Hey Guys I've Been at kmc for over a year now and i've found it to be freindly and full of people with the a simalar mindset to my own.I dont have that many freinds at school and i find it very difficult to socialize and i get really shy around girls.There's this one girl i like but i dont have the courage to tell her how special she is.I have almost lost hope and my few freinds have little advice on the matter.I am turning to kmc for advice because i dont know where else to go'I dont live with my parents and my guardian is too distant to give me any meaningfull advice i was just wondering what you guys had to say and perhaps you could help me in my hour of need.THE GAME
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Take a couple of deep breaths and tell her how you feel. Ask her out or something of the sort. There's nothing more to it and nothing less. Either you tell her or you don't. We can't give you courage. Only you can. Don't come to us. Go to her. Postponing builds up nervosity and nervosity prevents you from doing things you want. You want to go talk to her, so go talk to her.
Q'Anilia's got the right idea. just do it. dont play around and if she says no dont push it. just respect her choice. Try not to seem nervous no matter what it takes either. Confidance will let her know that your serious.
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If all else fails, there's always rape. Wear a ski-mask so she doesn't know who you are, making it easier to come* back for seconds.
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If you're a dork nerd and she's even just average, you've got no chance in hell without some sort of skills like bostaff fighting. If you beat a pack of ninjas with a bow staff, she will be impressd. I'm halfway serious about this one.
You're what? 15. Ask her out to a movie (your treat, including snacks) and let her pick the movie, that way when it's over, you have something that she's interested in to talk about, thereby opening up conversation.
Be nice, but not overly nice, chew your popcorn with your mouth closed, don't fart around her and always pretend to be paying attention when she's yapping, even if it's something mundane about herself.
Sure you might have to suffer through some shit like Twilight or High school Musical part 12, but it's an in; that's what you need first.
She could be an emo and not talk at all (Then Twilight is perfect, lulz). She may want him to fart in order to feel comfortable around him! I farted on some of my first dates and then I would say, "smeh dat shit." JK. Not even close.
WE KNOW NOTHING! about this lady.
The only thing that is sure is skills. If he has a GOOD skill, it can only help him, not hinder.
We don't know and my scenario doesn't rely on that. That's why he's letting her pick the movie, so it's something she's interested in and something he can [pretend to] relate to after. He needs an in, this is an easy one.
There's a very low chance she's the type that enjoys a fart, at least with someone she's unfamiliar with, if need be, he can judge the situation later and fart, if needed.
Not all girls are impressed by bo-staff skills, that and the time it would take for him to learn enough proficiency to impress doesn't make it worthwhile. The movie-date is a simpler and more effective path. If he happens to deduce that she's impressed by bo-staffery during the conversation post movie, he can then take classes.
Some chicks hate going to a movie for a date. They think it's an old and broken first date. They say things like, "You can't really talk." There are betters ways for the "in."
He knows her well, it seems. Unless he's a stalker, she knows him well too. Farts away!
Bostaff skills would be used to defeat a pack of ninjas, in front of her. PAY ATTENTION!
No, he should do something other than see a movie on the first date. Something that allows more conversation. He should go to some place to eat, go to an amusement park, watch a movie at his or her parents place, play a board/card game. Play video games (if she wants to). Go for a walk/stroll/rollerbalding through a park or other nice place.
Now, his chances of wooing her are much much greater if he goes shopping with her at a mall. You think I'm joking? If he has just enough money to get her something nice...heh heh. Now, some may think that this is a generalization about women, but it's not. Dudes like to do that too...girls just like it more, per capita.
Dinner and movie works well. There's nothing wrong with going to the movie theatre for a first date, especially if they know eachother from before. Start with a dinner would be good though, which gives opportunity to chat before watching a movie of her preference.
Sharing popcorn kicks ass. Gives sneaky opportunities to touch hands
He's not going to be taking her home after the movie and leaving, the movie serves as a topic of conversation they both can immediately relate too, which will lead to further [non movie] conversation, possibly a meal afterwards and hopefully further dating.
That really depends, I took it that they didn't have much between them already, so a movie is a nice neutral area, instead of something like his parents house, which could be awkward for her. They're also in their early teens, movie is perfect, if he had been older(and has a car), sure, a nice dinner to start, some wine and drunken butt-sex later that night.
I would definitely say no to taking her to the mall and buying her gifts, bad way to start a relationship.
When sheīs alone ask her out for coffee or something.
A coffee is less imposing as a meal, its a neutral place, you have time to talk and slowly get to know each other.
Be yourself, donīt try to over impress as it will mess things up later when she finds out you arnīt what you said you were.
Ask lots of questions, show interest in HER!!
Donīt go on about YOU.
Try and read the signīs, you donīt have to tell her straight away how you feel, its obvious cause you asked her out. That comes later when you get to know each other, after all you might find out something you donīt like about her.
Good luck, and donīt worry about it if she says no,
she might change her mind eventually, women are weird like that.
Exactly, but don't reiterate. If you get rejected, the ball is on her side of the field. Don't force your way to it. Play your cards right. Take things cool.
I did the dinner and movie thing many times. Just a movie isn't enough, imo.
Nice try, but you never said that.
Besides, a movie, at home, alone, is much better than a movie theater movie, if you know each other. He can make them dinner, which is sexy.
And, that's your opinion on going to the mall. It is an "in" and these are not "complex" adults. The little lady isn't going to expect a 15 year old to take her to the mall and buy her expensive shit every time they go out. That only happens when you're an adult and lie about your income to your adult date.
And, far from a rookie. I've probably been on more variety dates than you've dated women.
Call me sentimental or a wimp, but I liked to get to know the lady I was dating. I'd much rather talk and snuggle than sit in a theater with strangers all about us.
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May 20th, 2009 12:30 PM
JK. Not even close.
