I didn't think it was too bad in the 3rd movie. he was telling her (actually didn't say anything, just kissed her) of his own volition, in light of the fact that he had just called it quits in order to go after this girl, and that's why he told her. ('course, 2 minutes later he's back at it cause someone ticked him off by bullet grazing him and swiping his girl, but that's beside the point!) I only saw the fourth movie once, in the theater, unlike most of you people who actually publicly admit to owning copies of it and watching it.
so I don't remember how he was revealed in that one.
second, er....define "revealing"? if he tells one girl he's hot for, that's one thing. but what I didn't care for was in the last spidey movie, hoards of people saw him without the mask. now, bruce wayne (coverboy) is far more instantly recognizable than Peter Parker (who's he?) by the average citizen (i remember the people in the movie commenting, "why, it's just a kid!"
, but either way, lots of people saw the mask off there.
in the end, though, I hear you. I'd like to see a batman movie where the girl DOESN'T find out. will he do it in this next one? stay tuned....