Okay, so say you've been going out with someone for just over two months but there ex keeps texting them. And I mean stuff like I love you to bits, CAn't belive I let you go, etc etc what would you do? My Bf's closest friend says that he wont do anything but him and hjis ex are meeting up next friday but he doesn't know that I know. Argh this is really getting me down cos I really like this one I mean LIKE spelt LOVE. hmph...
I realy would love to do that but I cant. I've spoken to sam (my BF) about it before and he has promised me that him and his ex are over. So that reassures me a bit. But, like, would it be a bad Idea to "Accidently" bump into them when they are in town?
Just let them talk. Trust me. If your bf really loves you, he will remain loyal to you.
If he cheats, then you know the truth, and there's a thousand other guys out there for you.
Just ask yourself though...why does it bother you so much ? Is it cuz the other guy is really that hott ? It's common for guys and girls to still talk to thier ex's as freinds.
I hope you don't mind me asking you a series of questions, but I think I can help somewhat...I've been through this a lot:
1) Is the first time you fell in Love ? If not, would you say this is the most intense time you are in love ?
2) How well do you know the other guy ?
3) How well do you know Sam ?
4) Now this one is really important...in the text messages, does the other guy flirt with Sam ? That's a biggie....!
5) I hope this is not too personal, but have you ever been heartbroken before ?
Right now, I am currently seeing A jewish kid named Emil. He's in Europe right now for 5 weeks, wont see him again til mid August. He has beautiful green eyes, brown hair, light skinned, love him. So far....
It's like...the sex wasn't even that amazing, but I fell for him harder than any other guy. And i'd rather have "boring" sex with this guy than have amazing sex with any other guy.
But I also trained myself to tame my attachments. If it doesnt work out, then I just work on myself, and pursue someone else.
But rather, Tell Sam after ( that night/next day/etc ) That you saw them together, and ask him why. Make sure you don't corner him at all. In a relationship put trust before doubt.
No one likes Heartbreak. My first actual heartbreak was before I graduated from high school, about 3 years ago. I was heart broken for two years straight...second worst hell i ever been through.
It seems the other guy is flirting with Sam.
I'm not trying to stereotype, but Gay guys flirt with each other a lot, even when thier not together. That's atleast been my experience.
I'm VERY picky when it comes to a guy I choose to date, not based much on looks, but more so on whether or not I feel I can trust the guy.
Every single date I have ever been on (with another guy) has turned into a hook up. Now, people may say "oh ur lucky, you went to 3rd base on the first date", but in reality, it kills everything.
When you give it up to a guy the first time, he pretty much thinks he's had the best of you, and there's nothing left, so he may no longer be interested.
I'm sure you know this already, but it's good to be reminded.
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Now, as for Sam and the other guy....You need to set things straight ! It's different if the guy asks "how are you" and "wat's up", innocent things, but if the guy is pretty much hitting on your boyfreind, and your boyfreind thinks its okay, then yeah, you have every right to be mad about it.
Talk to Sam, and tell him it bothers you when the other guy flirts with him...why shouldn't it ? If you were in a straight relationship, and another guy was hitting on your girl, you'd be just as mad !
Gay relations shouldn't have "exceptions". If the guy is into you, he should be loyal to you, and not crave attention or compliments from other guys, only you.
I know you may be afraid to turn Sam away, but he needs to respect you. You can't sell yourself just because your afraid of losing someone. Trust me, I've been there before, settling for less, torturing myself over another guy, no one is worth it.
I made a pact to myself: I will never suffer over someone who wont suffer over me
I suggest you make the same rule for yourself Marko.
And if Sam can't understand it, or still clings to an ex who is trying to claim him back, then maybe he isn't ready to move to another relationship just yet. I hope this helped. I'm not trying to downtalk you, but you are 17, and still have a lot to learn about other guys. You will learn eventually that the only man you truly need is yourself. Having a boyfreind is just an extra bonus of life.
COMMUNICATION! You wouldn't believe how many relationships hit the rocks hard because couples aren't able to communicate with each other. I on the other hand wouldn't recommend competing. Just knock the other dude out. I could do it...for a price
All the ways you wish you could be, that's me. I look like you wanna look, I **** like you wanna ****, I am smart, capable, and most importantly, I am free in all the ways that you are not.
All the ways you wish you could be, that's me. I look like you wanna look, I **** like you wanna ****, I am smart, capable, and most importantly, I am free in all the ways that you are not.
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I mean LIKE spelt LOVE. hmph...
Jul 27th, 2007 01:18 PM
