Loved and Lost?

Is there any truth to the cliche "Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all?".

I'm curious as to your thoughts coz I can see both sides.

-AC

never given it any thoughts

Me either but I would say it is better sometimes to be loved then not to be loved at all.JM

I'll let you know when it happens...

for the time being, i'd say that it's true.

That avator btw is very distrubing.JM 😘 😆

I can't say that I'd know from experience...but I'd have to say that I'd rather have the experience of being in love with someone, even had it not lasted, than to have never been in love.

It depends on the type of person one is. I am an individual who falls into pensive moods at times, brooding over the bad things that have happened to me. In the end, I feel that it would be better for my heart to remain a stone than to have it come alive and be broken. If one is the type of person who "gets over" conflicts/disappointment easily, then it would be the opposite.

i know from experience that it is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved before.

TIFF!

I'm going to have to go with "to never have loved at all".

Love is a positive.........lost is an equal if not greater negative. to have never loved at all is neither a positive or a negative. You never gained anything.......but you never lost anything either.

analogy:

Is it better to win 1million dollars and lose it all..........or to never have won it at all. I'm going with the second one. There is nothing lost because you don't know what you're missing...........whereas the first one you've not only lost everything you gained but you also lost more.........disappointment added on top of the loss of the original gain.

Winning money isn't the same as having loved someone.

really......

excitement........planning for the future........enjoying your present with hopes of enjoying your future even more.........all to suddenly be taken away from you.........leaving you without the object that first set you on the coarse and also adding sadness and depression on top of it.

gain and loss........no matter what terms you use to apply them to, same exact thing.

Originally posted by Evil Dead
really......

excitement........planning for the future........enjoying your present with hopes of enjoying your future even more.........all to suddenly be taken away from you.........leaving you without the object that first set you on the coarse and also adding sadness and depression on top of it.

gain and loss........no matter what terms you use to apply them to, same exact thing.

I repeat what I said in the emotions thread.
Without pain, happiness is nothing. I would rather live a life with pain and happiness, than just happiness. This is the reason why I think there is an Earth, and people don't just go to heavan.

ok........that is your preference.......

but you do realize that from a logical point of view.......nothing gain/nothing lost is better than gain/greater loss?

1+0 = 1

you didn't get anything......but didn't lose anything.

1+ 1 - 2 = 0

you're worse off than when you started.

Worse end result maybe, but a more interesting life inbetween. IMHO '1' is meaningless unless you have a '2' and a '0' to compare it to.

agreed........but we weren't discussing interesing, we were discussing better.

😉

nah.....really........there is no right answer.......emotion is more than just math and could never truly be represented by numbers. The only way my above example would work is purely based on logic...........and emotion isn't based on logic, usually it's the exact opposite...go figure.

people want to feel at least appreciated some time or another in their lives. even memories are better than having nothing to grasp.

how much is Alpha gonna wallow in his grief over his lost girlfriend!!!!

i felt sorry for ya at first but .... YES!!! it is better to have had your girlfriend in your life for the time you did then to have never met her or loved her at all!!!!!!!

I think all the people we have in our lives we learn things from them that we use later in life.... ( **gag** ...i know) 😘

I will say its better to have loved and lost.... while it can hurt, the memories of good times remain, and all of life is about experiance, and learning. It would be sad to have never loved, even more so if one avoided love for fear of some future loss....

it's easier not to love.

but it is more satisfying to find love

(sowwie about spelling, it's not my day 😖)

it hurts to lose it, but i wouldnt trade the positive memories for anything.

so i say yes, it is better to have loved and lost, at least you'll have experienced it.