Who thinks that beauty is all about what people look like?
This is stemming from a lot of things I have been reading around here.
People everywhere are insecure and have low self-esteem.
In the OTF "Do You Love Me" threads pop up all the time.
So the question is, when you see someone who isn't the Hollywood definition of beautiful do you just walk on by, or do you bother to learn something about them before judging them based on looks?
Like at school or work for example......
Are you friends with people who in society may be considered ugly based on their looks alone, or do you just hang out with people who are cute and or sexy?
Or do you wish you looked like someone else because you consider yourself to be ugly?
Gender: Male Location: Huntington Beach, California
I'm happy with who I am, but that doesn't mean i don't do things like go to the gym, style my hair differently, try different styles of clothes in order to make myself look better.
In passing, i tend to notice the more attractive women and make an attempt to get to know them. But what's attractive to me may be of lower standard than most guys...i try to be open minded about people.
At school or work, any person that is willing to have a conversation with me and get to know me is worth having as a friend..if not more.
I think beauty is what's on the inside. I really don't care if you're attractive or not. If we share the same interests and really like eachother, then I'll be with you.
"Do you love me"....hums the tune to the song from Fidler on the Roof....I was listening to the soundtrack a few days ago....
low self esteem is a sad thing....I've been wondering about that
Beauty is not only skin deep, and people who believe so, will not end up well
One very important thing to remember is that beauty fades and it will fade, so what do you do when you grow older and release you've wasted your life with someone who looked good, and now that the looks is gone, nothing else is left. In my view thats pretty tragic.
I am friends with all kinds of people, and to me they are all beautiful and great.
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you are beautiful because God made you....whether you're pretty by human standards is another matter....and yes, it does fade so love the inside of a person as well as the outside.
Gender: Female Location: ~ you wouldn't wanna be here~
I take the time to get to know someone, even if they aren't the perfect deffinition of beautiful to everyone, because i know how it is to not be given the chance because you aren't "Beautiful."I know i don't like it when i get done that way,so i don't do it to others, cause alot of people who aren't "beautiful" are so beautiful on the inside...they truely are beautiful.I just wish people didn't judge on face, and or body type, just on a persons personality and character.
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honestly, looks is the first thing you notice on a person (given that you haven't talked to this person over the phone or internet first). looks may be the initial attraction, but it's only partial to what would really make you attracted to a person. even the prettiest of girls can be very unattractive once you get to know them, and same goes for guys to the ladies i'm sure. just as the opposite is some 'ugly' girls can be very attractive and fun to be around. i'll be honest, looks does matter to me, but little in comparison to other attributes.
things like personality, self confidence, sense of self worth, intelligence, sense of humor, direction in life, good conversationalist, interests, goals, etc., all come into play after the initial attraction and are far more worth having then looks. as already stated, looks fade away and/or something could happen that takes the looks away (ie car accident, burn, etc).
it's sad that in society, more for girls then guys i think, the pressure put on you to be skinny and beautiful. it's one thing to want to be healthy and take care of yourself, there's nothing wrong with that, but to feel ugly because you're not a stick on a magazine is very sad.
oh, btw to answer the other part of the thread, i have friends that is a mixture of both. some are overweight and do not have beautiful faces, but are extremely fun to be with, and some of my friends turn heads.
oh, and one more thing i wanted to add to the list i stated before. one of the most attractive things a girl can have (and this may be true about guys as well), is someone who is nothing but themselves and is okay with that. if they want to be goofy, they are. if they want to be strong and confident, they are. if they want to go out and play tackle football and get dirty, they will. if they want to wear a nice dress and be a princess for a night, they will.
It varies from person to person. Shallow people may only care about looks and only find someone who is physically good looking beautiful. But most people will find beauty with other aspects of a person.
*runs in, sees cermie hasn't posted yet*
What? you expected a beautiful pancreas? (had to do that cerm)
Cause these days it's cool to be insecure
You already gave the answer yourself: it's the OTF, it's full of attentionwhores
if you mean, if I look only at external appearance: no, when I talk to someone, I don't care how they look like at all. Of course, the chances of talking to a girl you think is pretty are higher ... unfortunatly
society can nag all they want, I hang out with people that I like mentally, cause how the frecking hell can you hang out with people that are cute but have absolutely no brains or the same interests as you?? talk about clothes all day? perfume? heck no! I love to talk about sports, movies, news in general etc.!
I don't consider myself ugly, I know I am, it's an established fact
Annoyingly people do tend to see the outward appearance and make a judgment on it. Which is a real shame because in my experience people who are physically unattractive to you, as you get to know and like them on a personal level, magically become more beautiful. In the end its not all to do with what the eyes see but what the mind perceives.
I have an a picture somewhere at home with a very very gorgeous woman on and the caption underneath says something like "She will annoy the hell out of someone somewhere because to someone she is a real cow!" and that to me says it all.
i think it would be hard to truly love someone that isn't all that good looking. i hear ppl saying they love who ever for their personality, but that is needed, so is looks.
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Is Beauty Skin Deep?
Mar 26th, 2004 08:55 PM
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