Do something kind for someone you care about after reading this post. Firstly, consider your parents or siblings for this because they have to put up with you.
Choose one or more of the following:
1. Legit compliment someone you care about with a message (text, whatsapp, messenger, doesn't matter). And don't make it underhanded, either. Make a direct compliment. Such as, "I enjoyed your comments on movie. Shows that you're insightful and thoughtful." Or, "I saw you put a blanket on Beth when we all went to sleep. You have a good soul. Knowing you makes me a better person."
2. Clean something for someone. Sweep their floor, do their laundry, get their car washed, do their dishes, do something.
3. Call one of your friends and take them out. Go eat somewhere cheap or fancy. Go for a walk, visit a museum, go hiking, etc. Throw in some of #1 while spending time with this person. Try your best not to be negative. Don't talk shit about anyone or anything. Try to stay positive. Remember, this is for that person and show them a true quality time.
4. Give that person a hug. Pat on the back. Hold their hand. Give a foot massage or scalp massage. Whatever. Do something to physically interact without being a creep.
5. Buy something small for that person. Something thoughtful and relevant. Buy a keychain trinket of Link if they like Legend of Zelda. Buy them nostalgic candy. Buy them a novelty toy. Buy them something that shows you are thoughtful and care.
I promise, if you do these things for people you care about, you guys will slowly stop being so angry all the time.
Who is feeling angry at the moment? I'll do something nice for you so you don't have to be so angry.
Gender: Male Location: The Proud Nation of Kekistan
I'm not angry atm, but I really appreciate the point of this thread, and I respect the moral character of someone who would genuinely try and help everyone out in a place as volatile as this.
Reminds me of a rule I put in a google doc called "12 Rules for Pursuing Moral Virtue: An Antidote to Sin" (sorta an homage to Jordan Peterson's 12 Rules for Life):
Be grateful for what you have
It’s easy to take what you have for granted or lose sight of it in the face of tragedy, but I would urge everyone to take the time to properly contemplate and reflect upon what they actually have in life and make the effort to inculcate gratitude for those things, because being as grateful as you can be for what you have makes it easier to love. I know that when I personally take the time to give thanks for what I have that I come out on the other end of that contemplation with more love and appreciation in my heart for both my own existence and that of others, as well as a more clear recognition of fundamental worth that I can uphold. It’s surprising how many people, including myself, don’t follow this advice to the extent that they should because there’s virtually no downside to it. Being as grateful as you can possibly be for what you have is an attitude that maximizes the satisfaction and contentment with your life, and the only reason not to do it would be so you can be more dissatisfied with your life than you have to be. Unnecessarily dissatisfied too I might add, since there are instances in which you’d put yourself through something painful in service to yourself or others, however this is not an instance in which that is the case. Being less satisfied with your life than you could be because you aren’t as grateful for what you have as you should be isn’t something that remotely helps you or anyone else. So by all means, give thanks for what you have because it will make you more satisfied with your life, which is in your best interest, and will fill you with more love and humility, which is in everyone’s best interest. It’s a win win decision, and you’d be foolish not to take it, and I myself am foolish for not practicing this to the extent that I could. The fundamental reason I think people, again including myself, don’t practice this to the extent that they should is because on one level they are arrogant enough to think that their life doesn’t deserve their satisfaction given it’s vulnerability and tragedy and that to try and be grateful for it would be a personal insult to their honor in some sense, and because on a different level people are too ashamed of themselves to think they deserve that satisfaction.
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Shadilay my brothers and sisters. With any luck we will throw off the shackles of normie oppression. We have nothing to lose but our chains! Praise Kek!
THE MOTTO IS "IN KEK WE TRUST"
Gender: Male Location: The Proud Nation of Kekistan
Anger is fire, something to treat with caution but at times a useful tool.
Resentment is poison and should be kept away from your heart at all times.
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Shadilay my brothers and sisters. With any luck we will throw off the shackles of normie oppression. We have nothing to lose but our chains! Praise Kek!
THE MOTTO IS "IN KEK WE TRUST"
I think the only Beth in my city is my cousin. I don't think me saying these words would help anyone feel better. It might actually ruin their night tbh.
I think many of you are hiding behind a facade of humor instead of being real and talking "real things." You're using humor to shield yourselves.
Why do many of you have to beat down each other, with words, and assert dominance so much? Why do small things affect you and make you want to argue for pages? I understand if something is a hobby of yours or is something you follow a lot (such as Net Neutrality or LGBT+ rights). It's okay to be passionate about things. But not angry. So much anger.
I'm going to pick on Quan for a bit..
Take Quan for example. In real life, he's a super cool dude. Laid back. Decent person. If you needed him to help you out and he knew you even semi-decently, he'd offer to help as long as his schedule was free. He's that kind of person. But on the internet, he just can't stop from having to beat down everyone and he seems so angry. Where did his callousness come from? He clearly has a good heart in real life.
Take rudester: he clearly has some mental issues that he has talked about at length with people but he has a strong drive to want to be better. But he gets so angry at the world for things he can fix. He just needs to...stop being so angry. Don't be so angry, rudester. You have control over you, your thoughts, your actions. Not others. Figure out how to live in that locus of control. And be happy with it (as DMB talked about in his post). Don't be so angry, man.
Also, Whirly is never angry. He just gets bored. That's why he messes with people. He gets incredibly bored.
Mindship needs to post more. He needs to advise more. But I think he doesn't have patience for us anymore. He spent too many days in the past trying to discuss things.
But who is feeling down or angry? Just PM me or call me. We'll talk. I don't want bad things to happen to any of you, even if that bad things happening are in your head. We've known each other for YEARS. Some of us talking to each other, over time, more than our significant others, friends, and family. There's no reason we need to put up emotional barriers and facades, hiding behind jokes, memes, humor, and especially anger.
I'm not angry, but I'll confess that I'm sad. I'm actually quite miserable, to be perfectly honest.
My marriage is dead and my "wife" is officially my roommate. We're civil and nice to each other and we have regular conversation and we sit down at the dinner table to eat together, but we're just married on paper. I can't even remember the last time we had sex. We're going to wait until 2022 when our daughter is 18 and then I plan to set a world record for "Fastest Divorce, ever" so I can restart my life and find someone to love and who, in turn, will love me back.
Marriage sucks. I did for all the wrong reasons, the main one being because we had a baby together. Everyone badgered me to "do the right thing" and "man up" because "if you lay down to make a baby then you need to stand up and be a family man".
I love my daughter more than my life itself and wouldn't change her being in my life for anything. My little girl is my life and reason, but it's pretty damn hard not being with someone to romantically love. Parental love is awesome, but my miserable heart years for more. I want to be with someone who gets me and whom I get, as well. My wife and I don't have that..................I don't think we ever did. I don't hate her, nor does she hate me. I love her as my friend, as a human, and as the mother of my child. But I'm not IN LOVE with her. I suspect she feels just as much the same way.
The even more sad & f*cked up part is that I simply can't divorce her and leave because she doesn't make enough money to support herself or the debts we owe. Once I pick up some steady oil field work I plan to save and save so I can pay off student loans, bills and other debt so I can pave a pathway for my freedom from this curse of a marriage. I've had several offers from other branches of my company to transfer to different cities like Denver, Phoenix, and even New York, but I can't go and leave until this shit storm is cleared for both of us.
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