It's been a while since I've been here but lately I've been dealing with people who are invasive and feel a need to be in everyone's business for the sake of attention. They always have to ask me what I'm doing? or where I'm going? as if I have to answer them when I don't. I've been a big target of this lately, I find it very offensive and It's been extremely irritating to deal with to the point that there's a huge weight on me that they come with the intent of deceiving me into feeling beneath them. What are some solutions or remedies of dealing with invasive people?
No way! I would be at a shame to call them friends but they really got under my skin with their approaches. The solution sounds good. I know I'm used to being kind to the people around but it doesn't mean I don't get offended and it matters how I'm treated. A lot of times I struggle with compassion and confrontation.
They are angry because they have been forced to recognize that their hour has arrived; that the time has come to surrender power to Shimrra and the new order."
You sound like an introvert and you sound like you do not like confrontation. Bad combination for someone who wants privacy and boundaries as people take advantage of people like you.
However, and this is going to be the hard part: you MUST set clear boundaries.
Solution 1: Directly Setting Boundaries
When asked by people you do not feel intimate or comfortable with sharing those details, clearly state, with a disarming chuckle, "Oh...I'm a private person I don't like to talk about my private life too much. But what you are doing this weekend?"
If you feel that is awkward (it is), say this, "You know, the standard chores and errands. Hey, what are you doing this weekend? Anything fun?"
In other words, you have to learn how to small talk while still maintaining your boundaries.
Solution 2: The Wingman Solution
Befriend a strong-willed, outgoing, charismatic friend who has your back to put a stop to these things or who can quickly alter the subject to spare you from the embarrassment.
This solution can be difficult because extroverted people of that type will often drag you into situations that are uncomfortable just due to their nature. So you will need to find a person to befriend like this who also has high emotional intelligence and social grace.
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jesus christ the best answer has only 3 words and you guys continue ranting lol
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Re: Re: Re: How to deal with nosey/invasive people.
That's not funny, you should be banned for perpetuating rape culture.
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__________________ Chicken Boo, what's the matter with you? You don't act like the other chickens do. You wear a disguise to look like human guys, but you're not a man you're a Chicken Boo.
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