I Need Help . . . And A Lot of It
Three years ago, my kid brother was accidentally killed by my father. He was backing up the truck to talk to my mother, and he ran right into the way. I was there when it happened, and I just can't stop blaming myself for what happened or get it out of my mind. If anyone could please offer advice that would be greatly appreciated.
Re: I Need Help . . . And A Lot of It
Originally posted by psychoboy07
Three years ago, my kid brother was accidentally killed by my father. He was backing up the truck to talk to my mother, and he ran right into the way. I was there when it happened, and I just can't stop blaming myself for what happened or get it out of my mind. If anyone could please offer advice that would be greatly appreciated.
I don't know.
See the movie Ray, you are not alone.
Sorry about that.
Originally posted by psychoboy07
Three years ago, my kid brother was accidentally killed by my father. He was backing up the truck to talk to my mother, and he ran right into the way. I was there when it happened, and I just can't stop blaming myself for what happened or get it out of my mind. If anyone could please offer advice that would be greatly appreciated.
God has a reason for everything, even terrible things.
Sometimes it's hard for us to understand why he lets certain things happen.
I know for sure that you, your dad, and mother will not be the same.
How you change has yet to be seen.
Either way, it was not your fault, don't increase your pain by adding guilt that doesn't need to be there.
I will be praying for you. 🙂
I've know this to happen to someone else also.........The guy was in highschool...It was sad, but it is not your fault....Bad things happen to many people and then they blame themselves...
My Cousin killed herself at age 15 and her parents, her friends, and I blame ourselves.....It took me many years to get over it. People always think there could of been something they could of said or done to change what just is...........
Originally posted by psychoboy07
Thank all of you for your help. I cannot express my gratitude in words, but I still thank you from the bottom of my heart.
The reason I say see the movie Ray, Ray Charles had the same thing happen to him when he was a kid and he blamed himself all of his life. It took him a long time to realize, it wasn't his fault.
Originally posted by sithsaber408
Be part of the solution, not part of the problem.
So, by your logic, the solution to the problem is for this kid to blame god's divine will for the death of his brother?
Why? Was he going to grow up to be a murderer or maybe he was going to talk his girl friend into an abortion someday. Please. If god does (or allows ) everything for a righteous reason, then he's doing a half assed job of it.
Originally posted by sithsaber408is where you should have started and stopped.
it was not your fault, don't increase your pain by adding guilt that doesn't need to be there.
I will be praying for you.
Someone comes onto a movie forum and, after twenty-two posts, tells us that his dad accidently killed his brother, and asks for spiritual/psychological help. On a movie forum. Where he hasn't made any friends, and doesn't know anyone.
...I'm not quite sure what to make of this.
And apropos of nothing, but his first post was about a "sexy" tentacle scene in Pirates of the Carribian, and his post in the Introduction forum summarizes his fetishes (he gets of from looking at pictures of people being eaten--which makes his post in the horror forum asking for a picture of a woman being eaten by a painting suddenly seem a lot more creepy then it would have otherwise).
Sithsaber might say I'm being part of the problem, but I'm extremely suspicious of this person's sincerity.
Originally posted by Gregory
Someone comes onto a movie forum and, after twenty-two posts, tells us that his dad accidently killed his brother, and asks for spiritual/psychological help. On a movie forum. Where he hasn't made any friends, and doesn't know anyone....I'm not quite sure what to make of this.
And apropos of nothing, but his first post was about a "sexy" tentacle scene in Pirates of the Carribian, and his post in the Introduction forum summarizes his fetishes (he gets of from looking at pictures of people being eaten--which makes his post in the horror forum asking for a picture of a woman being eaten by a painting suddenly seem a lot more creepy then it would have otherwise).
Sithsaber might say I'm being part of the problem, but I'm extremely suspicious of this person's sincerity.
Exactly the reason for my initial glib response.
When I posted this thread originally, my intention was and remains to be, to ask for help.
Now, I realize I don't know any of you people. This just makes the information given better, as there will be no bias as to my situation. Secondly, the impact of my brother's death was brought painfully back to the surface recently, and I ask you not to inquire why.
Finally, my other posts have nothing to do with this thread. If you want to argue over my . . . personal interests, send me a PM and we shall gladly do it.
Originally posted by psychoboy07
When I posted this thread originally, my intention was and remains to be, to ask for help.
Now, I realize I don't know any of you people. This just makes the information given better, as there will be no bias as to my situation. Secondly, the impact of my brother's death was brought painfully back to the surface recently, and I ask you not to inquire why.
Finally, my other posts have nothing to do with this thread. If you want to argue over my . . . personal interests, send me a PM and we shall gladly do it.
Don't let people get to you. Arguing is a normal state for them. 😉
Originally posted by Capt_Fantastic
Why? Was he going to grow up to be a murderer or maybe he was going to talk his girl friend into an abortion someday. Please. If god does (or allows ) everything for a righteous reason, then he's doing a half assed job of it.
All God ask is that you stick with him until the end. Look at Job. God took away everything from him and many times Job had chances to go a route that turned away from God. But he didn't. In the end God gave him double of everything that he had tooken away. Sometimes God puts us through trials to make us stronger and teach us things. Besides, they're not our children. They're his. He gives and he takes away.
Re: I Need Help . . . And A Lot of It
Originally posted by psychoboy07
Three years ago, my kid brother was accidentally killed by my father. He was backing up the truck to talk to my mother, and he ran right into the way. I was there when it happened, and I just can't stop blaming myself for what happened or get it out of my mind. If anyone could please offer advice that would be greatly appreciated.
Well.. when people die, and many of my family already died, I think I don´t get too much affected.. not because I don´t care, but just think that these people who died are not suffering.
If death is a bad thing doesn´t matter, dead people does not suffer. When you feel bad for your brothers death think that it is a problem for you only, it makes you feel bad, your brother is not suffering by that.
Sometimes we suffer because others suffer too, but try to think that there is no meaning in feeling bad by this in death. Dead people does not suffer.
Originally posted by Punker69
All God ask is that you stick with him until the end. Look at Job. God took away everything from him and many times Job had chances to go a route that turned away from God. But he didn't. In the end God gave him double of everything that he had tooken away. Sometimes God puts us through trials to make us stronger and teach us things. Besides, they're not our children. They're his. He gives and he takes away.
God may have blessed Job with many more children, but this does not somehow replace the sons and daughters of Job that He killed, just as having another child does not replace a child who has died.