i was waiting for this call still and the phone goes and i run to my parents room to answer it but i miss it then i run downstairs to get it on the message but i just miss the message to then i listen to the message and its for me but it isn't the recruitment centre. a load off my mind.
Long story short.. My sister is the problem. She has more compassion for animals than most people I know but when it comes to her step children.. she has very little. The whole family was here visiting with me 2days ago and as usually she was being overly critical and verbally aggressive towards her step son. He is about 9 years old. He can't do anything right it seems (Nor can his older sisters who are her step children too). She isn't being abusive enough that child services would do anything to help him or the other children. They have been investigated and cleared by the state. What she does is right on the edge.. if that makes sense. It's just enough to get away with it. So with that bit of information.. That day here with me, she was on his back for so much. If he touched a balloon and it made a noise he was yelled at. Her other children weren't being yelled at for similar and sometimes exact behavior. I spoke up and tried helping him a few times and one of those times she told me.. I don't understand.. that he is a monster. He heard her say this and his shoulders sank. Every time she was on him about something.. he shrank smaller and smaller. I felt the stab in my heart and how heavy his shoulders became.. I try talking to her about children and try to help her understand why they act certain ways or talk to her about how a more positive way discipline will yield faster results. It doesn't matter what approach I take.. she tells me I do not understand these children. When they left that night.. I couldn't sleep. Everything that happened during their visit was flashing before my eyes like still scenes of a movie.. My brain was trying to process it like crazy. I tried meditating.. breathing exercises.. talking with God, the universe, my angels and guides.. praying for him and the other children.. eventually I fell asleep after 3 hours of laying in bed. I woke up with a hang over.. without drinking alcohol the night before! An intense headache, dizzy off and on and sore raspy throat. I'm pretty sure it manifested from the visit.
I absolutely hate how she treats them but I wont cut her off.. if I did that I wouldn't have access to the children to make sure they are ok or if they need something.
All I can do is be there for the kids and be thankful that her step son is with her only for the summer.
i was close to not having good enough eyesight. i don't totally understand it but if one of my eyes was over 7+...then its not good enough, but mine was 6.75 or something idk idk!
Ms Chelle, as a boy who has grow up and helped raise a lot of smaller kids and just as a human being I want to be the first to say you are nothing short then amazing.
I can see why it would do that to you, I can imagine how much you want to help versus how little you can actually do, I think that kind of clash could really tear someone up inside... I hope you find a way of dealing with it Chelle. Being empathetic can be rough sometimes, but we need people like you, people who still care about other humans enough to actually go out of their way to help them.
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