Whether its through religion, philosophy, socializing, etc.
You have to find your own way, walk your own path, endure your own struggles, carry your own cross, and find your own strength.
When you are free from the limits that you imposed on yourself, the limits that others have created for you which you cemented by giving in.....then you are strong.
Once you are strong, you can help other people acheive this strength as well.
To find everything profound — that is an inconvenient trait. It makes you strain your eyes all the time, and in the end you find more than you might have wished.
If you sincerely think he's wrong then there's no reason to be afraid to question what he said, as long as you have the right intention within your heart when trying to reveal the truth to him.
Just make sure you present your case well. In the end if you both value and love the truth - then in the end you will have a better understanding and appreciation of one another's views, despite whether or not each of you were entirely correct about the argument.
Many intelligent people still feel they need to find solace or refuge in another person. They do not know how to completely love and strengthen themselves, because they are entirely surrounded by contradicting ideals, negativity, judgement and suffering.
It takes a lot of experience and struggle to realize this Truth.
I think everyone know's what you're talking about - but just remember, if we choose to bear the cross entirely ourselves, then we're responsable for any outcome carrying that cross brings us to in the end...
And I am not telling people that they shouldn't seek help. What I am saying is that every person sooner or later will find that after trying to find thier answers in every other person, they will eventually figure out that the answer was within themself the entire time.
Learning is very important, and one must seek others to learn. However, the lesson will always be the same in the end....Only you can make yourself happy. Only you can make yourself strong. Only you can empower or defeat yourself. No one else is responsible, only you.
Don't get me wrong, I agree with what you've said here but I have a feeling you haven't thoroughly thought this one out. If we all go around not listening to each other, trying to find our own answers for the questions of the world, we're just gonna end up with lots of different opinions on the matter. And we all know what different opinions lead to. History has shown us most wars are over land or a difference of beliefs. Its already happening. People have thought about questions and came up with answers. "How did we come into existence? God made us." "What makes it night and day? A great god in a flying chariot pulls the curtain of night back and forth everyday." Then they go out and share their discoveries.
I think the thing we need to do is learn to accept each others discoveries. When(if) humanity has accomplished that, we'll all be better off.
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"I don't care if I fall, as long as someone picks up my gun and keeps on shooting." -Ernesto Guevara.
Learn to listen you say ? Even in this way, learning to listen can be another cross to be carried. Communication can be a very complicated thing.
I think many things we learn from outside are more for practical purposes, some things can only be done by yourself or you will never truly understand it.