What is the Point of Love if it is going to Hurt you?

No one likes to be hurt. Physically nor mentality. And you know relationships don't last. Why struggle to find love and happiness with another person? When there is a high chance that person might hurt your feelings in the future? Do we really have sadistic desires? Are we really beings that enjoy pain? Is that why we fall in love?

Come on you Romantics come here and correct me. 😉

I think it's jsut an easy calculation...."Pleasure Derived" vs "Pain Possible" x "Chance for Pain to occur"

Possibly some more..that'S the basic thing though.

Originally posted by WrathfulDwarf
No one likes to be hurt. Physically nor mentality. And you know relationships don't last. Why struggle to find love and happiness with another person? When there is a high chance that person might hurt your feelings in the future? Do we really have sadistic desires? Are we really beings that enjoy pain? Is that why we fall in love?

Come on you Romantics come here and correct me. 😉

Hope or maybe wishful thinking...

Originally posted by WrathfulDwarf
No one likes to be hurt. Physically nor mentality. And you know relationships don't last. Why struggle to find love and happiness with another person? When there is a high chance that person might hurt your feelings in the future? Do we really have sadistic desires? Are we really beings that enjoy pain? Is that why we fall in love?

Come on you Romantics come here and correct me. 😉

True...Wishful for the feeling of it and the happiness we think it would bring.

You don't eat, you die.
You don't breathe, you die.
You don't love, you die. It just takes longer.

Yeah....

No regrets.

Well, I think it is simply the fact, that everyone desires happiness and love is often enough source of such great happiness, that we seek to find and keep hold on.

Of course there is always the chance of getting hurt, but that is with everything in our lives that make us happy, because to everything there is a contrary, mostly just losing that specific thing whatsoever that made you happy in the first place.

As we know the greater the happiness, the stronger the pain, it is to us to decide how much happiness we can take, to bear the resulting pain.

If we avoid any pain, we avoid any happiness and that would be a try to live in indolence.

So, if it is seen like that, it is a matter of strength how happy one truly can be.

And yea right, I think 'love' is not what most people think, something for the own advantage, but a matter of 'giving', no matter how f*cked, not 'receiving happiness', but hey .. whatever explanation you prefer.
[that might be taken wrongly, don't know how to explain it, right now .. dontgetit]

(sorry, I am tired, so .. off to bed now and way too lazy to correct those phrases I'm insecure about .... I suck at English lately 😛)

The most important thing with love is the good times you have with the person before it ends. Even when a relationship goes sour, you can look back later on and smile at all the beautiful and tender memories you have.

If we avoided doing things because they might hurt us, we'd all be very bored, and sad people.

Originally posted by WrathfulDwarf
No one likes to be hurt. Physically nor mentality. And you know relationships don't last. Why struggle to find love and happiness with another person? When there is a high chance that person might hurt your feelings in the future? Do we really have sadistic desires? Are we really beings that enjoy pain? Is that why we fall in love?

Come on you Romantics come here and correct me. 😉

It's essentially a case of not settling for a neutral existence.

If you never love, you will never feel the pain that can arise from those situations. However, you will also never feel the highs of love.

Originally posted by Tha C-Master
If you never hurt for the person, how can you know you really care?

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I've always believed, that living a life of happiness is worth the risk of getting hurt.

From the responses so far is that pain is good? I guess love and pain can't be separted then...

Necessary, maybe a necessary evil... good is often mixed with pleasant, but beneficial and pleasant aren't the same.

Originally posted by WrathfulDwarf
No one likes to be hurt. Physically nor mentality. And you know relationships don't last. Why struggle to find love and happiness with another person? When there is a high chance that person might hurt your feelings in the future? Do we really have sadistic desires? Are we really beings that enjoy pain? Is that why we fall in love?

Come on you Romantics come here and correct me. 😉

We live in a natural selective universe. What does not kill you makes you suffer. Trial and error, all these things play into the role of courtship and “soul-mates”. The pain is but an obstacle you need to over come. If love is too harsh, than perhaps it is not a thing for you. Because it’s just like they say, Can’t take the pain, don’t play the game

Originally posted by BackFire
The most important thing with love is the good times you have with the person before it ends. Even when a relationship goes sour, you can look back later on and smile at all the beautiful and tender memories you have.

If we avoided doing things because they might hurt us, we'd all be very bored, and sad people.

PLEASE hear this: Love was meant only for "oneself" loving yourself allows you to keep your way steady, no matter the person you like is good or bad you won't be affected cause you love yourself the most. I think we should like everyone. A woman should like all men not just 1 man because nobody is perfect and it can hurt you | or a man should like all women not just 1 woman because nobody is perfect and it can hurt you.