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Why do I get screwed over everytime I'm in one?

My two closest friends are in the most sh*ttiest of relationships. They both constantly fight with their girlfriends, their girlfriends lie to them and they lie to their girlfriends, yet they stay together and are happy like nothing is wrong.

I consider myself one of the nicest guys in the world. Each girlfriend I've had, I've shown them that I really like them and want to be with them, but in the end they always lie to me and end up dumping me. (I've never dumped any girlfriend I've had, that might be bad but I don't like to hurt people.)

I don't mean to b*tch and moan but recently some people that I've never been mean to or hurt the whole time that I've known them have treated me like sh*t and I just think it might be something I do.

It seems like I'm TOO NICE.

Is it bad to be too nice to people you consider important in your life?

Sometimes friends will do that, it's hard but it depends on how bad they are being. They could just be having a bad day or maybe they are kidding around and don't realize you don't get the joke.

I know how you feel, I do lots of nice things for people in my life and they come to expect it and then take it for granted.

Ah, to be happily single

Seriously though, your problem is that girls lie ('girls' here meaning high school and college-age women). They 'say' they want nice guys, but they always go for the booze-riddled 'bad boys' who always walk the fence of legality. They only come to us, the nice guys, after they realize that 'bad boys' aren't nice! and they figure out how hypocritical they are.

So the problem isn't that you're too nice, it's that your past girlfriends are too big of morons to realize what a catch they have/had with you.

Originally posted by Strangelove
Ah, to be happily single

Seriously though, your problem is that girls lie ('girls' here meaning high school and college-age women). They 'say' they want nice guys, but they always go for the booze-riddled 'bad boys' who always walk the fence of legality. They only come to us, the nice guys, after they realize that 'bad boys' aren't nice! and they figure out how hypocritical they are.

So the problem isn't that you're too nice, it's that your past girlfriends are too big of morons to realize what a catch they have/had with you.

I'm single right now, but I've recently been thinking about my past relationships and I just can't come to the answers as to why I get f*cked over when I do everything I can to make sure we stay together.

I just want to say a few things about relationships.

If a relationship doesn't look like it's going to work, it's not going to. If you have to work exceedingly hard, and if the relationship frustrates you, then you're in it for the wrong reasons.

A good relationship should make you happy, not overwhelmed.

If a girl dumps you, you shouldn't fret. You should be enlightened. Because only then do you know for sure that your life with that girl wouldn't have been a happy one.

Originally posted by Dusty
I just want to say a few things about relationships.

If a relationship doesn't look like it's going to work, it's not going to. If you have to work hard, and if the relationship frustrates you, then you're in it for the wrong reasons.

A good relationship should make you happy, not overwhelmed.

If a girl dumps you, you shouldn't fret. You should be enlightened. Because only then do you know for sure that your life with that girl wouldn't have been a happy one.

I see what you're saying Dusty but shouldn't relationships require work?

I never felt overwhelmed in any of my relationships. I just like to make the people around me feel like I want them in my life so I do things like buy little gifts or some flowers once a week, once I get to really know them.

I am glad that I am not in a relationship with any of my past girlfriends, I mean for f*cks sake the one used her mom's cancer as an excuse to tell me she wanted to be alone, then the next day I walked in on her with another guy.

I guess I can say that I am a little worried that if I find another girlfriend anytime soon (which may happen, not too sure what's going to happen) that it will be the same sh*t all over again.

Originally posted by Strangelove
There's a girl at college that I think she and I would be perfect together, we have personalities that really bounce off each other's well, but like I said, she want for the 'bad boy'

she'll come around

Oh yes she will. If not, she'll regret it in the future.

Originally posted by Dusty
Oh yes she will. If not, she'll regret it in the future. I hope so.

I mean, we're great friends, and we already kind of act like a couple, even. Gah!

Originally posted by Strangelove
There's a girl at college that I think she and I would be perfect together, we have personalities that really bounce off each other's well, but like I said, she want for the 'bad boy'

she'll come around

Reminds me of my last girlfriend, I was with her for a year, gave her everything I could, loved her with all my heart, she told me she loved me everyday.

Ended up dumping me for some guy that treated her like shit and cheated on her all the time.

Women are a labyrinth, my friend.

Originally posted by Strangelove
see, that doesn't even make any sense!!!

why are girls so stupid?!?!!

Yes I was so f*cking confused I was at a loss of words when she dumped me.

I can't answer that question.

Originally posted by Strangelove
and women call guys stupid

That's another point Brendan it seems that it's always the guy who cheats and or f*ck's over the girl.

But in my experience it's the other way around.

Originally posted by Dusty
Women are a labyrinth, my friend. A Labrynth of secks?

Originally posted by TheKingofKINGS!
A Labrynth of secks?

If that's what you're looking for.

You shouldn't have to work so hard in a relationship. If you have to constantly work for the other persons approval then they don't care abotu you, they only care about their perfect image of you.

But you do seem like a really nice person and if she can't see that then the fault is in her, not you.

Smack them with your wifebeater13

*offers roland a hug*

but yes. i know the feeling all too well. its my niceness that always seems to have me be the one holding my bleeding heart in my hand.

Originally posted by Punkyhermy
*offers roland a hug*

but yes. i know the feeling all too well. its my niceness that always seems to have me be the one holding my bleeding heart in my hand.

hug

Thank's Punky, I wasn't trying to be all dramatic but I just don't understand what's wrong with people sometimes.

Originally posted by Punkyhermy
i know. i've been here 19 years now and i'm still trying to figure them out.


Same.

Originally posted by Naz
I hate to be the mean one in this thread, but I really do think you can be too nice.
I don't know if this applys to anyone besides me, but it does get really annoying when people forsake their own opinions just to avoid "arguing" or something, all in the name of being nice. Or the agreeing with everything you say to be nice. Or waiting on you hand and foot and making themselves your slave when you would prefer to do something yourself, to be nice.
I'm saying you do that, but that's just my definition of being too nice.

And Strangles, I'm sorry, but you're the best guy friend.

I totally agree with you Naz, I don't think anyone should do that in a relationship. But I do know the difference between being nice and being a puppet for your significant other.

I never turned into a "slave" for my girlfriends and never just totally agreed with them to avoid confrontation.

I meant nice as in you are there for them if they need you. You will do things for them if they ask you, you don't put them down or make fun of their ideas. You buy them a small gift or flowers just because. You don't forget important things and you always stick up for them even if they are totally wrong.

But I act like that and it always blows up in my face.

Originally posted by Naz
See, that's what I, and I've always assumed most people, are looking for.
I guess alot of people are just really really stupid.

I am not generalizing all girls, just the ones I've been around.

It seems to me that girls I've known in my life just stay for certian benefits, whether it be money, partying, etc.

Again I'm talking about girls I have met. Not all girls.

Originally posted by Naz
Mhm, I know girls like that. Not to generalize that particular genre, if you will, of girl, but they always seem to wear lots of make up and tube tops. Just an observation.

Yes. In the summer it gets bad with them, especially at the mall.

Originally posted by LethalFemme
The hamster is called tongue.

I figured that out but I don't like to post the hamster smiley. 13

Originally posted by LethalFemme
You are the dumbest/cutest little shit for that.

Haha guess you're out, stupid blonde13

Originally posted by LethalFemme
I'm a natural brunette.13

Suuure you are....stupid blonde13

Originally posted by LethalFemme
You are the dumbest/cutest little shit for that.

I see why I'm cute. eyes

Am I dumb because I dated blondes instead of brunettes?

Are brunettes more hornier because I will admit I have a high sex drive. 13

Originally posted by LanceWindu
Dark haired women are more sexy anyways.

No offense to any blondes out there.

Haha LF isnt sexy anymore, take that *****13

Oh you cut me deepweep

Originally posted by LethalFemme
Girls period are horny but, don't let loose our secret.secret

My first two girlfriends had to be begged to do any fooling around.

But seriously though are dark haired girls ALWAYS horny, because I can do it anytime and anywhere. 13

Originally posted by LanceWindu
Dark haired women are more sexy anyways.


doped

Originally posted by Naz
yes no 13

what is this trickery? hmm

Originally posted by silver_tears
Guilty blush2

If we only knew each other. weep

Impediment and I have a great relationship. I don't take our relationship for granted and I love every moment that we are together. We have our fights or arguments just like any other couple but it never gets out of hand. We always tend to "make up" one way or the other. There's no such thing as a perfect relationship with no arguing. There's always gonna be something that you're gonna disagree on and its gonna upset the other. No man wants a robot and no woman wants a man who waits on her hand and foot 24/7.

My first relationship sucked majorly. Physical and mental abuse constantly and I couldnt figure out what the hell I was doing wrong. When I met Imp I felt like my life had been completely changed and that I could just be myself.

Originally posted by LethalFemme
Begged you say? Bitches.

Kinda/sorta.blush2

Yeah, but that was when I was 13ish and didn't know what the hell I was doing.

That's good I'll set my sights on finding a horny, brunette nympho. eyes

Originally posted by silver_tears
I'm bad when drunk, I need guy friends around to protect

You mean guy friends to make out with? 13

Originally posted by silver_tears
That is ****ing bullshit and weak.
I am very glad you got out. hug

So am I

I've never been happier

Originally posted by silver_tears
That is ****ing bullshit and weak.
I am very glad you got out. hug



That's what football players are for. 13

Yes Black, my sister was in an abusive relationship so I've seen what happens, it's very good you got out of there. hug

I was a football player. 13

Originally posted by LethalFemme
STFU.

You STFU Im sick of this ****ing bullshit I always get from you ***** you never ****ing stop cant take a ****ing joke always gotta ****ing say shit all the ****ing time

Originally posted by LethalFemme
When you had no game?

She may just find you.13

Yep, when I had no game.

Coming onto me Femme? 13

Originally posted by LethalFemme
You ****ing **** you always pick on me and say shit and then get pissed when I talk back you little muther****ing *****.

Whatever dont ****ing talk to me anymore..

Why all the hate? weep
Why is our family falling apart?!?!

Originally posted by silver_tears
Why all the hate? weep
Why is our family falling apart?!?!

I'm confused too.cry

I blame Michael. disgust

Originally posted by silver_tears
I blame Michael. disgust

I was gonna say the alcohol.ermm

Lethal. eekwave

There are all different type of relationships. I get confused with the friend relationship/family or actual lover

Yes.

No.

?????

I just woke up, did everyone make up yet?

Everyone got killed.

Originally posted by LethalFemme
When did you get it.

Maybe.13

I found it in my sock drawer a couple days ago. 13

Very nice! eyes

Originally posted by LethalFemme
Say what?shock

I sense a disturbance in the force. ermm

i thought girls liked nice guys? confused

I don't know, man. I am a total *******, and I don't get girls either.

Originally posted by KILLA420
i thought girls liked nice guys? confused i thought it was the opposite of that

idk im not "as nice" or a "gentalman" but i still get girls
i thought nice guys have it easier tho

Every guy I've ever dated has cheated on me, physically hurt me, or only wanted to see me naked.
I think I'll switch to woman. :P

Originally posted by Ambience
Every guy I've ever dated has cheated on me, physically hurt me, or only wanted to see me naked.
I think I'll switch to woman. :P

Yeah, though as for seeing you naked. Want to share pics?

Originally posted by Bardock42
Yeah, though as for seeing you naked. Want to share pics?

Maybe

Originally posted by Blanka
i thought it was the opposite of that

I like guys that show a little bit of class.
But honestly, I care about brains more than balls.

Originally posted by Ambience
I like guys that show a little bit of class.
But honestly, I care about brains more than balls.


Class is overrated, get naked and share!

Originally posted by Soleran
Class is overrated, get naked and share!

But are you sure you'd like to se me naked?
I mean, we could just talk insted.
=]

Originally posted by Ambience
But are you sure you'd like to se me naked?
I mean, we could just talk insted.
=]

Sure we can, naked

But I can't predict my actions when I'm around a naked man.
By then I'm usually past all rational thought.
=[

Originally posted by Ambience
But I can't predict my actions when I'm around a naked man.
By then I'm usually past all rational thought.
=
well, there's only one way to find out!

Ok fellas!
I need a volunteer!

pick me

I guess I'll have to if there are no other takers.

Originally posted by Ambience
I guess I'll have to if there are no other takers.

am i not good enough for you?

Not at all. ;D
Come 'ere

*walks over, and drops pants*
whip

Originally posted by Naz
And Strangles, I'm sorry, but you're the best guy friend. Did you mean to say I'm not the best guy friend? Because if you didn't, why did I get a ?

For those of you just tuning in, I'd like to summarize the last few pages...

*flirting between Derek, Irene and LF*
*penis envy from Mist*

and im not in summary? i was posting here, too b!tch

Originally posted by Strangelove
For those of you just tuning in, I'd like to summarize the last few pages...

*flirting between Derek, Irene and LF*
*penis envy from Mist*

I started this thread to ask serious questions.

Then Irene and LF walked in and my ADD kicked in. ermmhappy

Originally posted by Eclipso
You seem like such a nice funny person, maybe what you need is someone mature enough to appreciate those qualities in you.

I am nice and funny but I am weird.

For instance today when I was in the shower I started saying the "Shampoo is betta!" part from Bill Madison.

Stay off the sugarpetpet

Mistisizzle.

Originally posted by Naz
petpet You've mistaken sugar with BJ.

Those are good too. 13

Well, that and the BJs13

You've mistaken me with Barker, I don't give I receive. 13

Originally posted by Strangelove
I'm just joking, buddy

I know

I was just commenting on Femme's and Irene's Godlike beauty. 13

Originally posted by Strangelove
As would I, my friend

You have good taste.