"You can only find happiness when you stop looking for it."

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Great Vengeance
I'd like some opinions on this statement and whether or not you agree with it. Discuss.

MC Mike
I never looked for it and I found it - very much of it indeed.

So you can find it if you don't look, but whether or not changing from searching to awaiting is a good thing... I don't know.

Shakyamunison
Simple, happiness has nothing to do with looking. Happiness is you deciding there has been some criteria met and allowing yourself to be happy. After years of searching I finally figured it out. You can be happy if you wish to be. You can be happy like a madman for no reason what so ever. Now please excuse me, the nurse is almost here with the medicine. eek!

laughing

Wonderer
Yes. Looking for something means desire, and desire means unhappiness.

Fishy
Yet if you are unhappy and sit around doing nothing, you will not become happy.

happiness is a state of mind, you need to become happy to find it, and to become happy or to find it you just need to think happy. If you walk around all day with a forced smile that smile will eventually become real because you simply can not do anything but be happiness. IMO happiness comes to those that take it, simple as that.

Echuu
Originally posted by Shakyamunison
Simple, happiness has nothing to do with looking. Happiness is you deciding there has been some criteria met and allowing yourself to be happy. After years of searching I finally figured it out. You can be happy if you wish to be. You can be happy like a madman for no reason what so ever. Now please excuse me, the nurse is almost here with the medicine. eek!

laughing

Bingo.


I've also found that there is happiness in simplicity. It's interesting to ponder 'life' and so forth but never let it work you up so you get frusterated. Always make an effort to enjoy the simple things in life.

debbiejo
Originally posted by Wonderer
Yes. Looking for something means desire, and desire means unhappiness. Not necessarily....It's just acknowledging that is has always been there and noticing it.

AOR
Originally posted by Great Vengeance
I'd like some opinions on this statement and whether or not you agree with it. Discuss.

Because no one knows what they want, they look for things they think they need but don't. Satisfied for a brief second, only to go back searching. But somethings in life don't need searching, they're already there. Love, joy, happiness. Things people should be looking for, but don't. The epitime of one's life is finding purpose. And finding purpose is indeed finding happiness. However, when one decides to make the search, is clearly looking for something they do not have.-The Don


I agree on the statement...

Lord Follen
i disagree because only the person them selves can know what makes them happy and for some people have to explore their intrests to see what satisfys them.

fini
Happiness is there, you just have to let it happen.

RIght now, I am not happy cause I am making it so.

AOR
Ooo ooo, here's another one....

Happiness is where the heart is.

debbiejo
Oh, that's original. roll eyes (sarcastic)

AOR
Originally posted by debbiejo
Oh, that's original. roll eyes (sarcastic)

Your sarcasm is not wanted here hmh

Shakyamunison
Originally posted by AOR
Your sarcasm is not wanted here hmh

i don't think you have a choice about it. laughing But don't be unhappy. wink

AOR
Originally posted by Shakyamunison
i don't think you have a choice about it. laughing But don't be unhappy. wink

No worries, be happy whistling

terd40
you guys know where i find everything? the last place i look. haha
but i dont know that i'll find happyness under my bed, unless its 20 bucks, a bag of "burning material", or a porno

Shakyamunison
Originally posted by terd40
you guys know where i find everything? the last place i look. haha
but i dont know that i'll find happyness under my bed, unless its 20 bucks, a bag of "burning material", or a porno

That's not happiness, that's happiness substitute. Kind of like fake happiness, like eating sugar for dinner.

soleran30
Actually some people find happiness simply by lookingsmile That is where the happiness lies for them, by looking for it.

Koala MeatPie
I am A Strong Believer of:

"Looking for Heaven? Walk far enough and you will find it"

And I am using "heaven" as a Figurative term here, not an actual physical place.

AOR
Originally posted by soleran30
Actually some people find happiness simply by lookingsmile That is where the happiness lies for them, by looking for it.

finding happiness as a happiness eek!?!?!

you crazy roll eyes (sarcastic)

Atlantis001
Originally posted by Shakyamunison
Simple, happiness has nothing to do with looking. Happiness is you deciding there has been some criteria met and allowing yourself to be happy. After years of searching I finally figured it out. You can be happy if you wish to be. You can be happy like a madman for no reason what so ever. Now please excuse me, the nurse is almost here with the medicine. eek!

laughing

Nice way to define it ! thumb up

debbiejo
Originally posted by Shakyamunison
Simple, happiness has nothing to do with looking. Happiness is you deciding there has been some criteria met and allowing yourself to be happy. After years of searching I finally figured it out. You can be happy if you wish to be. You can be happy like a madman for no reason what so ever. Now please excuse me, the nurse is almost here with the medicine. eek!

laughing laughing out loud

Yep, you can be happy no matter what situation is going in your life, except maybe being tortured or dieing from a flesh wound. But other than that....It's a place you make for yourself....It's in the very present! It helps if you don't go back with regrets...

Roulette
Originally posted by Great Vengeance
I'd like some opinions on this statement and whether or not you agree with it. Discuss.

Hmmm...I agree with it. I have tried to find happiness before, but those times haven't turned out so well for me. When I have least expected it though, happiness has found me. I like thatsmile...unexpected happiness is most enjoyable.

sammii
I find good things happen when i dont expect them
thereforth when im not looking so yes i do agree smile

leonheartmm
there are different kinda of hapiness, some find you, others you make, some you force, some you find, some you discover you already had, some are gifted to you, some you steal/forcibly take, while others are a prize still others run right infront of you with you trying to get to them just being inches away but u never do. you cant define hapiness as a whole.

sailormoon
I don't believe the statement is true for everyone. It is for some people, but that's almost like saying if you're striving to reach your goal, you'll never be happy until you quit, and that's not true.

Quiero Mota
Originally posted by Great Vengeance
I'd like some opinions on this statement and whether or not you agree with it. Discuss.

I agree. Its' kind of like when I lose the remote; whenever I look for it I never find it, and then when it's absolutely the last thing on my mind I stumble upon it.

Janus Marius
More Stoicism. Personally, I agree. I'm very happy with what I do have, and because of that, I'm the happiest I've ever been in my life.

Mindship
Hmm...yes and no.

To this extent it is true: as long as you are searching and desiring it's hard to be happy because you are in an "unsettled" state. If you don't desire, all is settled and well.

On the other hand, one needs to take responsibility for their life and not live with the passive expectation that everything will fall into place. Some things need to be sought, like an education and a job.

Best thing: appreciate what you have (either by working for it, or by chance). Don't swallow the wholesale BS of our Celebrity Garbage Culture which says you are successful only if you are young, rich and famous. Because then, you will always be comparing yourself to the 0.1% of the population which does live like that (and even they are not w/o their problems).

Good health, family, friends, employment. If you have these, you are already living a blessed life.

Storm
You don' t find happiness, you make happiness. You choose happiness.

Janus Marius
There's a balance to be struck, really. You can't be 100% complacent. That is, if you were in a concentration camp or dying trapped underwater, this idea of "Hey, here's happiness" tends to look a little thin. On the other hand, you do have to realize you can be happy with what you already have, or you'll never be happy. Modern day America strongly emphasizes this type of thinking, implanting new desires and needs and wants in potential buyers to fuel the market. You might have a razor, but this one is newer and better. You might have a wonderful wife but with ten thousand dollars she can be new and improved. Etc. etc.

There is no one catch phrase or motto to define the good life, so take it all in moderation.

Tangible God
I've always wondered if the starving Africans truly search for happiness. I'm pretty sure that out of like a billion of 'em, there's gotta be some that don't. And they don't look to happy according to Alex Trebeck.

ROYALGUARD
theres a problem. lets say all the things that makes me happy have been satisfied. then suddenly you want another thing and then satisfy it then want another and another and another... its a vicious cycle of pursuit of happiness/desires.

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