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So what do you guys out here think of having misunderstandings with people-friends-who you feel have betrayed that friendship ?????????

Be gone with em!

People betray me once and once only, then they simply become non-people to me and therefore beneath my notice.

I'm a kind of 'once bitten, etc...' type of person.

I can say though that I have only been, what you might call, betrayed twice in my life and the above methodology has been ultimate reaction and it has worked.

Perhaps it's not a very charitable viewpoint, but it worked for me!

That's what I said......

this is scary

I'm like a rock when people mess with me if they go against our friendship I try not to worry I'll be Adrian tomorrow no worries.

hmmm....i think there's a lot of room for misunderstanding, etc. in any event, i like to give ppl another chance. (after all, i give offence so often that i'd be a hypocrite to expect forgiveness when i didn't have any, right? *lol* )

This is very helpful to me Gentlemen and I appreciate all your remarks and thoughts thus far.

Misunderstandings happen all the time primarily due to one individual who gets ideas above his station and tries to enforce his will on others who have different belief systems.

Good friends can make mistakes, things aren't always as they seems, people should be allowd a chance to at least explain themselves and you shouldlisten with an open mind, and be totally non-judgemental, otherwise you are worse than them, friends forgive.

This happened to a friend of mine

This girl Emily was telling my friend Amy about how far she'd gone with her boyfriend (pretty far) and it was supposed to be a secret. So Amy decides to tell Emily a secret of hers. The next day Emily told Emily these really disgusting boys Amy's secret. So Amy told everyone Emily's secret. And the moral of the story is: don't tell secrets to people who don't know how to keep their mouth shut!

This is a hypothetical situation Corran. A scientific experiment if you will.

True that's happens alot I also hate people who think since they have a high rank title they can do and say what they want being power hungery and other.

There are a lot of those type of people on the net that is for sure. People who get delusions of grandeur and of being better than others due to some self percieved status.

yeah that's the truth they think just since where not a certain status that soem people don't have the right to speck back to them.

yeah that's the truth they think just since where not a certain status that soem people don't have the right to speck back to them.

I do believe in second chances depending in the situation, if it is about money, a job, a car or anything else that does not involve my girl or family members i might give my "friend' a second chance and also depends how close am i with my the "friend' in question. If it has to do with a family member i dont care what nationality u r, u dont let noone mess with ur family and if it is a girl u r with, 1- they should be off-limits to my friends, as my friends they have to know she is only to be just their friends and nothing else, even if we break up i think out of respect no of my guy friends should see mess with her, me as a rule no matter how hot and fine she looks if shes been/is with a friend of mine i wont get beyond the friendship even if she gets naked in front of me(it has happened to me) i wont touch her and me if i know shes been with a friend of mine and they broke up years ago i still wont go after her, it is disrespectful to my friends and girls come and go until you find "The 1" but friends, real friends are hard to find but lets say they dont respect me the same, ill 1- stop hangin around them 2- vengeance is sweet, it could happen the same day, the next week,month, year ill have my payback because friends, real friends should know better!

Correctamundo, and I have merely answered your question with what I think I would do, no crime there is there?

You are known to us and I do not trust anything you have to say on this subject. Make of that what you will.

Augey u r definetly right, there r people, even in here that thibk too highly of themselves, they think they know everything and when you try to make a point they try to bring you down, again a couple in here as well and just because they either have a bigger position or a higher ranking they try to take advantage of said position/ranking and try to step all over u because in their minds they believe that they are right, that they are better than everyone else but "GOOD THINGS COME TO THOSE WHO WAIT" and every dog has its day.

No, guilt is for losers, I merely posted my answer on what I would do if a friend of mine betrayed that friendship, I would not dump them automatically I would merely give them a chance. why would giving someone a chance make me feel guilty anyhow?

I agree absolutely and everything you have said here is true.

Corran I suggest you reread my earlier post again carefully.

I have re-read it after you editted it, a litle chirlish if you ask me, but whatever cooks your goose Dude.

No more than your friends altering my friends' posts.

what are these friends you talk of, I think I have mentioned before that I don't have any ..what was that word...oh yes, friends.

Then you have nothing to worry about as you don't have to worry about friends betraying you then.

But if I did have any, then I would do what I said before.

Of course that is understood. Thanks for such an honest opinion Corran. It should make my project all the more fascinating.

geez, guys...all this hostility. 0-o i agree with corran, though. friends forgive.

Narcil as I said before this is a hypothetical situation for important research I am doing. If you disapprove no one is making you post here.

It would depend on the depth of the betrayal, as I see it from my own eyes. But I agree with Corran for the most part....giving someone a second chance shows how big of a person you are. But not necessarily third and fourth chances, you know.

So if someone does it over and over you would not call him friend again?

That is correct. If it is a continual betrayal, I would consider it unacceptable behavior and discontinue the friendship. I wouldn't be losing a friend, because the friendship would have ceased to exist anyway.

Hm...a most enlightened view you seem to have Gundark. What if the person in question claimed not to know why you were mad at him even after several attempts to do so have been made?

What about hypocrisy in relationships? Or being lead on by certain kinds of people who use you then get rid of you just like that?

Very true GS.

Yeah Augey, I think this thread has reached its impasse. Maybe it can be closed or not as the mods wish.

woah..wait---i never said i disapproved of anything. i think his answer was a perfectly general one; one i happened to agree with. ^_^*
secondly...i think that if this hypothetical friend is incapable of seeing what the 'issue' is or whatever, but is still trying to make amends, you should still consider him as a friend (give him second chances, etc.) ^_^