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Should you marry someone who politically and religiously different than you?
Do you think having the same political and religious beliefs are important to a successful marriage? Is it bad for a very liberal person to spend a lifetime with someone who is very conservative? Should atheists only marry atheists? Or do opposites attract, and if they do, can you really depend on that as a solid foundation for a long lasting relationship?
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It depends on many other factors. Of course the politically and religiously different view can be a big minus (or a small one depending on your preference), but there are other issues to be considered too. I guess if you are in love with the person, you probably already realized that you like that person a lot regardless of their convictions in those fields. It can be a probolem, but doesn't have to.
I say it does not really matter. I mean, my girlfriend is Buddhist and I am catholic. However, it really makes no difference at all opinion wise.
As for marrying, I don't really understand how a marriage can take place. I mean, each religion has its traditions of a wedding which contradicts the other religion if taken part of it. Therefore, I don't think it would really work. But it (relationship) can work out definentely.
Political opinion?
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I believe it depends on the priorities of the individual's. Religion, to most people is the most important aspect of their life. In this case, i believe one should find another to Marry whom at the very least shares similar spiritual beliefs.
I feel the same should be applied to political values. Personally, i'm not a very political person. If need be, i can immerse myself in the current double speak coming out of Washington. On the other hand, i can usually go with the flow and not give much of a damn, as i am more interested in spirituality and human behavior than i am in economics and the societal direction. I do know, however, i could not be with someone who is extreme in their political beliefs one way or the other. considering this, i would have to assume that if i were a more serious Republican. A republican who devoted much free time and focus to arguing with those pesky liberals. I doubt i could tolerate the most heated debates that would arise from a communication breakdown in politics with my wife.
But, this is all coming from a guy that doesnt date a girl with a conflicting taste in movies, so...,what do i know?
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Depends on the person. Some people are more compatible than others. Some people are nicer than others. Some people are more accepting of others.
What is important is to speak each other's "love language". What is important is to communicate concerns and compromise. What is important is to continue to love each other.
"Love" is not an abstract concept or word only. Love is also a verb! It is very much possible for complete opposites to attract IF each person can do all of the above. Perseverance, understanding, and patience are all necessary virtues for a successful marriage.
Having different and strong political beliefs makes for much better conversation. Where other couples do a:
Wife: "hey, how's your day been?"
Husband: "Good, boring at work..but good. What about yours?"
Wife: "I went shopping with Sarah and I paid the bills..nothing else though."
politically contrasted couples can debate politics in a RESPECTFUL manner. It can be very very fun and can make you better friends. Being best friends with your spouse is not a bad thing and I recommend it.
Religious beliefs, however, can get in the way. This is a toughy. If one of you is a devote Jew, there ain't gettin' married until you both are lighting 9 candles. If you want to marry a devote LDS women, you had better be a Mormon yourself...etc.etc.
Even that can be gotten around through mutual acceptance.
Though, on top of all of it...it is sooooo much easier if the couple has in common political and religious beliefs.
NO. Not unless there is an understanding of open-es first. Also an understanding that with time and knowledge people change. If they can understand that, then there could be a wonderful relationship.
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Gotta say, I've seen it done both ways, and also experienced similar and opposite belief systems with people I've dated. It can work when the two are diametrically opposed, but it helps like hell to be similar.
I would venture the opinion that such a question hinges on the experience of being maried for a number of years, despite differences of religious or political proclivity, as well as being married for a short amount of time because those differences were the deciding factor in such a short relationship. So perhaps an internet forum composed primarily of unmarried men and teenage girls wold not be the best place to present such a question.
are you thinking of popping the question TH?
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Re: Should you marry someone who politically and religiously different than you?
I don't think it really matters unless one or both are extreme in one or more of those views and they're married to a polar opposite, e.g. Evangelical married to a die-hard atheist. Though I doubt that marriage would have happened in the first place, I've heard of relationships going sour because one person becomes religious and the other doesn't follow after the relationship happens.
As far as political views my boyfriend and I are both the same (Don't give a flying fvck) but when it comes to religion we're nearly opposite. I'm Catholic, he's Agnostic but it does not collide with our relationship. He can believe what he wants to while I will believe what I want to, this does not need to be brought in between us in our relationship.
[Some] Muslims move (probably on camel-back) around all day with thoughts on Allah constantly in their head. Catholics only think of God come Sunday, from the time they start moaning because they have to go to mass and it doesn't end until they're done feeling guilty, dropped their loose change in the poor orphans jar, eaten the cracker and left. Fact, son.
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