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Any suggestions on how to ease the pain, so to speak?

Bluntness. Oh wait... Ease pain or make sure it's over? Because you can almost never have both.

Read a good book

Trust me, it can help

Well, the thing is, I hate the feeling that I've invested so much time in the relationship and now it's over, you know what I mean?

Crazy.

Tell them the truth, but try to tell them that if they really do care, they will understand your choice.
Try to be friends afterwards, as well. But never ever say "it's not you, it's me".

Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
Well, the thing is, I hate the feeling that I've invested so much time in the relationship and now it's over, you know what I mean?

Crazy.

I know how that feels too. For the first steps of dealing with it, it's a good idea to forget about it as much as you can. Then, once you think you're ready to deal with it properly, you do. Talk to family as well, that works

Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
Any suggestions on how to ease the pain, so to speak? Hang out with friends, they know how to make you feel good about yourself. Even if it is making a joke out of the situation.

Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
Well, the thing is, I hate the feeling that I've invested so much time in the relationship and now it's over, you know what I mean?

Crazy. That's exactly how I felt with my last relationship. I also hated the fact that I Really came to love her family too. But that happens, and you'll go through it again.

Originally posted by The Grey Fox
Read a good book

Trust me, it can help

*reads a Business Management book*

Girlfriend: What are you trying to say?

Me: I'm trying to say that we're making a cut back, our relationship isn't making enough as it is, someone has to be laid off... you're fired!

Yeah, that does help...

At least I didn't read the bible.

Originally posted by Itzak
*reads a Business Management book*

Girlfriend: What are you trying to say?

Me: I'm trying to say that we're making a cut back, our relationship isn't making enough as it is, someone has to be laid off... you're fired!

Yeah, that does help...

At least I didn't read the bible.

lawl you know what I mean, a fiction book 131

Yeah. I mean, I just hate the fact that people older than me say "You got plenty of time to settle down" (i'm 18). They say things like, "I've been through that too. We all have." "Lots of girls out there."

I know what they're trying to do when they say things like that, but it doesn't help does it? It just makes you feel insignificant because you thought to yourself, "I'm experiencing something special. I'm one of the few who won't need to date around for 10 years to find the girl I want to marry because here she is."

Messed-up that.

Originally posted by The Grey Fox
lawl you know what I mean, a fiction book 131

*Goes to read the bible* vin

Originally posted by Itzak
*reads a Business Management book*

Girlfriend: What are you trying to say?

Me: I'm trying to say that we're making a cut back, our relationship isn't making enough as it is, someone has to be laid off... you're fired!

Yeah, that does help...

At least I didn't read the bible.

I don't even find anything Business-related funny (The Office and Dilbert notwithstanding), but that bit has cheered me up.

Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
Yeah. I mean, I just hate the fact that people older than me say "You got plenty of time to settle down" (i'm 18). They say things like, "I've been through that too. We all have." "Lots of girls out there."

I know what they're trying to do when they say things like that, but it doesn't help does it? It just makes you feel insignificant because you thought to yourself, "I'm experiencing something special. I'm one of the few who won't need to date around for 10 years to find the girl I want to marry because here she is."

Messed-up that. Unfortunately they're right though

And even YOU might say the same thing to someone in the future

Originally posted by Itzak
*Goes to read the bible* vin
lawl good one shocklaugh


Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
Yeah. I mean, I just hate the fact that people older than me say "You got plenty of time to settle down" (i'm 18). They say things like, "I've been through that too. We all have." "Lots of girls out there."

I know what they're trying to do when they say things like that, but it doesn't help does it? It just makes you feel insignificant because you thought to yourself, "I'm experiencing something special. I'm one of the few who won't need to date around for 10 years to find the girl I want to marry because here she is."

Messed-up that.

I hate tho old 'plenty more fish in the sea' rope that girls always throw at people. It depresses me.

Still, the people here have some good ideas, I'm sure we can help you

Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
Yeah. I mean, I just hate the fact that people older than me say "You got plenty of time to settle down" (i'm 18). They say things like, "I've been through that too. We all have." "Lots of girls out there."

I know what they're trying to do when they say things like that, but it doesn't help does it? It just makes you feel insignificant because you thought to yourself, "I'm experiencing something special. I'm one of the few who won't need to date around for 10 years to find the girl I want to marry because here she is."

Messed-up that.

I absolutely agree.

Yeah, it's definitely cliche but like you said, I wouldn't completely rule out saying that to someone younger in the future.

Well, here's the thing. I have to ask. On TV, you see all these characters who are "players" (i.e. Barney from How I Met Your Mother, Joey from Friends). How do these characters get so emotionally detached from women? I admire their lack of emotional involvement with women but how does someone end up like that. Or is it a work of fiction like the shows themselves?

Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
Yeah, it's definitely cliche but like you said, I wouldn't completely rule out saying that to someone younger in the future.

Well, here's the thing. I have to ask. On TV, you see all these characters who are "players" (i.e. Barney from How I Met Your Mother, Joey from Friends). How do these characters get so emotionally detached from women? I admire their lack of emotional involvement with women but how does someone end up like that. Or is it a work of fiction like the shows themselves? No there are real people like that. Some of them are probably born with it whereas others got hurt enough to become like it. Some might have a very bad past (or maybe very good?) and just turn into that. I could never do that, I like being romantic.

Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
Any suggestions on how to ease the pain, so to speak?

Shoot them in the kneecap then scream at them, "YOU WANT THIS TO HAPPEN AGAIN MOTHER****ER?" then run away shooting into the air.

Originally posted by Bloigen
Shoot them in the kneecap then scream at them, "YOU WANT THIS TO HAPPEN AGAIN MOTHER****ER?" then run away shooting into the air. you should laugh hysterically while doing so.

Originally posted by Blight
you should laugh hysterically while doing so.

Don't be so stupid. Try and help her for once.

Originally posted by Bloigen
Don't be so stupid. Try and help her for once. Says the guy that called a girl a vagina...

Originally posted by Blight
That's exactly how I felt with my last relationship. I also hated the fact that I Really came to love her family too. But that happens, and you'll go through it again. ye, that sux. The mom loved the hell outta me, but when my ex split, I became expendable. Haven't heard from the Mom since.

Originally posted by Rogue Jedi
ye, that sux. The mom loved the hell outta me, but when my ex split, I became expendable. Haven't heard from the Mom since. Ich Auch. It's really quite lame. Especially since MY mom keeps in contact with my ex.

Originally posted by Blight
Says the guy that called a girl a vagina...

She had it coming, also, before you say it, she obviously threw herself off the building.

Originally posted by Blight
Ich Auch. It's really quite lame. Especially since MY mom keeps in contact with my ex. no worries here. It's THEIR loss. I prefer to associate myself with a better class of people.

Originally posted by Bloigen
She had it coming, also, before you say it, she obviously threw herself off the building. Uhhhhh huh uhuhOriginally posted by Rogue Jedi
no worries here. It's THEIR loss. I prefer to associate myself with a better class of people. Agreed.

Originally posted by Blight
Uhhhhh huh uhuh.

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zomg herb

I hear all this talk about throwing away pictures and deleting IMs. And not calling. But I still have pics of her, and some messages. And I call her every other week. I don't see what's so bad about it. Hearing that she was seeing someone else recently though has lead me to remove the picture of her.

So, get rid of the memories or keep holding on?

hold on for now

the important part of that is the words for now

Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
I hear all this talk about throwing away pictures and deleting IMs. And not calling. But I still have pics of her, and some messages. And I call her every other week. I don't see what's so bad about it. Hearing that she was seeing someone else recently though has lead me to remove the picture of her.

So, get rid of the memories or keep holding on? My ex and I broke up in June and I didn't take her pictures away until about 2 weeks ago.. so yeah, you can keep them for now.

Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
I hear all this talk about throwing away pictures and deleting IMs. And not calling. But I still have pics of her, and some messages. And I call her every other week. I don't see what's so bad about it. Hearing that she was seeing someone else recently though has lead me to remove the picture of her.

So, get rid of the memories or keep holding on? move on, man. It's unhealthy to hold on. I bet she's not holding on, is she?

depends why you broke up in the first place.

Yeah. But what's the limit? Just seeing her face everyday makes me happy. And I can't not think about her. I don't know what it is. If I could learn to be emotionally-detached like these "players" I'm guessing it would do me a lot of help.

Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
Yeah. But what's the limit? Just seeing her face everyday makes me happy. And I can't not think about her. I don't know what it is. If I could learn to be emotionally-detached like these "players" I'm guessing it would do me a lot of help. Then you need to throw that shit away, dude.

Originally posted by Rogue Jedi
move on, man. It's unhealthy to hold on. I bet she's not holding on, is she?

depends why you broke up in the first place.

Yeah, well I moved to Montreal for college. She's stuck in Athens. I'll be going back every year but I guess it's proved too hard for her.

Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
Yeah, well I moved to Montreal for college. She's stuck in Athens. I'll be going back every year but I guess it's proved too hard for her. well, in that situation it's understandable to hold on.

Originally posted by Rogue Jedi
well, in that situation it's understandable to hold on.

I'm guessing understandable but not advisable.

Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
I'm guessing understandable but not advisable. right on.

It's hard as hell though, man. It's almost as if I never want to get with another girl ever again to avoid getting hurt like this again. But it's stange that I still find girls attractive. How to deal? How to deal?

Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
It's hard as hell though, man. It's almost as if I never want to get with another girl ever again to avoid getting hurt like this again. But it's stange that I still find girls attractive. How to deal? How to deal? why not move her there with you?

Originally posted by Rogue Jedi
why not move her there with you?

Well, she's in the middle of her last year of high school so I'm not sure about that.

In a perfect world, I'd ask her to live here but considering she's seeing someone else at the moment, odds aren't really in my favor. And I've seen the guy. He's funny, I'll give him that. He can beatbox, fine. Can pull off some bad-ass skate tricks, great. But he's not a looker, man. I don't mean to be all judgmental about it so I blame my subconscious.

Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
Well, she's in the middle of her last year of high school so I'm not sure about that.

In a perfect world, I'd ask her to live here but considering she's seeing someone else at the moment, odds aren't really in my favor. And I've seen the guy. He's funny, I'll give him that. He can beatbox, fine. Can pull off some bad-ass skate tricks, great. But he's not a looker, man. I don't mean to be all judgmental about it so I blame my subconscious. move on then.

Originally posted by Rogue Jedi
move on then.

Yeah, I know. Thanks for helping me out, RJ. I know I shouldn't be moping around. I guess I just needed to talk to someone.

Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
Yeah. I mean, I just hate the fact that people older than me say "You got plenty of time to settle down" (i'm 18). They say things like, "I've been through that too. We all have." "Lots of girls out there."

I know what they're trying to do when they say things like that, but it doesn't help does it? It just makes you feel insignificant because you thought to yourself, "I'm experiencing something special. I'm one of the few who won't need to date around for 10 years to find the girl I want to marry because here she is."

Messed-up that.

awww i'm sorry.

*hugs*

there are relationships that you know are "doomed", while getting in.and then there are those which you expect to last but don't. the pain of the latter is obviously greater because you never meant for it to end. duh.

i haven't been through the situation but can empathically understand.

and nothing either of us or anyone else say now will reverse the demise of that relationship. but i'll throw the king of all cliches at you; you learned so much. now you will most likely be able to know what kind of girl isn't the right one to commit to fully. you will know better than to expect serious consequences from a youthfull romance. and many more that you i'm sure are privately aware of

so keep your head up. grieve. but don't let it suck life out of you.

Originally posted by Punkyhermy
awww i'm sorry.

*hugs*

there are relationships that you know are "doomed", while getting in.and then there are those which you expect to last but don't. the pain of the latter is obviously greater because you never meant for it to end. duh.

i haven't been through the situation but can empathically understand.

and nothing either of us or anyone else say now will reverse the demise of that relationship. but i'll throw the king of all cliches at you; you learned so much. now you will most likely be able to know what kind of girl isn't the right one to commit to fully. you will know better than to expect serious consequences from a youthfull romance. and many more that you i'm sure are privately aware of

so keep your head up. grieve. but don't let it suck life out of you.

Hey, thanks Punky. See, now that's the way to console someone who's been hurt with this sh*t. And it's ironic that you haven't even been in this situation yet know what to say to not appear overtly condescending.

What do you suggest I do if I ever see her again when I stop by to vacation in Athens in a few months. Should I avoid her altogether?

Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
Hey, thanks Punky. See, now that's the way to console someone who's been hurt with this sh*t. And it's ironic that you haven't even been in this situation yet know what to say to not appear overtly condescending.

What do you suggest I do if I ever see her again when I stop by to vacation in Athens in a few months. Should I avoid her altogether?
i wouldnt avoid her, when i broke up with my ex i didnt associate with her for a while but once you get over it you realized or at least i did that it was stupid to ignore her. if nothing major happened between you then id say maybe see hi to her at least, but i wouldnt decide now, wait until the time draws nearer and see how you feel about it.

Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
Hey, thanks Punky. See, now that's the way to console someone who's been hurt with this sh*t. And it's ironic that you haven't even been in this situation yet know what to say to not appear overtly condescending.

What do you suggest I do if I ever see her again when I stop by to vacation in Athens in a few months. Should I avoid her altogether?



haha no i haven't been yet

hmm. no!

don't indulge in silly and immature expected post breakup antics like that. before she was your gf, she was a friend at least i guess? and if not she was a person. so treat her like you would any other person. if you happen to stumble into her, be amiable. exchange the how are yous? wish her well and part ways.

Originally posted by Mr. Bacon
i wouldnt avoid her, when i broke up with my ex i didnt associate with her for a while but once you get over it you realized or at least i did that it was stupid to ignore her. if nothing major happened between you then id say maybe see hi to her at least, but i wouldnt decide now, wait until the time draws nearer and see how you feel about it.

I see what you what you mean. Wouldn't want to make any rash decisions. It's just that back home, we all run in similar circles so it would be a little difficult knowing where she could be when she's just around the corner, you know what I'm saying?

Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
I see what you what you mean. Wouldn't want to make any rash decisions. It's just that back home, we all run in similar circles so it would be a little difficult knowing where she could be when she's just around the corner, you know what I'm saying?
yea i see, well i wouldnt try to avoid her. if you happen to run into her so be it. but by all means dont feel liek you have to make it a priority if you dont want to.

Originally posted by Punkyhermy


haha no i haven't been yet

hmm. no!

don't indulge in silly and immature expected post breakup antics like that. before she was your gf, she was a friend at least i guess? and if not she was a person. so treat her like you would any other person. if you happen to stumble into her, be amiable. exchange the how are yous? wish her well and part ways.

Again, some great points. When I mean avoid though, I don't necessarily mean down-right ignore. I just mean, I won't go around making plans with her and her posse. She was one of my best friends so saying hi when I run into her would just be like a reflex.

Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
Again, some great points. When I mean avoid though, I don't necessarily mean down-right ignore. I just mean, I won't go around making plans with her and her posse. She was one of my best friends so saying hi when I run into her would just be like a reflex.

ahhh...hmm i see...

well that falls into mr. bacon's territory i believe. so i guess he'll know better than i in dealing with ex-gfs who were once best friends.

but what i can suggest is...just be normal. since you;re away at college now. at least you have time to get used to being without her. so when you get back, the scene will already have changed some, in whatever way there is. so your status as an ex-couple to people would seem like just another change. no big deal is what i'm trying to say. don't go out of your way to avoid her...but i don't think you guys will go back to being best friends...

Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
Any suggestions on how to ease the pain, so to speak?

The only cure I've found it time. Breaking up hurts, and time heals all if you let it. Go out have some fun with your friends, drink some beer, eat some good food, pull a couple of floosies and before you know it the pain will be a distant memory!

Originally posted by Punkyhermy
ahhh...hmm i see...

well that falls into mr. bacon's territory i believe. so i guess he'll know better than i in dealing with ex-gfs who were once best friends.

but what i can suggest is...just be normal. since you;re away at college now. at least you have time to get used to being without her. so when you get back, the scene will already have changed some, in whatever way there is. so your status as an ex-couple to people would seem like just another change. no big deal is what i'm trying to say. don't go out of your way to avoid her...but i don't think you guys will go back to being best friends...
mhm

im not by any means great friends with my ex, but i hang out with her once in a while and its nice to remember the past and the fun you had. that works for me, i dont know what it will do for you. but id say just go by feel if you dont feel ready to see her or anything dont. but if she suggests doing something as friends and you want to try to stay friends go for it, it worked before

Originally posted by Punkyhermy
ahhh...hmm i see...

well that falls into mr. bacon's territory i believe. so i guess he'll know better than i in dealing with ex-gfs who were once best friends.

but what i can suggest is...just be normal. since you;re away at college now. at least you have time to get used to being without her. so when you get back, the scene will already have changed some, in whatever way there is. so your status as an ex-couple to people would seem like just another change. no big deal is what i'm trying to say. don't go out of your way to avoid her...but i don't think you guys will go back to being best friends...

Well, I still occasionally give her a call to see how she's doing. Every other week being the case. And we communicate via our Friendster profiles as well.
Bottom line is, she was once a big part of my life, I can't see her being shut out of it completely.

Originally posted by Mr. Bacon
mhm

im not by any means great friends with my ex, but i hang out with her once in a while and its nice to remember the past and the fun you had. that works for me, i dont know what it will do for you. but id say just go by feel if you dont feel ready to see her or anything dont. but if she suggests doing something as friends and you want to try to stay friends go for it, it worked before

well said. remaining friends can work. I'm still very good friends with my ex-wife. We went to others second marriages and we hang out and have a laugh when ever we can. Tis a good thing!

Originally posted by Baylin
well said. remaining friends can work. I'm still very good friends with my ex-wife. We went to others second marriages and we hang out and have a laugh when ever we can. Tis a good thing!

I just don't know if I have the strength to not let my harbored feelings manifest itself if I ever see her again.
I'm not as seasoned as all you experts, goddamn. I need some growing up to do.

Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
I just don't know if I have the strength to not let my harbored feelings manifest itself if I ever see her again.
I'm not as seasoned as all you experts, goddamn. I need some growing up to do.
well its situation as well, from this i gather that you still like her and she broke up with you?

Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
Well, I still occasionally give her a call to see how she's doing. Every other week being the case. And we communicate via our Friendster profiles as well.
Bottom line is, she was once a big part of my life, I can't see her being shut out of it completely.

aww yeah...i see.

see thats the part about the dating game that i don't get. you pick a person. make them the biggest part of your life. and then are expected to chuck them out. just like that. and when you display signs in having difficulty doing that. you're looked upon weirdly.

people aren't designed to just tear someone they are emotionally attached to away. its kinda like being asked to tear your arm or leg away in a way.

so when i figure that out. i'll get back to you


just realize that you don't have to do anything. i know there are expectations. everyone you talk to wants you to be over her in a second. understand that you aren't designed to get "over" people you deemed so important just.like.that. regardless of what society says.

take your time.

and one day you will wake up all smiles and happy becaues of another girl.

^

its not going to happen over night, time is the best healing agent
you ust eventually have to accept that if it didnt work out its not meant to be and that you have to move on with your life.

Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
I just don't know if I have the strength to not let my harbored feelings manifest itself if I ever see her again.
I'm not as seasoned as all you experts, goddamn. I need some growing up to do.

Well like I said before it takes time. Nothing is a quick fix in these circumstances. I have a very good and dear friend here at KMC. When things didn't work out for us it was months before I was able to come to terms with it enough to come back and make good with this said person. I could have left it for good but now that I've resolved things within my self I'm able to enjoy a good friendship with someone I respect and love very much, I'm also very glad I did it too!

it all boils down to what happened at the point of the break up. was there betrayal? was it a mutual decision? everyone has thier own stories to tell.

Originally posted by Rogue Jedi
it all boils down to what happened at the point of the break up. was there betrayal? was it a mutual decision? everyone has thier own stories to tell...

...and often with some strong points of view!

Originally posted by Mr. Bacon
well its situation as well, from this i gather that you still like her and she broke up with you?

Well, we've been broken up for almost 5 months now and all these "feelings" are coming back because I just heard this morning that she was seeing someone else. Wasn't expecting it, man. Was not expecting it.

Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
Well, we've been broken up for almost 5 months now and all these "feelings" are coming back because I just heard this morning that she was seeing someone else. Wasn't expecting it, man. Was not expecting it.

thats jealously.

its completely normal.

*hugs*

aww i'm sure this is such a pain in the ass yes?

Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
Well, we've been broken up for almost 5 months now and all these "feelings" are coming back because I just heard this morning that she was seeing someone else. Wasn't expecting it, man. Was not expecting it.
ah i see, i know what you mean somewhat since my ex started dating someone else like a week after we broke up, it hurts at first but eventually you come to terms with it, the feelings will happen especially if you had a close relationship with her, its always going to be a part of your past, you just have to learn to live with it

Originally posted by Punkyhermy
aww yeah...i see.

see thats the part about the dating game that i don't get. you pick a person. make them the biggest part of your life. and then are expected to chuck them out. just like that. and when you display signs in having difficulty doing that. you're looked upon weirdly.

people aren't designed to just tear someone they are emotionally attached to away. its kinda like being asked to tear your arm or leg away in a way.

so when i figure that out. i'll get back to you


just realize that you don't have to do anything. i know there are expectations. everyone you talk to wants you to be over her in a second. understand that you aren't designed to get "over" people you deemed so important just.like.that. regardless of what society says.

take your time.

and one day you will wake up all smiles and happy becaues of another girl.

That's the thing. I don't even think I want to be in another relationship again just so I don't run the risk of wasting my time, so to speak.
Going through the lines with this relationship business is just not my stlye.

Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
That's the thing. I don't even think I want to be in another relationship again just so I don't run the risk of wasting my time, so to speak.
Going through the lines with this relationship business is just not my stlye.
take some time off then, its not a crime to be single and live your life for now. wait until you know youre ready

Originally posted by Punkyhermy
thats jealously.

its completely normal.

*hugs*

aww i'm sure this is such a pain in the ass yes?

*hugs back*

No, it's fine. I just don't members here to think I'm some EMO kid.

Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
*hugs back*

No, it's fine. I just don't members here to think I'm some EMO kid.
haha no not at all, everyone becomes emotional at some point. if you werent you wouldnt be human

Originally posted by Mr. Bacon
ah i see, i know what you mean somewhat since my ex started dating someone else like a week after we broke up, it hurts at first but eventually you come to terms with it, the feelings will happen especially if you had a close relationship with her, its always going to be a part of your past, you just have to learn to live with it

Oh, I feel for you. A week? That's f*cked-up. She was probably planning that sh*t since the beginning.
Learning to live it. Another one of those. (;
Jealousy, man. It's a *****.

Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
Oh, I feel for you. A week? That's f*cked-up. She was probably planning that sh*t since the beginning.
Learning to live it. Another one of those. (;
Jealousy, man. It's a *****.
yea it sucked since i still liked her at the time

but life goes on and now two years later im glad it didnt go further, how things change with time, and i think they will for you too

Originally posted by Mr. Bacon
haha no not at all, everyone becomes emotional at some point. if you werent you wouldnt be human

Goddamn. KMC has gotten so much friendlier over the past few months. Appreciate the words.

Originally posted by Mr. Bacon
take some time off then, its not a crime to be single and live your life for now. wait until you know youre ready

mhmm. i agreee Neo.

look. stop for a second. and listen.

you don't have to do anything dating/girls wise now.

or a week from now.

or a month from now.

or however long it takes till the moment when you find yourself crushing on someone who isn't your ex.

and you can't will yourself to be in a relationship. it will happen when it does. and you'll deal with it.

Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
Goddamn. KMC has gotten so much friendlier over the past few months. Appreciate the words.
hey i remember you from back in the days of 2003, and i know whats its like to be in your situation.

Originally posted by Mr. Bacon
yea it sucked since i still liked her at the time

but life goes on and now two years later im glad it didnt go further, how things change with time, and i think they will for you too

Oh, definitely. Definitely.

Crazy thing, relationships. You'd think I'd be over her now since leaving a while back, but I just don't know if I can control myself if I ever see her again, you know what I'm saying?

Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
Goddamn. KMC has gotten so much friendlier over the past few months. Appreciate the words.

hug


anytime.

not necessarily, especially if you have alot of time with your thoughts or how long you were involved with her. the best thing i can say is to agree with Punkyhermy in her last post, give it time, dont force anything, if you see her say hi be polite and if you feel uncomfortable excuse yourself and leave. dont do anything until you feel ready, it will come when it comes

Originally posted by Punkyhermy
mhmm. i agreee Neo.

look. stop for a second. and listen.

you don't have to do anything dating/girls wise now.

or a week from now.

or a month from now.

or however long it takes till the moment when you find yourself crushing on someone who isn't your ex.

and you can't will yourself to be in a relationship. it will happen when it does. and you'll deal with it.

Yeah, I couldn't agree more.
But all of sudden, all those things you talked about in your previous relationship (someday getting married, the future, whatnot), I can't imagine doing that with anybody else. I know how it sounds as you're reading it but, I can't help it.
Better to rid of relationships forever. I don't know.

its different fotr everyone, there no set standards for getting over a relationship, it happens when it happens and there not uch you can do to expedite the process, so hang in there, enjoy your life and your friends and school and whatever.

Originally posted by Mr. Bacon
its different fotr everyone, there no set standards for getting over a relationship, it happens when it happens and there not uch you can do to expedite the process, so hang in there, enjoy your life and your friends and school and whatever.

Well, to be honest, I'm more of a homebody but yeah, I'm grasping the concept. I just hate doing this dance all over again. Kind of puts you off women. Uhm..relationships. Sorry.

me too actually, im home right now

im still single shrug

im just not ready for a relationship so i havent

Originally posted by Mr. Bacon
me too actually, im home right now

im still single shrug

im just not ready for a relationship so i havent

Stay at home bachelors. High five!

highfive

I cant really add anything different then whats already been said. Best wishes either way Neo.

Hey, thanks a lot guys. I'll get through this again. (:

Much appreciated (;

You' ll have good days and you' ll have bad days. Take it one day at a time and don' t beat yourself up if you have an overly emotional day. You' re only human after all.


Ceterum censeo OTF esse delendam.

buy a dog. seriously, It worked wonders for a friend of mine.

Originally posted by Rogue Jedi
buy a dog. seriously, It worked wonders for a friend of mine.

Mmm, well... Dogs are okay, but women are definately a much better shag!

depends on the dog. and the woman.

good point!

Appreciate the tips, guys.

anytime

Burn pictures and toss away reminders of her. Then think of all the shit she's caused.

Originally posted by Scythe
Burn pictures and toss away reminders of her. Then think of all the shit she's caused.

Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
Any suggestions on how to ease the pain, so to speak?

Psyche yourself out. Make yourself think that nothing ever happened, that you didn't care about them as much as you really did.

Ignorance is bliss? thats kind of chicken shit.

I wouldn't say ignorance, I'd say, dilute.

Obviously I don't mean forget what happened. I mean make yourself think you don't care as much as you do. If you downgrade how you think you feel it will hurt less. It might last longer, but it will hurt less.

And it's a hell of a lot better than holding ill will and resent. That will just bring you down farther.

Do stuff you enjoy doing. Masturbate, get hookers.

Hang out with your friends, accept it's over and remember that you are young and have several decades in front of you.

More hookers.

There's real advice peppered in this post, find it. It will be like an easter egg hunt.

Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
Any suggestions on how to ease the pain, so to speak? dont be such a bich.

"If you want the pain to go away, better suck up your pride, admit.. you lost her.. let her go..... MOVE ON LET HER GO!! LET HER GOO"

Originally posted by Mairuzu
"If you want the pain to go away, better suck up your pride, admit.. you lost her.. let her go..... MOVE ON LET HER GO!! LET HER GOO" thats what i said stop being a bich.

Originally posted by BackFire
Do stuff you enjoy doing. Masturbate, get hookers.

Hang out with your friends, accept it's over and remember that you are young and have several decades in front of you.

More hookers.

There's real advice peppered in this post, find it. It will be like an easter egg hunt. thats some YODA shit.

Masturbation does relieve stress. And so far, I'm doing alright.

Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
Any suggestions on how to ease the pain, so to speak?

Just forget about the nice person they were, and look at their true ****ed up colors.