number is so small that it isnt even recorded.

The Omega

Linkalicious
Men that get abused by women don't get fair treatment.

Look at Liza Minellie. She beat her husband to the point of permanent physical damage. And just recently one of her driver's had reported similar physical abuse claims against her.

Is she in jail? no. Did she get arrested? no.

Women get special treatment because they are women. Go ahead...disagree and refute it all you want. It's a fact, women get away with things men can't.

Mr Zero
So If a woman forces a man to engage in sexual activity, even tho its not penetrative sex, its not rape?

Further than that - If a woman forces a man to engage in sexual activity against his will and he becomes hard and she uses it, its not rape?

Your point seems to be, if its not ****ing its not rape, and a woman cant **** a man against his will because he wouldnt be hard.

So - by the same logic - if a woman is being raped and she gets lubricated - its no longer rape.

Much as I respect both you and Omega, you are both way off.

lil bitchiness
And how can a woman 'force' a man into having sex? A man CAN force a woman into having it with or without lubrication.

However you put it - the rape can never be the same - man raping a woman and a supposed woman raping a man can never have the same effect - and i dont think we are way off..im the one claiming it - The Omega clearly stated she doesnt deny it.

Linkalicious
of course this is just speculation....but


couldn't a woman rape a man if she forced him to have sex with her at...say....knife point?

Lord Shadow Z
A woman could easily drug a guy with viagra and "use him" against his will.

lil bitchiness
And I dont think we should be talking about this actually. its way over PG-13.

Editing post.

Linkalicious
I've NEVER made such an absurd comment and I'm sorry that you take every word I say and go over board with it.

Having a knife up against your throat has NOTHING to do with physical strength. The whole purpose of using a weapon is to over-power someone who is physically stronger than you. (someone w/o a weapon)

and that brings up a completely different scenario. What if the female drugs the man, ties him up, and rapes him with a strap-on?

Is that not rape?

lil bitchiness
Yes you're right link. There are women everywhere who walk around town with a strap on and a knife in their purse waiting to kidnap a man (???) and rape him.

Enough about rape now - its crossing the PG-13 rule.

shaber
Silver tears> the male sex drive is stronger therefore likely to be more intimidating. Also men are more aroused by visual stimuli than women are so there is a demand for that sort of thing.

shaber
Yes thumb up

Linkalicious
Write that one down...she admitted I was right.




You said that....not me. I named a hypothetical situation, you...once again...blew it out of proportion.

shaber
There is a way in which a woman can rape a man and even force him to become erect, but it doesn't involve any exchange of bodily fluids.

lil bitchiness
I blew it out of proportion? hah. Have a look, re-read what i wrote - i thought i was clearly being sarcastic - obviously not to everyone.

I said enough of this subject of rape so moving on.

WindDancer
The reason why you see more women on TV or movies half naked or wearing a thin bikini is becuase it helps attracks the male audiences. It helps promotes anything or any type of product. Let's face it, guys like me want more of that. Take a look at the beer commercials. When have you seen a man with no shirt trying to sell a beer? Who really drinks more beer in Sports games or Events? Of course is men (including me) now, do you really think the guys want to see some dude half naked? HELL NO! A big busty woman wearing a thin bikini and smiling is far more appeling than a guy with no t-shirt.

lil bitchiness
Unless they're gay. Then the half naked guy would appeal more.

fever red
I think we've just proved a double standard.

yerssot
TO... I don't know, I (luckily) lack experience in this and I do not have any knowledge about it. All that I know is that there ARE females that do it, so I find Line's post of saying it are ALL males wrong.

I don't say it's of course common, but like you said: rare.


Oh and Link... Naomi Campbell beats up guys too wink

shaber
My post didn't pique anyone's curiousity for some reason!

yerssot
that's cause there is a PG13 rating stick out tongue

shaber
Well I wouldn't inform any woman I met eek!

Linkalicious
I watched the movie "Thirteen"....I'm down with today's youth. yes

they know more than we think....shifty

yerssot
yo yo yo homie! you down wid da flow? stick out tongue

Evy_O
I think male rape is performed by using Viagra ... I had heard that when I was younger, but it's been a long time confused

hmm, well, doesn't bother me none... females themselves WANT such an exposure, why should they complain if they are treated the way they "promote" themselves?

you only get what you give big grin

yerssot
heard that it takes an hour before it works... that's typicly women then... planning everything in great detail laughing out loud

FeceMan
Excellent! Another student of psychology.

What's wrong with talking about rape? It is like talking about murder--both are bad, both exist in this screwed up world, but people are more willing to talk about murder or domestic violence than they are rape. Perhaps it is only me, but I find discussing sexual things not uncomfortable (especially over the Internet), particularly after going through Biology, Human Biology, and learning about the sexual response cycle in AP Psychology.

Oh, and the whole Viagra-rape thing...I was under the impression that Viagra didn't work that way. I'd say more, but that would probably be a violation of the "PG-13" guidelines.

lil bitchiness
The topic of rape, just like the one of suicide is not appropriate on this website - it gets rather controversial - it is not permitted.

FeceMan
It's not? I am not being a smartass here, but is it specifically said that rape and suicide cannot be talked about?

Evy_O
yerss knows the timing stick out tongue

but I'm curious sad

yerssot
I just read it somewhere ... or heard it messed

Evy_O
I actually knew that too messed

Line
the day you stop disagreeing, I'll be very disappointed in you, yerss wink

yes, men have been objects in that sense and still are. the difference is that, as you point out yourself, these sculptures were intended for the male eye. you mention the female eye, but I doubt that, since most greek sculptures are nude. women weren't allowed to watch sports because the participants were naked, so I doubt they were expected to watch the sculptures too. this is pure speculation though, and I expect you to be better informed on this matter than me.
another difference is that the sculptures were made by men for men. they were usually placed in an active position to show strength and speed, where women, who are depicted by men, are usually seen as passive. there's a big difference whether the object is a fantasy made by a person of the opposite sex, or whether it's an object idolizing the traits of the 'ruling majority'.
I agree that it has a lot to do with history and culture and when I said that woman as an object had always existed I was a bit too fast. I meant that women as an object for the male eye has existed since the beginning of patriarchal society. before this society there existed pictures and sculptures of women as active individuals with a function in society that didn't have to do with them just being pleasant to the eye; goddesses, priestesses, etc. but when men became the rulers they were given the 'right' to depict women. they became the artists, painters, writers. women were degraded to passive objects for the male, artistic eye, as well as the male eye of the audience. when a male depict a male, he depicts an equal. that's not the case when he depicts a woman.

rape is forcing another person to have sex. whether this is possible for a woman is highly debated. I don't really think it is. viagra was mentioned on this thread, and maybe this drug has proven a way out for wanna be female rapists. I don't know to be honest. what I do know is that women don't have a dick. that it's ultimately the male who's in control of his own dick and that the woman, should she want to rape him, must sort of 'persuade him' in order to do so. it gets very complicated and very tricky and since rape is a matter of control and anger, I doubt the long process a female rapist must go through in order to force herself upon a man isn't ultimately what she wants.

shaber
Sexual assault doesn't necessarily have to involve a penis.

Note to all UK members: I believe it is still the case that our law doesn't cover the use of objects in sexual assault, for typically it hasn't been updated for centuries.

Line
no, but rape does.

shaber
Eh? Check your dictionary again.

Line
since I don't have one around at the moment, do tell me what your says.

yerssot
lets pray that day will never come wink

I'm sure that I did not intend to say that they were solely for the male eye, I'm sure that at given time periods some females that walked past them enjoyed looking at them too. After all, women enjoy art, no?
(Evy can feel free to correct me on this one) but my understanding was that the women weren't supposed to participate in the Olympics because it was bad. The whole naked idea of yours is false since in 776 BC at the first games, the nude-rule wasn't there yet and a female won a discipline; THAT caused the rule.
and if I'm not mistaken, one got coached by his mom and sis, but don't hold me to that ...
Well, this is all rather vague in my memory (except for the naked-rule since our professor made some jokes about it which I still remember) but then again, if someone knows it better, it's evy smile

I'm not sure that I follow you on which sculptures you mean here... If you look at the sculptures in ancient Greek, you have at the very start of it, called the Archaic period, the art-flow pre-classic which featured what we call the Kouros and the Korei, male and female standing passively. The only "action" in the sculptures came later in more the Hellenistical periods with pieces as the Hermes. But my knowledge on those sculptures is rather limited. I believe you might be referring to The Discus Thrower, which happens to be male for the fact that the sculptor wanted to show perfect lines and movement. The most easiest thing for him to do was to create someone who did sports, which would be male. He had no other choice since there were no females allowed to do this.
That is a difference of interpretation, you say he picked a guy to show it, I say he showed it and had to pick a guy...

Are you sure that women might be more than just a doll before patriarchal society? at the very earliest, archaeologists found sculptures of goddesses (and none were male) with big hips, big breasts and a huge butt (the fertility goddesses). Depending on their own religious believes and IF it were indeed fertility goddesses you are either right or wrong about it. It might be that this could be the very first porno graphical images that mankind made. (or so described in a book I read)

I'm also not very knowledgeable about Chinese history, but I do know that the first warrior ever recorded was female, she had an army of 30 000 men (which is bigger then the army of my country btw) and was feared throughout the country and worshipped by the poor as their savior. It also depends on the time period, closer to home, you had Jean D'Arc, mocked by the English, praised by the poor French, doubted at first by the Dauphin. There are pictures of her where she is an equal and is shown commanding the army and others where she is mocked at. Everything has two sides here... but yes, in general terms speaking you are correct... but then again, I have something against general terms wink

I'm sorry, Line, but why is it to you debatable if a woman can force someone to have sex with her? (if I started the Viagra thing, I know I posted about it, it was intended as a joke btw)
y'know, if you have to get a shot in your arm, the doctor or nurse taps on your vein there, to make it pop right? well, why not do the same with the male genital? (I lack the experience to stand by this of course) but I mean, it's not because you think it's debatable that it doesn't exist as it clearly does, only problem is the lack of records being kept by this.

eleveninches
I think its a double standard how men can have sex with woman without being called a lesbien, but a woman cant do that without being called a lesbien

Line
if the prayers are directed at you, we'll be quite sure they're heard wink
(sorry. someone just unplugged the computer when I was half way through my reply, so please bare with me - I'm a bit riled miffed )

not at all. as a matter of fact, you were stating just the opposite. I was the one questioning whether they were indeed intended for the female eye, since women weren't allowed to watch the sports events with all the lovely, naked men (even though this nude-rule didn't exist right from the beginning, it was still, if I understand your post correctly, made to avoid women participating in, and watching the sports events, which indicates a norm that women weren't allowed to behold the wonderful, male nude. whether this was true with regards to the sculptures, I don't know. and yes, women like arts, but in a patriarchal society, and this is what I'm getting at with all this, men are the one's providing the art, that is, the art is their interpretation of everything, including gender. to a man in a patriarchal society, women symbolizes 'otherness'. she's defined by 'everything that is not male', and since what is regarded male in such a society has to do with physical strength and speed, activity, the ability to take action and be in control, the woman must necessarily be the exact opposite: passive, inactive. this is where she's forced into the part of the inactive object in relation to the active male subject. arh, heck, I need to burst this ... ehm ... what's the word ... this : ) bursted.
with all of this I'm not intending to say that men are not made to be objects. the sculptures I had in mind in my previous post were those you call hellenistic ( I'd forgotten that word completely and now welcome it back. thanks wink ) the ones depicting men from greek mythology as well as men doing sports. these are examples of men as objects to other men's gaze. they're male fantasies of the male body, the patriarchal ideal, as well as the female sculptures represent the ideal woman in a patriarchal view.
I agree that he had to pick a guy to show agility and strength. the greeks were at that time fascinated by the male body, because it made it possible to depict these abilities. but this also suggests a norm concerning men as active and strong. women weren't allowed to do sports, therefore they couldn't develop muscular bodies. again: the male norms, the male eye, decided what the genders were to look like.

concerning the dolls: adult play things or religious remedies, who knows? maybe there isn't even such a big difference after all. look at the paintings in some of our churches from the middle ages; they're quite pornographic.
anyways, my point with these small sculptures (and paintings for that matter), should they be more than butt, breast and vagina, was that they suggest women as being active and having a certain status in society. this means that they're not just objects, but part of the 'subjects' having created these objects. therefore it is not only the male eye that has created them, but the female too.

but look at these female warriors; are they real women? or male fantasies? look at kill bill for example. a butt kicking woman, who, wearing lovely, tight fitted clothes, swings a sword (freud would have been so happy) at everything, as well as spanks little boys over her knee and in the end is 'castrated', made 'not dangerous' and handed over to the role as mummy. she's, in short, a very male fantasy. I believe that jean d'arch to some extend fulfills the same role as a dangerous fantasy, made undangerous (and thus feminine) in the end. I believe that is one of the reasons, her story's been so successful; beautiful, feminine, dangerous. definitely a male fantasy. definitely an object for the male fantasy (and with the film, to the male eye too).
to sum it up: this thread's about women in modern films, wearing next to nothing. women being young and beautiful, whereas men are allowed to be old and ugly. it doesn't matter, course their sex appeal lies in their ability to be the active 'subject'. the woman, on the other hand, is still not regarded entirely as a subject. she's still not judged on her abilities. beauty is still a must for her, simply because she's still regarded as a an object.

but you don't know a way to make the penis 'pop', do you? still, you say that men being raped by women isn't impossible and that it's only because it's not been sufficiently reported that so little attention is drawn to it? if I understood this correctly, then we're basically on the same, debatable side. I'm not gonna dispute that it can happen. I just don't think it's very likely, and I just don't think it's very attractive to a woman to do so. as I said; rape is about gaining power over some other being, about anger and loads and loads of aggression and frustration. the process of first having to 'awaken' the penis's just not what I think a thoroughly aggressive and angry woman would want to go through. this said, I'm not denying that it might happen. I honestly just don't know how.

WindDancer
I want to address this because I like some points Line made here. I think that there is a need to separate two things here. One is the impression of a female who is very Amazonean and the woman that is heroic (a heroine). Now, as a guy I do agree that the bride (Kill Bill) is indeed the product of a Fantasy. But the fact is that the characters weren't all created by a male (Tarantino) but were the product of a female (Uma Thurman). The Amazonean IMO isn't heroic but rather more brutish and somewhat clumsy. Unlike the counterpart of a heroine who is more honorable and more appealing.

From a male perspective I see the character of the bride as bipolar personfication of a female that is commonly refer in Fairy tales. Observe that the female in fairy tales is illustrated always as princess or dansels in distress waiting for the male to come to the rescue (trust me I'm not trying to be shallow here) in a way it represents the female to be weak. That's not the case with fantasies like Kill Bill. The story illustrates that female do have a violent side in them. Which is perfectly fine, everyone has a violent side to them. In certain fairy tales there is a huge injustice towards the females. But unfortunally that injustice has been ignore with movies like Cinderella or Snow White. The fantasy in those stories is always taken as a good thing. Which in my view is totally wrong. I've always have dislike the idea of a parent calling her daughter a "princess" or as a "sweet flower" women are much more than that. For me a man and a women can be equally violent and there really is no double standard when it comes to violence.

yerssot
I knew it! I'm a god! hail me, praise me, love me! big grin

Where do you get that women weren't allowed to see sports? I'm not sure if they were or weren't so I rather want to get some certainty before going further in this. My idea would be that they were, but that's just an assumption.
The nude-rule was made to avoid women participating, but I do not understand why you think that would also automatically mean they weren't allowed to watch it. Quite weird rule if there are dozens of statues that feature naked men...
Now you're making the assumption that all the statues were made by males, that's a very general statement and even history can't give a conclusive answer cause there can always be a female that goes by unrecorded, so saying that cause it's a patriarchal society automatically means that the creators are males is a bit too hasty.
(then there is a part I don't follow... but you go right over to a conclusion so I'll start there again)
well, what else can they show in those statues besides their gods and men doing sports? A guy saying a poem? A woman behind the kitchen sink? At that time there isn't much they can make besides those... do you have any ideas to what they can make?
I don't follow what you mean there... even up till now in ads we go on about the perfect male body (i.e. mine wink) and the perfect female body (i.e. Adriana Lima). They are there to make us longue for a better body and to feel better about others cause we have the looks.
Does this all automatically mean that it's all in the male's eye? On what do you base yourself to say it? Even now females have other females as idols and examples, what is stopping the idea that that also happened in ancient Greece? We can't know for sure of course, but why not?
I think you generalise again here... the women weren't allowed to participate in the Olympic games, that doesn't mean they were bound and gagged at home when the husband left the home and weren't allowed to move more than umtheen meters per day. It DOES mean however, that they would never get that one top spot that would ensure fame for them: the games. And it is because that they don't get that high that they are also not interesting enough to depict in sculptures. If you wanted to get somewhere, want to get fame, there was only one thing: win the games.
Here you can see that double standard then though, that to get on the sculptures you have to be famous/perfect... and for perfect it is sport related, ... famous too... and both are male.

I'm sorry, but the last time I checked the paintings in my church, they were about the crucification of christ, ... can you show me examples? do you mean pieta's? cause normally in the middle ages they were strictly religious and besides a breast here and there, it would be pretty much covered up messed
yeah, early societies had the woman as the leader since they were the one giving birth and thus creating life. That changed when societies clashed and had to fight for territory, where the female would be inadequate as leader and warrior (with exceptions of course) so the male took over and thus the female was brought back from very high on the ladder to very low because now war was important.

I can assure you that there is no tempering with the proof that there were female warriors. They are written down in official notulas, and knowing male pride it is a great insult that their enemy they can't beat is female and they DIDN'T change it when they had the chance, meaning those we know have to be the truth.
I am strictly referring to history here, Line, not Kill Bill... unfortunately I can't much comment on it since I haven't seen the movie(s). From your description there I can indeed agree with the idea that it's purely a male fantasy... could have been a male in the role but then it wasn't that fun I take. So yes, but that's modern society, there is a difference between the present and the past.
I really don't understand why you think Jean D'Arc is a male fantasy! If you are lead by the movie featuring Milla Jovovich (sp, the one with the mighty blue eyes), I suggest you read a good (historical) biography about Jean, so that you know "the truth" about her life. And when you read it, you'll see there is nothing "male fantasy" about it because it's the simple truth: a farmer girl became a general but got betrayed.
Can you expand on this further in your next post, cause I'm at a lost here...

It's a bit tricky if we go from ancient Greece over modern movies to historical female figures so, forgive me if I'm mixing things up here. But it is that I'm not always sure where one point ends and another starts messed
But things are changing in the modern movie... you have people as Bloom (shivers), Pitt, Depp, DiCaprio, Law, Farrell, ... coming up and they are considered to some as an object too cause of their figure.
Females, more and more, get their wages pulled up to that of males (isn't Julie Andrews the highest payed in hollywood now?), they get more leading roles (Kill Bill is of course debatable) and get more respect. Hollywood is still a men's world but luckily changes.

It's not cause I lack the knowledge about how a rape by a female goes that I'm wrong!
But yes, I do say it isn't impossible for a female to rape someone, ther ARE reports but since it's mostly a "male business", there is very little info to find on this. I'm not saying it IS likely that a woman does it. From the X million females in your country, how many are rapists? not much, so it's also very unlikely that you meet one or that it's likely to happen... except when one goes on a rampage of course.
How do you mean it's not very attractive to a woman to do so? You think a rapist gives a damn about what others thing of him/her? they just go along with their business and that's it.
But as you say at the end: you don't have an idea how, me neither... I don't know how a rape exactly happens (from the psychological level) and such but making the male genital erect isn't really that difficult... as Gundark once said: "teenage boys hump everything in sight" (mind you, this is grossly taken out of context, the original post was about dating I think)...

(can't include your reply, Line, too much characters in the post)

Line
yerssot:
don't get carried away, it was a highly theoretical sentence wink

as I mentioned on msn, I think we're misunderstanding each other and talking past each other. I'll try to be more clear in this post, though it's getting more and more difficult.

On the sports matter: I was taught about the olympics in high school and was told that women weren't allowed to watch it because of all the naked men. but that's some time ago now and I may be wrong.
the 'naked' statues have probably been at display at sports arenas, political houses and other kinds of publical places where women weren't allowed to come. this is an assumption, though, not a historical fact I've been introduced to.
anyways: my point was actually just to demonstrate that the ancient greek society was patriarchal to the finger tips. that women weren't expected to participate in male activities, which were much more active than the ones expected of the women.
that leads me to the sex of the sculpturer: no, I don't have any proof that all of these were indeed men. considering the fact that ancient greece WERE very patriarchal does make it natural to assume this, though. women weren't allowed to participate in all the official stuff. they belonged entirely to the home-sphere. if they were to sculpt, they'd have to go out, get a job (and a very physical one at that). that would mean noone to look after the children, the house, the cooking (except maybe some slaves or servants.) she wouldn't, in other words, be capable of fulfilling the role of a woman. she'd have moved in on the role of a man, thus making her unfeminine and most likely unattractive as wife. then she may not get married at all, and this way loose her only way of fulfilling the expectations of her sex: she'd be childless, husbandless, and since the wife was the man's property, also loose quite some rights. besides this, I doubt that women were allowed to be trained as sculpturers at all. all in all, what I'm trying to get at: ancient greece was a patriarchal society, where specific things were expected from both genders. there might have been some female artists, I can't say there weren't for sure, but I doubt they were anything but the exception proving the rule.

was it the part about 'otherness' you didn't understand?

no, they couldn't (wouldn't) depict anything but these things, and that's my point exactly, and that's were the little female goddess statues/dolls we touched upon in the previous posts enter the picture. they were (most likely) products of a matriarchal society, were women were depicted as active subjects, not just passive objects. they had a function. women in ancient greece didn't have a function. at least not one that was accepted and appreciated as being important and valuable. neither were poets, as the written word in ancient greece was frowned upon. what was worshipped and accepted was the physical, active, strong male body. my point was, as stated above, that ancient greece was a patriarchal society favouring active men. when women were depicted, they were depicted as victims, passive or sexually dangerous and attractive: male fantasies.

our present day society is a patriarchal society. not as bad as in ancient greece, and it's slowly moving towards a more equal society, but it's nonetheless stil based on patriarchal norms and values. so yes, we do encounter lovely male bodies, such as yours ( thank god for your generosity wink ), but the naked, female body is the one we encounter the most. in this country, there's just been a gigantic, male roar, because some big posters featuring a naked male was hung all over town. in the end, the manufacturers had to take it down, course the men just couldn't handle being 'made into sexual objects'. strangely enough, noone mentioned the equally naked woman hanging on all the other posters, advertising for the same product. we've simply become used to the naked, female body. this body's become the 'property', so to say, of the street, the public forum. it no longer indicates a 'subject', but an object. therefore, it's not harmful, it's not dangerous, it doesn't attack any society standards, as does the naked male body.
this is one of my basis-es for saying that the female body's become the object for the male eye. also, if you see in which contexts the naked, female body appears, and how it's photographed/filmed/painted/etc., you'll see that most of the time it's made to be appealing to the male, heterosexual majority. yes, women find role models in these women, course that's the role models a patriarchal society provides them with. they learn to see themselves through the male eye. look at all the little girls wearing thongs and skimpy, little skirts. that's not themselves looking at their own bodies from a female perspective. that's themselves looking at their bodies from a male perspective.

I think I already answered the thing about the women in greek society above ( and yes, I do believe they were bound and gagged at home, but I don't know enough about ancient greek society to say so for sure.) if you don't think I've answered it thoroughly, beat me over the head with the questions again and I'll make another try.

if I get the time, I'll look for some pictures on the net for you. what I'm talking about are the rather gruelling pictures of the tortured in hell. there are some rather sadistic scenes, featuring witches having sex with demons. some of these were painted over though.

indeed. many societies used to be matriarchal. my points only apply to the patriarchal societies.

I'm not disputing that there have been female warriors. actually, I'm quite certain there have been.

I jumped to kill bill without explaining why, which wasn't very clever of me. what I meant was: yes, most tales about female warriors have been told and retold and retold and rewritten, to fit the present day society they're told in. yes, I do believe that the present day image of jean d'arch is a very male fantasy. she's no longer seen as merely a historical woman, but as a legend, a myth. myths only live as long as they're relevant to present day society. yes, I can find the hard, naked facts on jean d'arch and her life in a history book and that's all good and fine. but jean d'arch, as she lives out side the history books, is a myth, a tale, a story, told by men. how we view her was expressed very well in the film ( I'm afraid I didn't watch it, so I can't go into details.) the pictures I saw of milla in this role, fitted the idea of a dangerous, phallic woman. beautiful, with open mouth, very feminine, and still very masculine. a fantasy. this is where kill bill enters the picture: both present day idea of jean d'arch and the present day heroine, black mamba, are male fantasies. the only difference is that jean d'arch actually existed.

yes, hollywoods's changing. as the patriarchal structures of society starts changing, women ( and homosexuals for that matter) get to make demands too. and what they want (or think they want. this may just be a taking over of the male ideas of sex. and then it may not, I don't know) is more good looking, sexy, naked men. so hollywood, because women now have the money and the time to go to the cinema, needs to cope with this.
still. even though good looking men are starting to pop up everywhere, there are still different ideas of when men and women are sexy. men don't HAVE to be good looking to be sexy. you'll find loads of elderly, ugly men, who are playng the main character in a film and still being surrounded by gorgeous women, simply because men are still judged on their actions and capabilities. they are active subjects. women, on the other hand, MUST be beautiful, no matter how active they are. they are, therefore, more 'objectified' because their appearance comes before their actions.

no, and if that was how I articulated myself, I'm sorry. what I meant was that because you do not know how it should be done, but still think it could happen, we're basically on the same side.
you misunderstood my use od the word 'attractive'. what I meant by it was that it's just not very desirable for a woman in the sense that, as I've stated before, a rape is about controlling and getting rid of frustrations and anger. an angry woman would not want to go through a long process of 'persuading' the penis. she'd act in rage. men can rape when in rage. women can't, cause they're dependable on the man to have an erection. he's not very likely to have this with a raging woman scratching his face and stabbing him. that's what I meant by it.

Line
hello, winddancer! and welcome to the thread of the long posts wink
my head's still buzzing from the long reply to yerssot, but you're touching on a subject I find quite interesting, so I'll try and write a reply more or less decipherable to human eyes:

concerning kill bill: I could have chosen a better film as an example, simply because it's so self conscious and completely aware that it's just that: a film. this is what create the, at times, ironical distance to the characters we feel when watching it. the bride is a mixture of many types of characters; samurai fighter, kung fu fighter, female victim, femme fatale, helpless woman, etc, etc, and I have no doubts tarantino intended this and were very very aware of these different ways of viewing a female heroine when creating the film. no doubts thurman were too. in that sense, this film both makes fun of and uses the different weaknesses and strengths of the female heroine and therefore also makes fun of and uses the weaknesses and streangths of the phallic female of the male fantasy.
still I chose this as an example, simply because I still think the bride, in spite of the ironical distance, embodies a male fantasy. you write that she's not purely the creation of tarantiono. I'm not into the 'making off the movie', so I'll just take your word for it. but as I stated somewhere in my reply to yerssot, the male fantasy doesn't have to be carried out by a male. it's a fantasy that survives in the very structures of society and is therefore accepted and adapted by women too. that thurman had a part of creating the bride doesn't therefore necessarily stand as a guarantee that the male fantasy is held back and mixed with a female one.

when it comes to your definition of amazon women and heroines, do you then base it on films? in that case I'm not quite sure whether I agree; I think you'll find plenty of clumsy, aggressive women, who are none the less seen as being honorable and the fighters for a good cause.

I'm not entirely sure I understand what you wrote on the fairy tales and the fantasies. is it that kill bill's the expression of a male fantasy originating from another male fantasy of the helpless woman?

I agree that both genders have a violent side to them, but I don't think that they're equally violent. men are physically bigger and stronger than women. they're also the ones you most often see getting into fights. in the jails you're more likely to find men having done violent crimes than women. the statistics will show that far more men than women commit murder.
this may all be because of the expectations from society; men are strong and aggressive, women are caring and kind. it has no doubt played a part in the shaping of the way we act. still, men are build to fight each other, women aren't. I do think, though I have no scientific journals to back me up on this, that violence is a male way of communication and a more natural part of men than women. this is what makes female heriones so damn fascinating; they move in on what's typically thought of as the man's domain.

WindDancer
Hello, Line! I'm glad you took the time to read and reply. smile

The reason I quote you on that post is because you'd touch on a subject that kinda drew my attention. You mention the male fantasy doesn't have to be carry out by the male it can come from a woman, but it doesn't guarantee that the male fantasy is held back and is mixed with a female one. To that I say yes and no. Becuase as I mention before I feel that both males and females are equally violent. Now, of course there are exeptions to the my view. Certain people use violence when necessary and that is where things get split.


Yes, let me explain. The term amazonean women is use here to illustrated women that were involved in wars in ancient times. Whether they existed or not they must have been as brutish and bulkie as the males. After all were are talking about people that would engage in barbaric confrotations that didn't held any respect for either gender. For them whether the warrior was male of female it didn't matter. What matter was the opponent carried a sword to kill.

The connection I'm trying to make is that Kill Bill is what a true fairy tale should be. Is violent, aggresive, and has certain dialogues which gives more indepth into the characters. That's what Fantasy is about. Fairy Tales should be raw and not cute and furry like Disney transform them. Women aren't Princess or helpless Damsels. They are agresive and far more violent than males when place in a predicament.



I tend to think that females are far more violent than males. Why? Because women despite the fact that they are smaller than males, a women can take more pain than a male. In no way I want to be sexist, but in my view women can be as violent as man and even more agressive than a man. I base my judgement on certain things I've observe in bootleg videos of fight clubs. The males in those videos are not as vicious in a fight as the females fighting each other. I know is kinda shallow, but when women fight each other they could be extremely vicious.

Line
seems like we've found a common interest smile

I don't think that violence is what characterizes a male fantasy alone. violence can be depicted very realistically and in a way that a male would not find attractive. e.g. the violence of, let's say, dolores clairborne. to create a male fantasy you'll need more than just violence, you'd need sex too. it's when the combination 'beautiful woman/bad-ass violence' occurs that a male fantasy is born. what I'm trying to get at is that yes, women can be very violent, but that doesn't guarantee a male fantasy or that men'll find it attractive. it can be too horrible/ugly/realistic and thus not appeal to the sex drive at all.

amazons may have existed, and if they have, I'm sure they were brutish and bulky as you call them. the amazons living in our stories and myths aren't, though. there exists greek paintings of these. one of the most famous ones is painted on an amphora of some sort, and shows a battle scene between amazons and male warriors. the amazons in this picture have bared their breasts and lie helplessly in front of the males, who crush their phallic weapons. the stories also have it, that amazons cut off their breasts and that their queen slept with alexander the great. all stories and pictures focusing on the femininity and sexuality of the amazons. the amazons are therefore too, IMO, very male fantasies, involving semi-naked women, sex and violence. not bulky bodies and brutish behavior.
but ... this really wasn't your point, was it? I got carried away. you used the term amazon to differ a certain kind of heroine from another, didn't you? or did I misunderstand that part of your post?

the original fairy tales weren't cute and furry. on the contrary, they were quite violent. take some of the brothers Grimm tales, they're basically all about blood and violence. even women are in these tales often quite strong, cunning and even violent. disney's versions of these tales are altered quite a lot.
I'm not sure I agree on your definition of a fantasy. I don't think it needs good dialogue and deep characters. a fantasy, IMO, is concerned with our id, our subconsciousness and drives, which is why I find the old fairy tales to be quite capable of carrying the label 'fantasies'. kill bill is a fantasy in it's appealing to the male, sexual drives. it's a modern story in it's description of the rest of the characters' psyche, that is the other parts of the ego, not exclusively the id.

I'm afraid you'll have to explain to me what a bootleg video is embarrasment ... as well as fight clubs ...
I've never heard that women were capable of taking more pain than men. I'd say it's very individual how much pain a person can take, but I might be very wrong on this since it's not a sucject I've come across before.
still, I don't see why the fact that a woman can take more pain than a man would make her more violent. even though you can stand the pain doesn't make it something nice you'd like to go out and get some more of. also, wanting to avoid pain should be an even better persuasion to avoid getting hurt and thus increase the fighter's fighting back.
how do you judge this viciousness? I think that we tend to label female violence as more vicious because it simply strikes us as more unnatural. what the bride does wouldn't be particularly vicious was it done by a man. he'd just copy what thousands of men have done in the films before him. but as soon as it's a woman who swings the sword it becomes much more malicious, simply because we connect women with kindness and tenderness. when she fights, it strikes us as unnatural, and what isn't natural is mostly considered cruel.

shaber
How do you not know that women have a higher pain threshold? It's pretty obvious.

Line
well, apparently not. and since you're making statements you're not quite certain of yourself, please don't give yourself the right to state what's obvious and what isn't. with this, I mean your post on rape not necessarily involving a penis. I followed your advice, found an 'oxford advanced learner's dictionary' and looked it up:

rape: to force sb to have sex when they do not want to.

sex: sexual intercourse, intercourse: the action of a man inserting his penis into a woman's vagina. (...)

oh dear. the penis was needed afterall.

shaber
All recorded cases of male on male rape had better be redefined then as a vagina is needed roll eyes (sarcastic)

lil bitchiness
Did I not say there will be no subject of rape? Please stop it or i will close this thread!

Line
you want to stick to the strict meanings of the words (as your dictionary-advice suggest ), then yes, they would.

since we're not allowed to discuss rape in this thread, feel free to pm me should you want to continue.

MC Mike
Wow. A girl that lets the men take over her. Marry Bush!

yerssot
Line, if we do drop the greece-thing... what is left then to discuss since we agree on the rest wink

jumping
hi truthfully i do not see the need to have nudity at all be it male or female as it will not push the idea of the film

FeceMan
No, marry me! big grin

But first, become literate.

BackFire
Because men are ugly and boring, women are pretty and fun to look at, they have curves and other fun goodies, while men just have nothing.

Really though, men are often shown half naked, it's just not a big deal because when a man is half naked they're still covering up the only taboo section of their body, as opposed to a woman who has 2 taboo parts of their bodies, so when we see a woman wearing just a thong it's much more exciting and daring then a man who's wearing a thong, because he's still covering up his dick.

rajah kalantiaw
yeah. man boobs are way down the oogling list.

Line
we could discuss what all this agreeing leads us too - it's quite new to me wink

yerssot
well, I think PMs will resort this wink

Cipher
Most of the ads with scantily-clad women are directed at men.........

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