Which shows calm you down after something traumatic?

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Jmanghan
Suffering from bouts of abuse, family member just passed away, horrible break-up, etc.

Name the shows that calm you (whether they be funny, relatable to the situation, or just plain peaceful), when you are extremely angry, anxious, sad, or depressed.

I'll start:

I've found Chappelle's Show to be extremely calming to me, as well as Family Guy and Impractical Jokers (US version).

Dreampanther
You can try After Life with Ricky Gervais, maybe.

jaden_2.0
This is England 86, 88 and 90. (Plus the movie that started it all)The best bunch of characters on UK TV ever.

Similar to Dream panther's suggestion as it has everything. Proper laugh out loud belly laughs to really dark and emotionally powerful plots.

Must've watched it a dozen times.

Jmanghan
Originally posted by jaden_2.0
This is England 86, 88 and 90. (Plus the movie that started it all)The best bunch of characters on UK TV ever.

Similar to Dream panther's suggestion as it has everything. Proper laugh out loud belly laughs to really dark and emotionally powerful plots.

Must've watched it a dozen times. Why would dark emotional moments help you during a traumatic event though?

beatboks
Originally posted by Jmanghan
Why would dark emotional moments help you during a traumatic event though?

because it gives you perspective and reminds you it could always be worse. There are deeper depths that life can sink to, that there are people suffering more than you. It's also an emotional release. It lets you get those emotions out that you might be bottling up.

I like the early seasons of the Mentalist for that reason. Patrick Jane lost everything and his life became consumed by revenge. It's not in your face the entire show but it's there as a major sub thread

for feel good moments I used to watch a British Show called "on the Up". It stared Denis Waterman from "Minder" as a guy from the wrong side of the tracks who made good with a successful and lucrative Chauffer service.

jaden_2.0
Originally posted by Jmanghan
Why would dark emotional moments help you during a traumatic event though?

Just watch them. You'll see why.

Old Man Whirly!
Originally posted by jaden_2.0
This is England 86, 88 and 90. (Plus the movie that started it all)The best bunch of characters on UK TV ever.

Similar to Dream panther's suggestion as it has everything. Proper laugh out loud belly laughs to really dark and emotionally powerful plots.

Must've watched it a dozen times. Good Show. i'll raise you season one and two of Auf Wiedersehen, Pet.

jaden_2.0
Originally posted by Old Man Whirly!
Good Show. i'll raise you season one and two of Auf Wiedersehen, Pet.

Before my time, old man. wink

Jmanghan
Originally posted by beatboks
because it gives you perspective and reminds you it could always be worse. There are deeper depths that life can sink to, that there are people suffering more than you. It's also an emotional release. It lets you get those emotions out that you might be bottling up.

I like the early seasons of the Mentalist for that reason. Patrick Jane lost everything and his life became consumed by revenge. It's not in your face the entire show but it's there as a major sub thread

for feel good moments I used to watch a British Show called "on the Up". It stared Denis Waterman from "Minder" as a guy from the wrong side of the tracks who made good with a successful and lucrative Chauffer service. Idk about you but I wanna laugh, I want things to feel real.

Thats why I like watching really funny live shows, stuff that's upbeat. I wanna feel happy, so I watch stuff that makes me laugh and makes me happy.

Stand-Up comedy, Chappelle's Show, MadTV, these things make me smile.

beatboks
Originally posted by Jmanghan
Idk about you but I wanna laugh, I want things to feel real.

Thats why I like watching really funny live shows, stuff that's upbeat. I wanna feel happy, so I watch stuff that makes me laugh and makes me happy.

Stand-Up comedy, Chappelle's Show, MadTV, these things make me smile.

Dude, I've suffered from depression and low self esteem most of my life. I was often suicidal (contemplated on a weekly basis) throughout my 20s and 30s. None of what you just described would have any sort of beneficial or lasting effect. It would be like putting a bandaid on a 12 inch slice through your abdomen.

Only things that actually make you release, or deal with the dark emotions are benificial. Sorry but I thought you were asking what you watch to help deal with being a truly dark place, not just a little sad.

Therapy helps you deal with those things and they dig out your darkest moments and shine a light on them not tell you jokes or make you giggle.

Jmanghan
Originally posted by beatboks
Dude, I've suffered from depression and low self esteem most of my life. I was often suicidal (contemplated on a weekly basis) throughout my 20s and 30s. None of what you just described would have any sort of beneficial or lasting effect. It would be like putting a bandaid on a 12 inch slice through your abdomen.

Only things that actually make you release, or deal with the dark emotions are benificial. Sorry but I thought you were asking what you watch to help deal with being a truly dark place, not just a little sad.

Therapy helps you deal with those things and they dig out your darkest moments and shine a light on them not tell you jokes or make you giggle. Well, everyone's different, my man, I'm glad that stuff that's relative helps, but for me the only things that help me or things that make me completely take my mind off it.

For example, listening to shit like "Wish You Were Here" by Pink Floyd after a family member death made things so much worse for me and made it even harder to let go and didn't help much.

Watching movies about dealing with grief and death didn't help me, they made everything just 2000x worse.

And yes I'm talking about horrible things, stuff like my father's death, my recent uncle's passing away. We did not play sad music, we played happy, feel-good stuff. We didn't watch movies that made us think of passing, even if it was about celebrating a life, we watched stuff that made us laugh our heads off normally.

Everyone's different though dude, I'm glad those things helped you through those rough times.

beatboks
Originally posted by Jmanghan
Well, everyone's different, my man, I'm glad that stuff that's relative helps, but for me the only things that help me or things that make me completely take my mind off it.


See that's the thing. For those of us with depression or mental health issues you can't really " take your mind away from it". We start normally in a mental place below where normal people go in those times and such times take us to a much darker place. When your suicidal when things are going OK at times of great loss etc you become even more destructive. There needs to be a release of the dark emotions just so you can feel the lighter ones. Watching s comedy or something anfeelgood at these times simply wouldn't be received as funny, your emotional can't process that state.

Remember I only replied to let you know why someomebwould want darker emotional stuff at a time like that. I wasn't criticising those who don't. It's around 20% of the population that suffer from mental health issues, it's not exactly uncommon.

Jmanghan
Originally posted by beatboks
See that's the thing. For those of us with depression or mental health issues you can't really " take your mind away from it". We start normally in a mental place below where normal people go in those times and such times take us to a much darker place. When your suicidal when things are going OK at times of great loss etc you become even more destructive. There needs to be a release of the dark emotions just so you can feel the lighter ones. Watching s comedy or something anfeelgood at these times simply wouldn't be received as funny, your emotional can't process that state.

Remember I only replied to let you know why someomebwould want darker emotional stuff at a time like that. I wasn't criticising those who don't. It's around 20% of the population that suffer from mental health issues, it's not exactly uncommon. I mean I suffer from clinical depression as well hardcore OCD, the fight never ends for me, lol.

And yes, I was diagnosed with it and take medication for it.

BackFire
Classic Simpsons episodes always make me feel relaxed and happy.

beatboks
Originally posted by Jmanghan

Watching movies about dealing with grief and death didn't help me, they made everything just 2000x worse.


Just to clarify, this isnt what I'm talking about. Watching a movie about another's grief while dealing with grief yourself would be the completely wrong thing to do. Its like hitting a raw nerve and yes that would make it worse. However watching a show where a completely different dark emotions is exposed allows an emotional release that doesn't draw you into your own pain.

Old Man Whirly!
Originally posted by jaden_2.0
Before my time, old man. wink laughing out loud You must have seen reruns.

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