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I was, today. Its not a fun feelin when your ex, whom you've known since 9th grade, accuses you of molesting her.


Also, a side question, should I press charges against her? And will this ruin my life? O.o

not falsely, no.

but seriously, that's pretty fucced up.

dunno about the pressing charges thing... how do you prove you didn't rape someone? Seems to me like that can only lead down a bad road for you.

Yeah, if the matter has been resolved then just let it go.

Is the person in question insisting into accusing you? Is it a very public thing? Do you feel it's hurting the perception people around you might have of you?

Originally posted by Bentley
Is the person in question insisting into accusing you? Is it a very public thing? Do you feel it's hurting the perception people around you might have of you? She said it to her boyfriend after we did it. And I stayed around for two hours while she cuddled me and said it was "BOTH OUR FAULTS". All I really did was touch her bare breasts. There were paper thin walls, not even mentioning the fact that her father was LITERALLY right outside the door, and I did not have her pinned down. I can prove all of this. As for your question, everyone I told so far believed me. But now for the rest of my life, I'm gonna have people walking around on the streets, accusing me of being a molester/rapist. False rape accusations are rare, but they do happen.

Originally posted by Jmanghan
I was, today. Its not a fun feelin when your ex, whom you've known since 9th grade, accuses you of molesting her.



You're not her teacher are you?
Juz asking...

Shes older then me.

Aw man, i thought she'd filed charges.
This is just mickey mouse kid stuff. Stop telling people; blow it off. Its only a big deal because you're making it one.

Originally posted by Jmanghan
False rape accusations are rare, but they do happen.

Yes well, you cannot really undo whatever accusations she throws at you, I'm not sure that trying to reprimend her with a lawsuit is going to win you the sympathy of other people. Again, this is very dependant in how she accuses you.

Admitting rape is a very challenging thing to do for a woman, as victims often suffer from some kind of discrimination. If this person is callous enough to falsely accuse you of it, I don't believe it will look necessarily very believable from her.

I wouldn't try to get overly defensive over her accusations.

Yes I have been accused of rape against one of my exes. I don't know why she did I guess she got mad when she found out I liked men

And hell yes press charges

No.

Lying about rape is as bad as the crime rape you could ruin a persons life

dunno about it being "as bad" as the actual crime, but I'm a strong advocate of women who lie about being raped being prosecuted and sentenced to a prison term for however many years the guy would have gotten if he had actually raped her.

This is why you videotape everything.

Originally posted by Nuke Nixon
This is why you videotape everything.
That's just a excuse to make porn

Originally posted by Spawningpool
Lying about rape is as bad as the crime rape you could ruin a persons life

Originally posted by AbnormalButSane

Trust me when you are accused of rape nobody trusts you.. Not even my goddamn parents believed me. It's one of the reasons I had to come out the closet... It almost ruined my life.

I'm sorry for that, but no. It's not as bad as rape itself.

Yeah it's not the same though

U should go to prison for lying about that though

Originally posted by Spawningpool
U should go to prison for lying about that though

Yes, it's terrible when people lie about it, and you should definitely be charged with slander and a waste of police resources.

They are really hurting other rape victims too though because no one will believe them when report that they've been assaulted. (Which happens most of the time)

But no. It's not as bad as rape.

Originally posted by AbnormalButSane
Yes, it's terrible when people lie about it, and you should definitely be charged with slander and a waste of police resources.

They are really hurting other rape victims too though because no one will believe them when report that they've been assaulted. (Which happens most of the time)

But no. It's not as bad as rape.
It's pretty damn close

Imagine someone shoving a large dildo up your dry ass against your will and beating you, causing you emotional and physical problems that will stick with you for life and a long time.

Hmm doesn't seem remotely close. srug

Originally posted by AbnormalButSane
Imagine someone shoving a large dildo up your dry ass against your will and beating you, causing you emotional and physical problems that will stick with you for life and a long time.

Hmm doesn't seem remotely close. srug
My cousin has raped me (and honey I'm gay I know what it is like to have a dildo in my ass)

Then you should know they're not the same.

Originally posted by AbnormalButSane
Then you should know they're not the same.
No I don't mean they are the same I believe the accuser should get the same sentence as rape

If she's lying get a good attorney and destroy her.

If she isn't... I don't know.

Originally posted by AbnormalButSane
Yes, it's terrible when people lie about it, and you should definitely be charged with slander and a waste of police resources. slander? No; That's not a serious enough charge. Women who lie about rape need prison time and they should be put on a sex offender list and forced to tell their neighbors and futures employers that they lie about being raped.

Women who lie about rape should be treated as pariahs.

also, in the cases where men are freed after serving time for a rape they didn't commit, the woman who lied about it needs to support him financially and serve all the prison time he did... i don't care if she dies in prison.

Originally posted by marwash22
slander? No; That's not a serious enough charge. Women who lie about rape need prison time and they should be put on a sex offender list and forced to tell their neighbors and futures employers that they lie about being raped.

Women who lie about rape should be treated as pariahs.

I'm not saying they shouldn't be punished. I'm saying it's not as bad as being raped, and I'm sorry, but you'll never convince me that it is.

Women who are actually raped and report it are already treated like pariahs though. ...That's why there is very little reason for a woman to report it unless it is actually true.

We don't disagree on that point. I actually think rape isn't prosecuted strongly enough.

All I'm saying is that a misdemeanor isn't good enough for lying about something as serious as rape.

Perjury is a felony. hmm

fair enough.

women who lie about rape aren't always called to testify in court tho. Sometimes the guy goes to prison based on the accusation and circumstantial evidence alone.

There are also the times women claim to "remember incorrectly" and face no charges.

Even if they get the maximum sentence for purgery, it's not enough, imo.

Nobody should ever make false accusations, regardless of what they accusation actually is.

The fact remains being a victim of this sort of crime is surely more horrific and awful than being accused of it. Though why the comparison needs to be made at all is sad.

Originally posted by Spawningpool
That's just a excuse to make porn
Man: "Honey this is for both our protection. We just met 4 hours ago. You dont know me."

Woman:

Well, she only told her bf. I am thinking about pressing charges, but I do no have an attorney, nor any money to my name, she has people on her side that will wrongfully vouch for her.

why were you messing round with your ex if she got a bf now? or is that some open-minded relationship?

maybe you could talk to her about it first, why would she accuse you?

Originally posted by \\W//
why were you messing round with your ex if she got a bf now? or is that some open-minded relationship?

maybe you could talk to her about it first, why would she accuse you?

Temptation does shit to people, I asked her multiple times if she was okay with it, and she said "I don't mind".

She accused me to save her own skin, she was in hysterics, afraid that he would dump her, when I was there, I tried to hug her and tell her everything was alright. Did I mention we played video games and cuddled AFTER it happened, and that I was there for another hour and thirty minutes?

I did feel awful and started crying. She said he bf wasn't mad, and when I got home, I knew why, she lied to him. Either that or he's lying to himself, but I doubt it, because she blocked me on social media after me and him talked.

What I told him was simple: "I'm not saying she wasn't against it, or implying that she wanted it, but she made no effort whatsoever to stop me, not even a nudge, she layed back, and LET me play with her breasts .-.".

It depends how the rape was done. LEts he invites you over. Then gets you drunk and then does nasty nasty things to you. Not as bad as being treated like a criminal for the rest of your sorry life.

But then some slight shame from what others wrongly think of you, that's nothing to being in a hostile situation with weapons and maybe other gang members or if it was a home invasion and you are in terror and in fear of your life.

Originally posted by Dramatic Gecko
It depends how the rape was done. LEts he invites you over. Then gets you drunk and then does nasty nasty things to you. Not as bad as being treated like a criminal for the rest of your sorry life.

But then some slight shame from what others wrongly think of you, that's nothing to being in a hostile situation with weapons and maybe other gang members or if it was a home invasion and you are in terror and in fear of your life.
Rape is rape

Now you're just arguing semantics.

But u said if the person. Is drunk the rape is not that bad. That sounds pretty horrible to me

When you are Drunk, your judgement is impaired. Let me be clear, just because you regret it, does NOT mean it is rape, or even molestation.

p sure in the u.s. there are actual laws that state that being drunk automatically means you cannot give informed consent therefore it's considered rape by law
you're drunk. your judgement is impaired meaning you can't make informed decisions with the clear mind and judgement you normally would be able to.
i know this is true in at least some states if not all
just sayin'

Originally posted by Jmanghan
I was, today. Its not a fun feelin when your ex, whom you've known since 9th grade, accuses you of molesting her.


Also, a side question, should I press charges against her? And will this ruin my life? O.o



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