Ask any 13 year old what happens when you have sex. I'm pretty sure most know. That's not the issue. The issue is a child cannot give informed consent, most of the time, because they are not aware of the sway power structures and manipulation can have on a person.
But...and this is why I think should be a test before you're allowed to have sexual relations with another: many adults suffer from the same problem. Also, I want that test to exist because I'm clearly an evil fascist bastard.
Pop culture is riddled with examples of a young, underage man getting an older woman as an example of a great adventure. No wonder society's view is slanted.
First season of Family Ties, underage high school-er Alex P. Keaton (Michael J. Fox) gets seduced by a woman in college.
First season of Buffy The Vampire Slayer, Xander (Nicolas Brendon) goes after a new substitute teacher who responds to his affections in kind(though she turns out to be monster in the Buffyverse.) A situation repeated in many other shows like Madison, Dawson Creek, Soap etc. The story is never about the female teacher being a predator who must be stopped & arrested.
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Such "feminists" do exist though, to varying extents. Nephthys in particular is an example of a misandrist feminist, albeit a fairly tame one, and yes Nephthys I did just name drop you without giving a **** about your feelings thug life yoloswag.
They are pretty firmly in the minority, but they make up for it by being very loud and, more to the point, far more memorable.
As for why Blax did that in particular, I dunno, he'd have to tell you.
Also: Lolwut. This woman isn't even that attractive, hardly the woman of a young boy's dreams.
One of my friends first sexual experiences was when he was 13 with a 32 year old women (In reflection, that was pretty terrible). Granted at first he was shocked (He was flirting but he didn't in a million years think it would go anywhere), fled to the kitchen, realized he was being a pussy, came back and had one of his best memories ever.
Once a boy hits 16, they're well aware of what the hell they're doing and they most definitely want to get it on. Girls are exactly like that too, unfortunately most assume they are fragile victims that are raped or something. I'm sure this happens in some ghastly situations but in my experience, girls often actively seek out older men just as much as boys the same age do.
Don't get me wrong, there should be boundaries and all, such as between teacher and student and in other situations where someone has a possession of influence, but the bias is annoying.
I'm not sure about other cities, but here in Toronto you should almost always card women yourself because 16 year old girls get into 19+ lounges and bars all the time. One of my friends almost got into deep shit because of that type of situation. The parents pressed charges but their daughter had a fake ID, and wasn't in a back alley bent over because someone forced her, but because she's a f*cking ****.
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Women banging young boys shouldn't be a crime. Every teen boy lusts after at least one milf or hot teacher he knows. It's completely natural.
I think this a problem only in the USA, you guys are too prudish about this stuff. I've dated two teens last year (16 and 17 years old) and no one gave a shit.
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I think an age of consent of 18 is ridiculous. In essence I agree with dadudemon, that it should be down to individual maturity. However I can see the use for a hard line to make it easier to deal with.
I don't think that it should be treated differently depending on the gender of those involved. While there's definitely a lot of young, teenage boys who will desire sex with an older woman, there will also be a fair amount that will be traumatised by having such a relationship, and be unable to maturely make such a decision.
At any rate, the fundamental issue with things like this is that the adults might be taking advantage of desires in the teenagers that they can not really understand, put in context or estimate the relevance of if the future. When that happens these adults should be punished.
I also agree that our society has a double standard. In this case it works in favour of female predators, but it's really based on the different expectations of sexuality we have (and teach) for boys and girls.
The subjective attractiveness you may feel for the offender should really be of no matter.
I talked about this with a feminist friend of mine, and the issue isn't as clear cut with her - because she has a harder time seeing a man (even as a young teenager) as a helpless victim.
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