yeah man there is ALOT of free porn out there and some sites actually have competitions and what not for ametures to upload their videos
but back to the topic at hand, the access people have with the internet is alot and you will often see advertisements for a range of things both seually explicit and other
Well you can never shelter your child completely from certain things and the more you try the more they will rebel against that.
Truth is if you raise your kid right then porn won't really cause them any harm. If it bothers someone though then like I said there are ways to control it. There are methods to do this for free, but if it really bothers someone there are also programs they can purchase that are more difficult to circumvent.
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Last edited by Surtur on Oct 1st, 2015 at 02:34 AM
"No and no" to succinctly answer the OP's questions. I think anyone convinced otherwise is being atrociously paranoid. Censorship can't prevent dumb parenting, which is the actual cause of any perceived problems for which porn is sometimes used as a scapegoat. But parental controls exist for plenty of things, and also exist in the world of common sense and knowing what your children are being exposed to and putting it in the proper perspective when they are ready for it.
You're looking for some measurable variable, but it's a flawed premise. There isn't a "good parent formula" but it's obvious when you see it.
Talk to any teacher, for example. I was one briefly, so I can speak from some experience. Literally the only thing you need to ensure that a kid is going to do alright in school is that the parents care about their child's success. If they're invested, the kid is fine. If not...that's when you get problems. It sounds simplistic, but it holds alarmingly true. Of course it won't ensure straight A's or a life without problems, but I can guarantee you that 99% of "problem" kids or those failing classes come from an apathetic home.
So it's the same type of thing. An investment in your child's well-being, and actions that reflect that investment, takes care of most problems.
I wouldn't actually count (viewing) porn as a major source of corruption, either, but that's a different matter. In terms of its ability to negatively influence children, there are far bigger fish to fry. I won't use a flawed "I watched porn in HS argument and I turned out fine" argument, because that assumes any kind of influence in the first place. Nearly all HS-age boys I knew saw porn at some point, and you can go back to nudey mags pre-internet for the same. And its affect on us as people was basically null.
Net porn isn't degrading society or ruining kids at all. Every now and then I watch it still, but not addicted to it. Kids in HS are going to hear about what "did you hear what Johnny did to Jane last night?" Where did you think they got the idea to perform what ever act they did. My ex-fiancé and I did some of things on those sites. She and I experimented a lot. Anyway, I see no problem with net porn.
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I think you're entirely wrong. Porn is no more responsible for the world's ills than hundreds of demonstrably, provably worse problems. And cases where it is responsible are statistically marginal, amidst a society that, by any measurable variable, is safer and more moral than past generations, not to mention more sexually liberated.
Him being a teacher makes it worse because some of the shit he says doesn't make any sense. Men are only told what not to do, but not what to do? Has that been YOUR experience growing up? Because it sure as heck was not mine. It was a mixture of both really: don't do this, do that, etc. etc. Maybe it was because I was sent to a Catholic school, but we were told all the time what we should and should not be doing and I don't mean that in the sense of "don't talk during class".
Also isn't it a teachers job to make sure he teaches in a way everyone can understand? Isn't that the point of a teacher? You just had me flash back to junior year in my Trig class. Math teacher was explaining some shit and asks how many understood. 4 kids out of like 25 raise their hands to show they understood. What happens? Dude moved on to the next chapter in the Trig book and began teaching something else. Then later in the term he acts surprised a bunch of people failed the test. I hated that guy, he wouldn't let you leave to go to the bathroom unless you agreed to let him give you a 1 hour detention. I almost pissed my pants waiting for class to end because I wasn't going to give the prick the satisfaction.
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Last edited by Surtur on Oct 17th, 2015 at 02:12 PM
I agree with Digi when he stated that apathetic parents cause most of children's problems. I protect my children from things that aren't appropriate for them, and spend a lot of my free time interacting with them in areas from schoolwork, to playtime, and chores.
My son is twelve and still asks me to read him bedtime stories because I've been doing it consistently almost every night since he was five. I started that for two reasons, one for some bonding time, and two because he was having difficulties with sight words. Seven years later he's (I'm) buying books like Stan Lee's 'Zodiac' and opting to read for entertainment.
He owns no cell phone and doesn't ask for one either but I don't use one so he has me as an example there. Our conversations aren't interrupted constantly by texts and calls that can't be ignored. He has a lot of what most kids are severely deprived of... His daddy's undivided attention.
He's aware of porn and tells me that he's heeded my advice to avoid porn until he's mature enough to not consider himself a kid in any way. He enjoys being a kid and I simply explained to him that porn is extreme adult education/entertainment that removes childhood innocence and replaces it with adult thoughts that can distort a child's perception about what sex really is.
Parenting is the most important influence in a child's life. Porn is just one of the million things that can distract adults from doing that parenting. More destructive than porn, is the cell phone fixation that I see so many people teaching their young children.
yeah i guess so, good point with the well being example. but you as people would have been effected in some ways. perhaps not as a majority but there are those reading the nudie mag columns and what not who are probably given some bullshit ideals on how things work in a social sense between the intamacy of boys and girls... or even gay/ lesbians relationships (this is Back then thou)