Perhaps a thread has already been done on this before if it has you all have my sincere apologies.
Now in my High School the moment you declare to be a believer of abstinence you are ridiculed. I have always wondered why the teenage population and (in some of my own experiences at least) adults get so antagonistic against abstinence. Or not exactly antagonistic, but... uncomfortable seems to be the best way to describe it. Perhaps I am wrong, but it just seems to me from my own personal experience that some if not many people seem to view abstinence as foolish. In some ways it scares me to see the lack of sexually responsibility in my peers. At the moment in my High School there are two Freshmen pregnant, one Sophomore and one Junior. Out of a student body of 2,000 yes I understand that these are incredibly small numbers; however, the number of students who actively engage in intercourse (or at least claim to do so) is a frighteningly much higher number.
Understandably sex plays a powerful and dominate role on modern day society (and I suppose all of human history as well), but I fail to see any harm in restraint. I'm not even talking about the religious viewpoint, but the simple fact that abstinence seems at least to me a gesture of common sense. Or perhaps I am simply bias towards abstinence due to the heavily religious household I live in.
Now I am only 16 so my experience in life and the complications of relationships in general are limited so perhaps I am speaking more from ignorance than common sense. I make no claim to understand the complications of a close relationship (as I have never been in one) and nor to I claim to assume that what I believe is correct. However, my ears (or I suppose I should say eyes) are open to other's thoughts on the subject.
Sexual activity is a HUGE factor on our biology, based on eons of evolution. Reproduction is an integral factor in maintaining a species.
So yes...if you dont participate in sexual activity, people have a tendency to think you are 'odd'. Take a psychology course, if your interested in learning about this phenomenon in more detail.
If you're able to refrain from sex throughout your hormonal years and this is what you really want to do, then do it, it's strictly your choice not to have sex. You're not harming anyone as long as you do not impose this on others, so who cares what other people think.
Personally, for your emotional developement; I'd say educate yourself on sex and safe sexual practices and go for it.
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I think sexual abstinence the way priests practice is unhealthy and shouldn't be done. But sexual abstinence till marriage is a personal choice which, although I obviously would never take, I respect. But I wouldn't advice it.
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sex grows less important the more you do it. You should get experience simply as a form of practice so that you can please your partner. This makes abstinence counterintuitive to a healthy sex life and to several authoritative religious texts, specifically the talmud which provides a woman with very sufficient legal grounds to divorce her husband if he cannot please her.
The truth of the matter is that significant moments shared with someone you love like romantic occasions, picnics, and cuddling/spooning far outweigh the emotional significance of physical penetration of the appropriate/desired orifice of said partner. Going to a movie premier that thrills the both of you and becomes a shared experience is probably gonna be a much more fond and symbollic memory than of your first awkward, 2 minute, painful sexual encounter.
Everyone else is just an insecure cocky dick better ignored.
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Do you think we will ever be saved?
In this land of dreams find myself sober...
Wonder when will it'll all be over...
Living in a void when the void grows colder...
Wonder when it'll all be over?
Will you be laughing when it's over?
There was a time in history when people were married at 15 or even younger. It's partially a hormone thing. There are still some societies that marry young or experiment young.....It seems that today ie the Western world has pushed everything back until waiting until you are older, and with this comes frustrations. I do believe though that if your gonna play, then you must be prepared to pay.......Sometimes it's better to wait in this day and age until one can do that......Our societies are much different then others like say the Aborigines where sex, even open sexual display is common.
I've never known anyone in this situation who wasn't 21 when they finally graduated or became the checkout girl at CVS.
So Johnathan Mark, congratulations, the checkout girl position at CVS, Walgreens, Eckerd, and Bob's Pharmacy have already been filled by these students, so maybe bigger job opportunities will open up for you. Like film developer.
I think if everyone f*cked each other in High School, then...that's a good thing.
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Of his bones are coral made;
Those are pearls that were his eyes:
Nothing of him that doth fade
But doth suffer a sea-change
Into something rich and strange.
In the last 40 years, we went from a society that was sexually repressive to sexually progressive to sexually obsessive (largely profit-driven). Compounding this 1) our society still views itself as sexually progressive; and 2) responsibility has become a four-letter word.
Abstinence is one form of sexual responsibility, but instead it is seen as "old-fashioned." No wonder that someone who wants to abstain is ridiculed.
Follow your head and your heart. Don't think with your gonads; that's not what they're there for. If you want to abstain, do so. You'll have plenty of time to screw around as you mature and be better able to handle any consequences--intended or otherwise--when you're older.
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Last edited by Mindship on Jun 8th, 2006 at 02:18 PM
Oh by nebulae unfolding, the hypocricy here is astounding.
"I think abortion is wrong and nobody should do it, so I'll tell everyone who supports it that they're wrong. However, I'll say that pressing your beliefs on others is wrong, and that having sex is great if you educate yourself."
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