Why do parents hide sex from there kids?

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Blax_Hydralisk
Why do parents go through such great pains to shield there Children from sex, something all Kids will learn about sooner or later, yet most don't try as hard to shield them from violence?

Quiero Mota
Because who wants to see or hear their parents having sex? Common sense.

Rogue Jedi
Originally posted by Quiero Mota
Because who wants to see or hear their parents having sex? Common sense. did you ever walk in on yours?

Quiero Mota
No.

Rogue Jedi
Originally posted by Quiero Mota
No. I did. Fortunately I was too young to know what was going on. "Daddy, what are you doing to mommy?" sad

Alpha Centauri
Originally posted by Quiero Mota
Because who wants to see or hear their parents having sex? Common sense.

I've never known practical demonstrations to play a part in sexual education to be honest.

He's not saying "Why aren't parents f*cking in front of their kids to show 'em how it's done?". He's just asking why parents are so afraid, and I agree. I'm not sure why some parents wince at their youngsters so much as saying the word "Sex".

-AC

Quiero Mota
Originally posted by Alpha Centauri
He's not saying "Why aren't parents f*cking in front of their kids to show 'em how it's done?"

Neither am I.

Originally posted by Alpha Centauri
He's just asking why parents are so afraid, and I agree.

Because you're not a parent.

Originally posted by Alpha Centauri
I'm not sure why some parents wince at their youngsters so much as saying the word "Sex".


Well if the child is 6 then that would make a parent cringe. Hopefully not if they're teenagers or adults.

Sadako of Girth
Adults doing the nasty and kids don't mix.

Alpha Centauri
Originally posted by Quiero Mota
Because you're not a parent.

That has nothing to do with it, if my brother or sister asked me to be the one to tell their kids how it happened, I'd have no problems doing so.

It's all in how you do it.

Originally posted by Quiero Mota
Well if the child is 6 then that would make a parent cringe. Hopefully not if they're teenagers or adults.

By then they already know. There are seven years between six and a teenager.

-AC

Strangelove
I never walked in on my mom and dad, because they split up when I was 8. I did, however, walk in on my dad and his girlfriend (now his wife). Both of whom I despise.

I didn't care. I was about 17.

Storm
6 is the age where children already ask where babies come from. It is important to sit down together and answer the questions by providing information appropriate for your child' s age. Having those talks with your children is an important part of parenting.

Blax_Hydralisk
Originally posted by Quiero Mota
Because you're not a parent.

I don't see how this is relevant...



So it's okay to let your six year old score headshots in Halo 3 but it's not okay to talk to them about sex?

debbiejo
The Aborigines are pretty open to this.

I remember walking in on my parents once when I was very young...I just stood there and... blink

Darkstorm Zero
It's very complicated... I personally found my older brother's porn collection at age 7 so... I got a crash course.

But kids are very... easy to confuse, Naivety plays a big part in how they learn, trial and error, so you don't want to expose them to too many harsh realities early on despite their resiliance.

Oh and Blax, tParents do make sure that their kids understand the difference bitween reaility and fantasy, otherwise they wouldn't even allow them to watch care bears.

debbiejo
I totally agree! It's important not to make it a big deal or an embarrassing thing. It's natural and kids need to view and understand it in that way.

Blax_Hydralisk
Originally posted by Darkstorm Zero

Oh and Blax, Parents do make sure that their kids understand the difference bitween reaility and fantasy, otherwise they wouldn't even allow them to watch care bears.

Some do, many don't. You'd be surprised how many kids (In Japan and China, specifically. )have been killed trying to reenact things from WoW. A lot of kids also die trying to replicate WWE moves.

Darkstorm Zero
Overactive kids that ignore warnings... thats sad, but unless you want to fully endorse broad censorship, there's not really much outsiders can do, it really becomes up to the parent to control what children can see and do, to certain degrees.

SelphieT
From obviously being a kid, I know that kids are curious about themselves, and others. I'm proud of my parents, they let me have a childhood and I wasn't thinking about sex.

Kids are trying to grow up way too fast, having sex when they are only 12 years old or so, and its disgusting. I hope my child will be a lot smarter than the kids I went to school with.

There's so much more to childhood than figuring what your sexual body parts do. You can only have one childhood, and why fill it with sex, when you have the rest of your adult life to worry about that? When my children are teens, you obviously can't hide sex anymore, but... when you are little, you have this certain innocence. I'm glad mine wasn't ruined, and I wouldn't want any other's to be ruined.

Blax_Hydralisk
But at the same time, if a Kid who knows nothing about sex is in an environment where he isn't protected from it that same innocence turns into a curiosity that may or may not be quenched in a positive way. Despite being innocent or not a child should know, imo. My parents never hid sexual stuff from me (They actually had sex on my crib when I was like 7 sick )and so I don't really feel this OMG need to out and get some with some hussie.

SelphieT
Originally posted by Blax_Hydralisk
But at the same time, if a Kid who knows nothing about sex is in an environment where he isn't protected from it that same innocence turns into a curiosity that may or may not be quenched in a positive way. Despite being innocent or not a child should know, imo. My parents never hid sexual stuff from me (They actually had sex on my crib when I was like 7 sick )and so I don't really feel this OMG need to out and get some with some hussie.

That's disgusting........

Well, there are things you can do to advise kids about that kind of stuff, without getting too sexual about it.

Darkstorm Zero
Sex Ed classes would have helped you out Blax.

Blax_Hydralisk
Didn't take sex ed till 5th grade man.

My point was that I'm fine, even though I wasn't shielded from sexual stuff stick out tongue

Darkstorm Zero
But your also saying that not all kids are as resiliant?

And yopu've also compared sex to blood gore and death...

Grinning Goku
Originally posted by Rogue Jedi
I did. Fortunately I was too young to know what was going on. "Daddy, what are you doing to mommy?" sad


Sorry but, laughing laughing laughing

Zeal Ex Nihilo
Originally posted by Sadako of Girth
Adults doing the nasty and kids don't mix.
I think they make a fine blend.

leonheartmm
well because they feal guilty. they have been taught to forcibly seperate sex and innocence. as his been the greater part of society. infact it doesnt have to be that way at all.

even in liberal society{so to speak} sex is associated with violence/illogical deviance/rebellion/patriarchy/maturity etc etc etc. its actually the stigma attached with sex which becomes a self fulfilling prophecy and moulds people's mind to associae such negetive things with sex.

i think as long as two teens are emotionally secure and mature enough to interact with other beings of the opposite sex and still keep their personality around, that sex should be allowed and welcome. 18 is WAYYYYY too old to wait for sex . 15 is good in my oppinion. that is IF we are able to disassociate sexuality with the vileness that plagues society these days.

SelphieT
Originally posted by leonheartmm
well because they feal guilty. they have been taught to forcibly seperate sex and innocence. as his been the greater part of society. infact it doesnt have to be that way at all.

even in liberal society{so to speak} sex is associated with violence/illogical deviance/rebellion/patriarchy/maturity etc etc etc. its actually the stigma attached with sex which becomes a self fulfilling prophecy and moulds people's mind to associae such negetive things with sex.

i think as long as two teens are emotionally secure and mature enough to interact with other beings of the opposite sex and still keep their personality around, that sex should be allowed and welcome. 18 is WAYYYYY too old to wait for sex . 15 is good in my oppinion. that is IF we are able to disassociate sexuality with the vileness that plagues society these days.

I don't know. Thinking of my kid(that may exist someday) having sex at 15 is pretty gross. puke

Kelly_Bean
Originally posted by Blax_Hydralisk
Why do parents go through such great pains to shield there Children from sex, something all Kids will learn about sooner or later, yet most don't try as hard to shield them from violence?
My parents never did...

ADarksideJedi
Originally posted by Blax_Hydralisk
Why do parents go through such great pains to shield there Children from sex, something all Kids will learn about sooner or later, yet most don't try as hard to shield them from violence?

Most parents do not let there kids watch anything violent, so not sure why you would think that, anyway my parents for me wanted to tell me them selves instead of learning from some stranger.
which i find fine. it depends on the parent who are we to say what parents should and should not do?
the goverment does that already for us.jm roll eyes (sarcastic)

Kelly_Bean
I was never restricted from much of anything when I was growing up. I was never banned from watching rated R movies by my parents.

Rogue Jedi
my dad took me to see Scarface when I was in 6th grade.

smoker4
Originally posted by Rogue Jedi
my dad took me to see Scarface when I was in 6th grade.

Is that his nickname for...........



my oldman took me to see rambo when that came out

lord xyz
Originally posted by SelphieT
I don't know. Thinking of my kid(that may exist someday) having sex at 15 is pretty gross. puke You're 15.

Schecter
backfire never hides sex from kids.

SelphieT
Originally posted by lord xyz
You're 15.

No, I'm not happy

SelphieT
Originally posted by Rogue Jedi
my dad took me to see Scarface when I was in 6th grade.

Yeah, I saw Night of the Living Dead, Taxi Driver, all those good gorey violent movies......and look how I came out smile

lord xyz
Originally posted by SelphieT
No, I'm not happy embarrasment

How old are you?

SelphieT
Originally posted by lord xyz
embarrasment

How old are you?

I'm pretty sure my age isn't relevant, but I'm old enough, mature enough, to know I don't want my kid sleeping around at that age. Hopefully they'll make the same decisions I made toward sex then, but I can't make them do what I did. It's their choice.

Bardiel13
Why do parent hide their kids form sex? Because, do you really want your six year old to know these things that early in life? Like many said, kids are easy to confuse and they don't know better. If you tell you elementary-aged kid "A man sticks his penis in a woman's vagina and furiously pumps in and out until he spooges 'sperm' into her and then she gets off (if the job's done right, that is) and her vagina will contract, sucking up that delicious sperm. Then, said sperm goes to the egg, where a baby is conceived.", you really think the kid's gonna go "Okay, thanks for the info, Dad!"
First, his little world of innocence gets shattered, then he decides he should be a big boy and nail Betty in his 3rd Grade class. I think the best time to tell a child where babies come from is about 12 or something, but emphasis, "However, if you think you're going to ever experience the mindblowing bliss of coitus, you better think again" and then get the hedge-clippers.
Yep, I've got my "answers to life" all worked out. If my son asks, "Dad, what comes out of the vagina?" I'll answer with another question, "Pfft, what doesn't come out of the vagina?!" I'll be the bst parent ever!

Alpha Centauri
Originally posted by Bardiel13
Why do parent hide their kids form sex? Because, do you really want your six year old to know these things that early in life? Like many said, kids are easy to confuse and they don't know better. If you tell you elementary-aged kid "A man sticks his penis in a woman's vagina and furiously pumps in and out until he spooges 'sperm' into her and then she gets off (if the job's done right, that is) and her vagina will contract, sucking up that delicious sperm. Then, said sperm goes to the egg, where a baby is conceived.", you really think the kid's gonna go "Okay, thanks for the info, Dad!"
First, his little world of innocence gets shattered, then he decides he should be a big boy and nail Betty in his 3rd Grade class. I think the best time to tell a child where babies come from is about 12 or something, but emphasis, "However, if you think you're going to ever experience the mindblowing bliss of coitus, you better think again" and then get the hedge-clippers.
Yep, I've got my "answers to life" all worked out. If my son asks, "Dad, what comes out of the vagina?" I'll answer with another question, "Pfft, what doesn't come out of the vagina?!" I'll be the bst parent ever!

Or we could not go with scenarios made up in our heads.

Always an option.

-AC

Kelly_Bean
Originally posted by Bardiel13
Why do parent hide their kids form sex? Because, do you really want your six year old to know these things that early in life? Like many said, kids are easy to confuse and they don't know better. If you tell you elementary-aged kid "A man sticks his penis in a woman's vagina and furiously pumps in and out until he spooges 'sperm' into her and then she gets off (if the job's done right, that is) and her vagina will contract, sucking up that delicious sperm. Then, said sperm goes to the egg, where a baby is conceived.", you really think the kid's gonna go "Okay, thanks for the info, Dad!"
First, his little world of innocence gets shattered, then he decides he should be a big boy and nail Betty in his 3rd Grade class. I think the best time to tell a child where babies come from is about 12 or something, but emphasis, "However, if you think you're going to ever experience the mindblowing bliss of coitus, you better think again" and then get the hedge-clippers.
Yep, I've got my "answers to life" all worked out. If my son asks, "Dad, what comes out of the vagina?" I'll answer with another question, "Pfft, what doesn't come out of the vagina?!" I'll be the bst parent ever!
A six year old isn't going to realise what the people are doing. If he/she does, that's got to be one advanced child! It's not like the six year old is going to see something explicit and say "Oh look, Mommy, they're having sex with each other!" Nonetheless, I'm not agreeing that kids should be exposed to it or anything. If exposure happens, it happens, but parents shouldn't go millions of miles out of their way to keep the kid from EVERYTHING.

Alpha Centauri
I don't think he was serious.

-AC

Kelly_Bean
Originally posted by Alpha Centauri
I don't think he was serious.

-AC
Well, if he wasn't this could just be another post to reply to the topic with.

dadudemon
I do not hide the fact that I love my wife from my son. I kiss, hold, and caress her all the time in front of my son. I avoid sexual acts in front of him like boob grabbing but I want him to know that we love each other. I knew at a very young age how babies were made..maybe 5 or 6. I was a little nerd and thirsted after knowledge and read anything and everything. I don't think that most children know about sex that early...probably because I don't think that 5 and 6 years olds are reading encyclopedias at that age either.

What I am saying is, it is a child by child basis. A parent should be vary adaptable to their children.

Also, violence exposure should be on a child by child basis. I wasn't very sensitive to it but my little sisters were. My little sisters would have nightmares after watching violent things so my parents had to throttle the media that they were exposed to. Again, a child by child basis.

Also, let us not forget how violent humans are. Public executions were very common and the whole family attended those types of things. Colosseum anyone? The idea that we should shelter our children from violence is a retarding idea. (Retarding as in inhibitive.) Some things about modern society pisses me off...censorship, despite thousands of years of violence in humanity, is annoying. I am not talking about things having ratings and the booth clerk preventing a 5 year old from buying a ticket to Eyes Wide Shut, I am talking about the 2nd grade teacher who freaks out because a student finds it funny when the little bunny gets eaten by the wolf...etc.

InnerRise
Originally posted by Blax_Hydralisk
Why do parents go through such great pains to shield there Children from sex, something all Kids will learn about sooner or later, yet most don't try as hard to shield them from violence? Because children are easily influenced and aren't at a maturity level that's able to handle such concepts of life.

It's a shame......b/c all one has to do is visit KMC to learn all they need to know about sex........and at such a young age too.

Sad.

Anata wa wakarimasu ka.....

Alpha Centauri
So you influence them to know that just because that's how it works, it's not ok to run off and do it, and the chances that a kid will isn't really that likely at 6.

-AC

InnerRise
No, not likely at the age of 6, which seemingly is the only age a child will ever be.....so no worries.

Anata wa wakarimasu ka.....

botankus
I've walked in on my Mom, my dog, and myself. Not all at once, of course.

dadudemon
Originally posted by botankus
I've walked in on my Mom, my dog, and myself. Not all at once, of course.


Dude, how can you walk in on yourself? confused

Creshosk
When I was three I was watching my neighbor totoro with my parents... there's a scene where the character Mei finds a pond full of tadpoles... I jumped up pointed at the screen and shocked my parents by saying what I thought they were... embarrasment

Violent2Dope
Originally posted by Blax_Hydralisk
Why do parents go through such great pains to shield there Children from sex, something all Kids will learn about sooner or later, yet most don't try as hard to shield them from violence? Because you touch yourself at night.

SelphieT
Originally posted by Creshosk
When I was three I was watching my neighbor totoro with my parents... there's a scene where the character Mei finds a pond full of tadpoles... I jumped up pointed at the screen and shocked my parents by saying what I thought they were... embarrasment

Heeheehee.

I remember when I was little, I always thought boobs were so gross, and so was nudity. I'm a completely different person now.....

Kelly_Bean
I remember when I was young, I don't know what age exactly, my parents and I were in the living room watching one of the Halloween movies (4 or 5) and the sexual scene between the two costumed people in the barn came up and I looked away and my Mom started laughing and she's like "What're you turning your head for? They're not doing anything." , or something along those lines. xd2 I used to get SO embarrassed when a sex/sexual scene would come up and I was sitting with my parents because it was so akward to be watching stuff like that with them. Ugh!

Victor Von Doom
Originally posted by SelphieT
Heeheehee.

I remember when I was little, I always thought boobs were so gross, and so was nudity. I'm a completely different person now.....

Go on.

.:Space Opera:.
I remember when I was a kid, about 4 or 5, my dad asked me if my butthole was bleeding, I said no, and he asked me if he could check.

The rest is history.

Violent2Dope
Originally posted by .messedpace Opera:.
I remember when I was a kid, about 4 or 5, my dad asked me if my butthole was bleeding, I said no, and he asked me if he could check.

The rest is history. *nipples harden*And?

SelphieT
Originally posted by Victor Von Doom
Go on.

Do you........want me.....to go on?

Victor Von Doom
That'd be grand.

Dreamt
Originally posted by lord xyz
embarrasment

How old are you? 16

Devil King
Originally posted by Quiero Mota
Neither am I.



Because you're not a parent.



Well if the child is 6 then that would make a parent cringe. Hopefully not if they're teenagers or adults.

You have a couple of sons, right? How did you approach the subject with them?

My mother, she just left a stack of books on my dresser. We never discussed it. At one point, I think she was about to start a conversation about it, but I wouldn't let it happen. In fact, I used to jerk off to the pictures in those books.

lord xyz
Originally posted by Dreamt
16 Now I get it. That's funny.

Schecter
i learned by watching porn.

lord xyz
Originally posted by Schecter
i learned by watching porn. I just knew after seeing girls naked.

My mind: "So that's what it's for." etc.

Zebedee
I got an errection when I was about 4 or 5 watching a girl on a hair spray advert. I asked my mum why and she told me.

Punkyhermy
because what will they gain from the knowledge of sexual acts at the time anyway?

it is retarded to expose kids so young to concepts so complicated. people and threads like these and the many littering kmc are proof enough of the way the idea of sex facinates and befuddles masses of fully grown sexually active adults. how on earth would a 5 year old make exposure to sex a worthwhile experience?

Blax_Hydralisk
How on Earth would a child make exposure to violence a worthwhile expierence?

"No little Jimmy, you can't watch this part of Starship Troopers, there's sex in it. *Covers Jimmy's eyes* Okay! Now there just fighting, you can look now. "

Alpha Centauri
Originally posted by Punkyhermy
because what will they gain from the knowledge of sexual acts at the time anyway?

it is retarded to expose kids so young to concepts so complicated. people and threads like these and the many littering kmc are proof enough of the way the idea of sex facinates and befuddles masses of fully grown sexually active adults. how on earth would a 5 year old make exposure to sex a worthwhile experience?

It's retarded to assume the point is to make them have a worthwhile experience.

Saying something so simple as "The man puts his ding dong in the woman's...whatever and..." etc is all that's needed. It doesn't need to be graphic, it can even be dulled down, but the jizz-t of it is the same.

If you are gonna suggest people wait until their kids are older they're just gonna learn in school, come home and ask and the parents are gonna get more embarassed.

-AC

Rogue Jedi
Originally posted by Alpha Centauri
It's retarded to assume the point is to make them have a worthwhile experience.

Saying something so simple as "The man puts his ding dong in the woman's...whatever and..." etc is all that's needed. It doesn't need to be graphic, it can even be dulled down, but the jizz-t of it is the same.

If you are gonna suggest people wait until their kids are older they're just gonna learn in school, come home and ask and the parents are gonna get more embarassed.

-AC you said jizz....I love you.

Bardock42
Originally posted by Punkyhermy
because what will they gain from the knowledge of sexual acts at the time anyway?

it is retarded to expose kids so young to concepts so complicated. people and threads like these and the many littering kmc are proof enough of the way the idea of sex facinates and befuddles masses of fully grown sexually active adults. how on earth would a 5 year old make exposure to sex a worthwhile experience? Sex is really not that complicated.

lord xyz
Originally posted by Bardock42
Sex is really not that complicated. depends who you're having it with.

Kumar
Haven't any of you ever listened to Dr. Drew on Love Line on 107.7 the End?
Exposure to either pornography or sex (whether it be in the form of abuse or whitnessing it or whatever) is detrimental to development and leads to many complications in the future. A child isn't at that point in development yet. They are dealing with the simpler parts of growing up (i.e. social skills, vocabulary etc.). Its too much for them to deal with.
Exposing a child to porn at a young age, in many cases is even considered sexual abuse.

lord xyz
Originally posted by Kumar
Haven't any of you ever listened to Dr. Drew on Love Line on 107.7 the End?
Exposure to either pornography or sex (whether it be in the form of abuse or whitnessing it or whatever) is detrimental to development and leads to many complications in the future. A child isn't at that point in development yet. They are dealing with the simpler parts of growing up (i.e. social skills, vocabulary etc.). Its too much for them to deal with.
Exposing a child to porn at a young age, in many cases is even considered sexual abuse. I would disagree, but I'm a pervert, been around sex at a young age and whatnot.

Kumar
then you might have psychological and developmental issues....

how young were you?

lord xyz
Originally posted by Kumar
then you might have psychological and developmental issues....

how young were you? Don't remember. 8 maybe?

Blax_Hydralisk
Originally posted by Kumar
Haven't any of you ever listened to Dr. Drew on Love Line on 107.7 the End?
Exposure to either pornography or sex (whether it be in the form of abuse or whitnessing it or whatever) is detrimental to development and leads to many complications in the future. A child isn't at that point in development yet. They are dealing with the simpler parts of growing up (i.e. social skills, vocabulary etc.). Its too much for them to deal with.
Exposing a child to porn at a young age, in many cases is even considered sexual abuse.

Yes sex is too complaicated for kids.. but headshots certaintly aren't!

Bicnarok

Blax_Hydralisk
Originally posted by Blax_Hydralisk

"No little Jimmy, you can't watch this part of Starship Troopers, there's sex in it. *Covers Jimmy's eyes* Okay! Now there just fighting, you can look now. "

inimalist
Originally posted by Kumar
Haven't any of you ever listened to Dr. Drew on Love Line on 107.7 the End?
Exposure to either pornography or sex (whether it be in the form of abuse or whitnessing it or whatever) is detrimental to development and leads to many complications in the future. A child isn't at that point in development yet. They are dealing with the simpler parts of growing up (i.e. social skills, vocabulary etc.). Its too much for them to deal with.
Exposing a child to porn at a young age, in many cases is even considered sexual abuse.

specifically, what part of the development of social skills and vocabulary are effected by exposure to pornography?

also, why does explaining sex to your children and being open with them about it mean that they will see porn too early?

Originally posted by Blax_Hydralisk
How on Earth would a child make exposure to violence a worthwhile expierence?

"No little Jimmy, you can't watch this part of Starship Troopers, there's sex in it. *Covers Jimmy's eyes* Okay! Now there just fighting, you can look now. "

I agree with your point, though I might add that I don't feel that everything a child does need be a "worthwhile experience"

I am personally more worried about the exposure of children to gore and violence than I am of exposure to sex, but to be frank, I dont worry much about either. The long term relationship between violent and sexual media and any type of behavioural abnormalities (not just measures of aggression in a lab) is tenuious at best.

Blax_Hydralisk
I agree.

Critic
Originally posted by Bardock42
Sex is really not that complicated.

What makes you think Sex isn't complicated?

Afro Cheese
I learned about sex back in elementary school the old fashioned way; by watching the movie "Boyz N Da Hood."

Critic
Originally posted by Afro Cheese
I learned about sex back in elementary school the old fashioned way; by watching the movie "Boyz N Da Hood."

All that movie taught me was that running straight while a gun is pointed at you instead of sideways in an alley is foolish.

InnerRise
Parents hide sex from there kids until the "PROPER" age simply b/c the concept of sex is too mature for them.

Kids don't drive until a certain age....drink til a certain age.....smoke til a certain age......learn about sex until a certain age.

anata wa wakarimasu ka.....

Blax_Hydralisk
And watching people get blown in half in Saw isn't too mature? You're all ignoring my point which is why is it more acceptable in society for kids to be exposed to violence but not sex?

InnerRise
Yes, violence is too mature. Never said it wasn't

I'm just discussing the topic of this thread: "SEX", not violence. Thus why it wasn't included in topics too mature for young children.

Anata wa wakarimasu ka.....

Afro Cheese
Originally posted by Critic
All that movie taught me was that running straight while a gun is pointed at you instead of sideways in an alley is foolish. We were always taught in school that in case of a drive-by shooting always run in a zig zag.

Or maybe that was alligators.

Victor Von Doom
Originally posted by Afro Cheese
We were always taught in school that in case of a drive-by shooting always run in a zig zag.

Or maybe that was alligators.

We usually did maths and that.

Alpha Centauri
Originally posted by InnerRise
Parents hide sex from there kids until the "PROPER" age simply b/c the concept of sex is too mature for them.

Kids don't drive until a certain age....drink til a certain age.....smoke til a certain age......learn about sex until a certain age.

anata wa wakarimasu ka.....

Entirely false.

Kids can't LEGALLY drink or smoke 'til a certain age, they do it anyway and are sometimes no worse off for it.

The reason I didn't go out at 18 and get plastered is because my parents exposed me to alcohol responsibly when I was younger and I learned that it's quite shit and therefore didn't need to.

I was underage, way underage, when I had my first drink.

-AC

InnerRise
Yes, I know people break laws.

The point was they are put there for a reason.

Anata wa wakarimasu ka.....

Alpha Centauri
Originally posted by InnerRise
Yes, I know people break laws.

The point was they are put there for a reason.

Anata wa wakarimasu ka.....

Yeah, and my point was the fact that they are there for a reason doesn't mean everybody should adhere to them, because you can not do so and be fine, and responsible.

That said, your point was void because there's no law stating what ages kids can learn sex at. Parents can teach them whenever they want.

-AC

InnerRise
Umm....Yes...I know parents can teach their kids whenever they want.

Anata wa wakarimasu ka.....

Alpha Centauri
So what was your point in bringing up that there are age laws to when "kids" are able to legally do things? Besides, "They are there for a reason.", which doesn't prove anythng.

-AC

InnerRise
The point was that AGE is a HUGE factor as to when certain things should be exposed to kids..........which is a publicly accepted thing.

Kids having to be certain ages to drink, drive, smoke, vote and all those types of things posing as a prime example.

Anata wa wakarimasu ka.....

Alpha Centauri
Originally posted by InnerRise
The point was that AGE is a HUGE factor as to when certain things should be exposed to kids..........which is a publicly accepted thing.

It's a huge factor to some, not to others. It being accepted by the public makes it no more true.

Originally posted by InnerRise
Kids having to be certain ages to drink, drive, smoke, vote and all those types of things posing as a prime example.

Anata wa wakarimasu ka.....

They're not, though. Because it's at the point now where kids smoke and drink anyway, and those laws honestly might as well not be there. Drinking I can sort of understand, because it makes you drunk and not-lucid, smoking doesn't. Even still, they're ignored and it proves that it's not an example of anything.

Knowing about sex at a young age doesn't have a law because there's nothing societally negative that can come of it. It's an individual thing, as smoking is and as drinking can be.

The right to vote is an entirely different matter, it's restricted because a kid having a vote on something that affects everybody seriously, is not a good idea. Even if you explained politics to them, they wouldn't understand it.

So your laws example doesn't work here.

-AC

InnerRise
It does when answering the Thread Topic Question as to why parents hide sex from their kids.

My posts answer this question. This is why parents don't tell their kids about sex at earlier AGES.

Anata wa wakarimasu ka.....

Alpha Centauri
Originally posted by InnerRise
It does when answering the Thread Topic Question as to why parents hide sex from their kids.

My posts answer this question. This is why parents don't tell their kids about sex at earlier AGES.

Anata wa wakarimasu ka.....

You do not know that the reason parents don't tell their kids (And it's not all parents) is because there are laws that prevent kids from doing other things.

I'd say that's not even the case often at all.

-AC

InnerRise
No, the whole law and age thing was just other examples of age appropriateness.

The other stuff I said was pertaining to as to why parents wait to tell their kids about sex if ever, such as how mature the concept of sex is and how it isn't something a kid needs to be exposed to at certain ages.

anata wa wakarimasu ka.....

Alpha Centauri
A) It doesn't prove appropriateness, since that is subjective.

B) It's not a matter of when the kid "needs" it. It's when the parents decide to.

-AC

InnerRise
Okay.

There are parents out there who don't tell their kids about sex until they're old enough yes?

Well the reasons that I stated apply to some of those parents. They're reasons some of those parents decide when to tell they're children about sex.

I really don't know what you're getting at.

The reasons I stated are true, common sense reasons.

Anata wa wakarimasu ka.....

Alpha Centauri
Originally posted by InnerRise
Okay.

There are parents out there who don't tell their kids about sex until they're old enough yes?

Well the reasons that I stated apply to some of those parents. They're reasons some of those parents decide when to tell they're children about sex.

I really don't know what you're getting at.

The reasons I stated are true, common sense reasons.

Anata wa wakarimasu ka.....

Yes, but you raising the idea of when a kid "needs" to know and ages of legal acts doesn't mean anything.

It differs entirely, it's not about when kids need to know, and "old enough" is subjective.

-AC

InnerRise
Oh, well that's a discussion for another thread I guess b/c I'm simply stating why "Parents hide sex from there kids."

EDIT: 100th Post! w00t

anata wa wakarimasu ka.....

Bardock42
Originally posted by Critic
What makes you think Sex isn't complicated? ...sex ed?

Critic
Originally posted by Bardock42
...sex ed?

Heh, Point taken.

lord xyz
Originally posted by Critic
Heh, Point taken. Not really, sex ed doesn't really teach you the technique. You know, actually how to have sex.

Disturbed Angel
Originally posted by Rogue Jedi
I did. Fortunately I was too young to know what was going on. "Daddy, what are you doing to mommy?" sad
oh That's.......mentally scarring. petpet

Creshosk
Originally posted by lord xyz
Not really, sex ed doesn't really teach you the technique. You know, actually how to have sex. Actually it doesn't teach you how to be good at sex, it does teach you how to have sex.

Sex isn't complicated:
Insert tab A into slot B

frankenfeltch
Originally posted by Creshosk
Actually it doesn't teach you how to be good at sex, it does teach you how to have sex.

Sex isn't complicated:
Insert tab A into slot B



that's if you dont care about a chick getting what she wants wink

Creshosk
Originally posted by frankenfeltch
that's if you dont care about a chick getting what she wants wink As I said, it doesn't teach you how to be good at it.

frankenfeltch
oh right, I misread your post.

SelphieT
Originally posted by Creshosk
Actually it doesn't teach you how to be good at sex, it does teach you how to have sex.

Sex isn't complicated:
Insert tab A into slot B

shock Gasp! Cresh!

I didn't know it was that simple to you. None for you!schmoll

Creshosk
Originally posted by SelphieT
shock Gasp! Cresh!

I didn't know it was that simple to you. None for you!schmoll Originally posted by Creshosk
As I said, it doesn't teach you how to be good at it.

debbiejo
Okay, I'll step in. Kids won't understand it if they walk in. It's better to tell them as a matter of fact these things. Kids are not stupid. We were once kids. We were not idiots to things we have or have not seen, then we asked questions. A parents job is to explain in simple terms and age appropriate what this or that is.

Victor Von Doom
You still are an idiot.

debbiejo
Originally posted by Victor Von Doom
You still are an idiot. I need to take a piss............

lord xyz
Originally posted by Creshosk
Actually it doesn't teach you how to be good at sex, it does teach you how to have sex.

Sex isn't complicated:
Insert tab A into slot B I'd mention how to be good at it, but I'm not gonna make you guys good at sex.

Creshosk
Originally posted by lord xyz
I'd mention how to be good at it, but I'm not gonna make you guys good at sex. hehe.. and then partnering up with lab partners would be fun... A real hands in experience.. er I mean hands ON experience.

shifty

SelphieT
Originally posted by Creshosk
hehe.. and then partnering up with lab partners would be fun... A real hands in experience.. er I mean hands ON experience.

shifty

What the hell? You just don't get it, do you? no

lord xyz
Originally posted by SelphieT
What the hell? You just don't get it, do you? no Just ignore the bad man. hug

Creshosk
Originally posted by SelphieT
What the hell? You just don't get it, do you? no Not much for jokes? ermm yeah it was perverted... but still.

debbiejo
It's like this. Kids don't like it.

it's like.........$#@@##$ to mommy....and %##(* Oh, it's ok.......and oh...^%#^&.........hmmmm

leaving the kid.......%@#%^$^#$......Otay......lol


Have some chips. Cookies? Want to watch a movie?

Critic
Originally posted by frankenfeltch
that's if you dont care about a chick getting what she wants wink

If you want a girl to achieve "What she wants", It usually has nothing to do with sex/intercourse itself.

debbiejo
It is simple as this: If they ask questions, then answer them in their own understanding. There is nothing to be embarrassed about. It is simply a wonderful and natural thing. It is too bad that many think they cannot talk about these things because of some embarrassment, or taboo. It's not an awful thing as some might think, and to give that opinion to children is to tell them that what is natural and beautiful is terrible because it is too embarrassing to speak about.

SelphieT
Originally posted by Creshosk
Not much for jokes? ermm yeah it was perverted... but still.

No, I'm wide open for jokes, I left myself open for you early, and you totally missed it. Totally missed it. no

debbiejo
Seriously, kids need to understand certain things. Otherwise they might go see works of art and statues and feel they are dirty, when they are quite beautiful in works.

vinz07
Really Embarrassing....
Would you mind, parent's having sex in front of their kids.....ooooh co'mmon..lets give them a privacy...Let your kids learn SEX from the school.....

Use you common sense...

Shelbert Lemon
They dont teach sex ed until 5th grade in most places I know, usually by then, they already know how things generally work. Its best it comes from the parents at an earlier age. Talking openly with your children can help them understand that you dont think sex is dirty or something to be ashamed of.

vinz07
Originally posted by Shelbert Lemon
They dont teach sex ed until 5th grade in most places I know, usually by then, they already know how things generally work. Its best it comes from the parents at an earlier age. Talking openly with your children can help them understand that you dont think sex is dirty or something to be ashamed of.


Kids are always be kids..They don't understand the essence of SEX in there young age.....

Shelbert Lemon
Thats why you educate your them so they understand what sex is about.

vinz07
Originally posted by Shelbert Lemon
Thats why you educate your them so they understand what sex is about.

At the age of 1, 2, 3, 4 an d 5....you think they will fully understand the meaning of sex....So parents should hide sex first from there kids/

Shelbert Lemon
No one is suggesting you sit a toddler down and explain while daddy puts his pennis in mommys vagina.

SelphieT
I knew what the organs were by 5th grade, but I didn't actually know the deal with actual sex, until probably 6th or 7th.

Preteens, what an awkward age.

lord xyz
I don't know why people are even discussing this. We are still mating, so I guess that shows that it doesn't matter how we learn about sex or how whether it's kept from us or not. We still have it.

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