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Heya! i was just wondering can people fall in love? Do they? or is it just a megga crush. How do u know if your in love? Is it possible to love someone without being in love?

Originally posted by GirlAnachronism
Heya! i was just wondering can people fall in love? Do they? or is it just a megga crush. How do u know if your in love? Is it possible to love someone without being in love?

You can fall in love.

It's hard to describe, but you will know it when it happens to you.

It is possible to love someone without being in love

but just because they're the last person you think of when u go to sleep and the first when u wake up, u randomly find yourself smling at little things they say even though they're not around, and you would do anything for them, is that enough? xxx

Originally posted by GirlAnachronism
but just because they're the last person you think of when u go to sleep and the first when u wake up, u randomly find yourself smling at little things they say even though they're not around, and you would do anything for them, is that enough? xxx

It seems you already know the answer to that question.

Love is a matter of projection. You project the idea that "I'm in love" onto a person or situation, rather than there being some arbitrary point at which lust/infatuation/liking ends and love begins.

In other words, the only person that can answer the question for you is yourself, because you create the meaning of it. It's far from an objective endeavor. The closest you could get is possibly monitoring brain patterns when they claim to be in love, but this would also be undermined by the different ways people experience "love" (newly-weds, people married 50 years, life partners, best friends, love for a concept/idea/object/food/etc.) It's really just too amorphous to pin down.

It is not an easy question to answer. What feels like love to one person may be nothing more than attraction to another. Love is based on more than just physical attraction. Attraction is a factor, but love goes deeper than that. Love is based on caring, friendship, commitment and trust.

Love can take many different forms, some of which don' t require people to be in love: friendly love, familial love, ...

Originally posted by Storm
It is not an easy question to answer. What feels like love to one person may be nothing more than attraction to another. Love is based on more than just physical attraction. Attraction is a factor, but love goes deeper than that. Love is based on caring, friendship, commitment and trust.

Love can take many different forms, some of which don' t require people to be in love: friendly love, familial love, ...


I agree with what your saying.

Originally posted by Shakyamunison

It is possible to love someone without being in love

Which is just code for screwing someone.

Originally posted by Quiero Mota
Which is just code for screwing someone.

I wasn't talking about sex.

Yes you can love someone with out being love with them, like your friends or family.

Originally posted by Cornlady
Yes you can love someone with out being love with them, like your friends or family.

"love someone." "being in love." I think I need some clarification here.

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Originally posted by GirlAnachronism
Heya! i was just wondering can people fall in love? Do they? or is it just a megga crush. How do u know if your in love? Is it possible to love someone without being in love?


Yes it is very possible. I was in love once. Relationship ended pretty good as we are still friends to tis day. Its very possible to fall for someone while not in love. For each person it is different as to how you know whether or not you are in love. For me I knew when my eyes met with hers.

Originally posted by Quiero Mota
Which is just code for screwing someone. You have sex with your mother?

ahan, ofcourse. there are different levels of love though, even when your IN love. i think selflessness is a good indicater, and joy which u cudnt have thought possible when ur around em/with em/thinking of em/thinking of beein with em. yea basically, ull know when ur in love.

Originally posted by Bardock42
You have sex with your mother?

Well, according to Freud...

Originally posted by leonheartmm
ahan, ofcourse. there are different levels of love though, even when your IN love. i think selflessness is a good indicater, and joy which u cudnt have thought possible when ur around em/with em/thinking of em/thinking of beein with em. yea basically, ull know when ur in love. I believe when I fall in love this time it will be forever.

I believe being in love with something is being with it is just perfect.

Originally posted by lord xyz
I believe being in love with something is being with it is just perfect.

I hate to break it to you, but I can derive about half a dozen different meanings out of that sentence. Could you rephrase?

i dont beleive that. love can take you to some of the most ****ed up places in your mind.

Can you fall in love? Nah, you trip into it. Fall down...make a fool of yourself.............LOL

Originally posted by Quark_666
I hate to break it to you, but I can derive about half a dozen different meanings out of that sentence. Could you rephrase? You feel an urge to be with someone no matter what (to be perfect), you have to be with them, otherwise you'll feel like shit without them. That's being inlove. I guess the feeling has to be mutual as well, but I don't know about that.

Originally posted by lord xyz
You feel an urge to be with someone no matter what (to be perfect), you have to be with them, otherwise you'll feel like shit without them. That's being inlove. I guess the feeling has to be mutual as well, but I don't know about that.

Hmm. I suspect that is the case in many instances but I must say there are exceptions!

Originally posted by Deja~vu
Can you fall in love? Nah, you trip into it. Fall down...make a fool of yourself.............LOL I still stand by this.

Originally posted by Quark_666
Hmm. I suspect that is the case in many instances but I must say there are exceptions! Like what?

Originally posted by GirlAnachronism
How do u know if your in love?

Originally posted by silver_tears:


You don't. You second guess yourself, you're paranoid and insecure, you wonder what they're thinking, you wonder what their long pauses mean, you think about them during the day, you want all of their attention at once but don't want to be smothered, you worry you're not enough, you worry you're too much. Love's a mess, it's not pretty and it's not neatly packaged, but once you find it, you never want to let go, and if you are forced to do so you never wanna love again, until the next one that awakens you again and makes you want all of those terrible things again because that other person when they smile at you makes you forget it all and you're just content doing nothing with them.

Can you fall into love? No, you must plan it out with a daily planner, schedule meetings, guest speakers then decide. Have a family vote may help you too. If all is agreed then YES you can fall in love.

Originally posted by Deja~vu
Can you fall into love? No, you must plan it out with a daily planner, schedule meetings, guest speakers then decide. Have a family vote may help you too. If all is agreed then YES you can fall in love.

But I never like the way the vote goes.

I feel a more interesting question regarding this, seeing as the answer to the initial question is obvious, people "fall" into the cultural definition of love all the time and end up writing shitty songs and movies about it...

But I propose,
Is the concept of love a Meme?
Could it be, that love is simply a pointless aspect of an antiquated society where it is assumed that two people must be bound together in order to maximize the survival of their offspring? And in such an advanced technological society, the original purpose of love, is no longer existent, and we simply purvey this concept through the the seeming cultural necessity of being in love? I mean I even saw this headline of the cover of some foreign vogue (not ment to be a slur, simply a discription) "Is love necessary or simply a fashion accessory?"
And I think that says more than I ever could about the issue, especially since they judged that it was simply an incredibly desirable accessory.

meet 'em, shag 'em, leave 'em

Originally posted by Tptmanno1
I feel a more interesting question regarding this, seeing as the answer to the initial question is obvious, people "fall" into the cultural definition of love all the time and end up writing shitty songs and movies about it...

But I propose,
Is the concept of love a Meme?
Could it be, that love is simply a pointless aspect of an antiquated society where it is assumed that two people must be bound together in order to maximize the survival of their offspring? And in such an advanced technological society, the original purpose of love, is no longer existent, and we simply purvey this concept through the the seeming cultural necessity of being in love? I mean I even saw this headline of the cover of some foreign vogue (not ment to be a slur, simply a discription) "Is love necessary or simply a fashion accessory?"
And I think that says more than I ever could about the issue, especially since they judged that it was simply an incredibly desirable accessory.

... People need loyalties somewhere. Love can exist between two people, and last throughout their lives. There must be loyalties for people somewhere although sadly, love is not guaranteed to anyone in their lifetime.

I will elaborate on the point later. I'm kinda lazy right onw.

But if you ask most people Loyalty and love are two different things....
As much as I hate Copy-pasting long bits of shit, I have thought about this before...

Originally posted by lord xyz
Like what? That's personal.