I could definitely need some good advice [warning: thread is FAIL]
Hey guys.
This thread has never been created, and I never really came to this forum to be emo and whine about my shitty situation. Never EVER comment this one.
I guess it's better to not be taken serious on this one. But I am really interested in what advice internet forums give me.
Imagine the following..
See, there's this girl. Not some girl you'd accidently meet, I mean the most beautiful girl you could imagine. You get to know her when she is still suffering from her ex boyfriend, and you talk to her a lot and help her and stuff. You fall in love with her, but because you're not stupid, you don't say a word, times are bad. This all evolves.. She makes you happy for months, although you know you can't reach her the way you want to. You grow really close and everything, she regularly sleeps at yours ... Then finally, after like half a year, she has finally overcome the sucker that treated her bad, but you have a problem: She calls you her best friend, the most important person in the world, but she wouldn't even think about.. you know, a relationship or anything.
Sometimes, even sexual things 'happen', but you just can't tell her anything, afraid of destroying the trust and the closeness and all the things you share. She talks about the freedom she just gained again. Of course you wouldn't want to take it from her. She says that she is happy to be able and go out again and having fun with guys. This hurts you a little, because you actually wouldn't want to share. You've been a little bit obvious, she might have thought about you being in love with her, but because you say nothing at all, she doesn't really care a lot about that.
Youre possibilities are:
-Hoping that this ends in a happy relationship or at least in her noticing your loving, and not being deterred at all. (lol?)
-Telling her - and hoping that this doesn't mean that everything you do together become sort of distanced, artificial, because she doesn't want to hurt you... Maybe even hoping that she might after all be interested in you.. But actually knowing that you can forget it and you're living a ****ing dream.
All the ways you wish you could be, that's me. I look like you wanna look, I **** like you wanna ****, I am smart, capable, and most importantly, I am free in all the ways that you are not.
problem is that the current situation works like a ****ing drug - it's not complicated to be close to her.. you are the one she trusts the most.. telling her is like a damn withdrawal..
edit.. ah man, i think i actually know that you're right.. it's just not that comfortable at all to tell her.
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Last edited by eezy45 on Aug 30th, 2008 at 11:23 PM
well wouldn't you rather chance your luck and find out ? rather than being in a false friendship, cause you are either in love with her or see her as a friend, which one is more important to you?
the question is, can you stay in a friendship with someone you are madly in love with forever ?
let her know how you feel, makes life a whole lot easier.
All the ways you wish you could be, that's me. I look like you wanna look, I **** like you wanna ****, I am smart, capable, and most importantly, I am free in all the ways that you are not.
at least he'd know. One way or the other, he can be content, no wondering "what if".
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All the ways you wish you could be, that's me. I look like you wanna look, I **** like you wanna ****, I am smart, capable, and most importantly, I am free in all the ways that you are not.
Once youve reached the "best friend" position, theres no way youll be her love. Trust me, thats how it is. You dont wanna break the friendly trust, i think even if you tell her about your feelings she will only feel distracted and weird, and so will you, if she doesnt feel the same way about you. Im telling you this because it has happened to me with 3 guys now, we were great close friends and all and i very much appreciated the friendship, then one day BAM I love you Mywi and then its all just spoiled, I couldnt even look them in the eye the way I did before and I wished they had never said it. Its really not cool.
My advice, dont tell her, but good luck with whatever you decide to do.
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You've got so many machines, Richard. Go on, give us a snare rush!
All the ways you wish you could be, that's me. I look like you wanna look, I **** like you wanna ****, I am smart, capable, and most importantly, I am free in all the ways that you are not.
Being in love is a pain, especially when it's with a friend that you're too scared to tell. 99% of the time the other person doesn't feel the same. Ive been there, it didn't end well, I hope it goes better for you. The best I can do is tell you to follow Mywi's advice. Sometimes it's more important to preserve a friendship like the one you describe rather than risk losing it. It's up to you though...
I know this. I've thought about this a lot. But I don't really believe it's easier to stay in the way it is and get eaten up by the envy everytime she tells you about guys.. than to just tell her and you know.. accept that the friendship will be somewhat impaired for a while..
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Aug 30th, 2008 11:05 PM
and then its all just spoiled, I couldnt even look them in the eye the way I did before and I wished they had never said it. Its really not cool.
