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He’s mine, she’s mine. I marry you, therefore I own you. This is the spoken or unspoken reality of marriage and relationships in general. It is the means through which people buy into a manufactured sense of security and a desperately limited version of “love”. They buy the fairy stories about wedding days and happy every afters. Most marriage is not about love, but possession and control. Only a tiny few marriages are fulfilling the partners. They may not realise why they feel empty and unfulfilled, but it’s because their real potential to expand and create is being suppressed by this institutionalised prison. The consequences of walking away are too much for most people to contemplate and that is the only reason why the divorce rate, already rising rapidly, is not a tidal wave. Soon it will be.

I am not suggesting that it is not right to live with someone for whom you have great affection, even love, or that there shouldn’t be some publicly spoken commitment to each other, if that’s what the couple desire. I am saying that to institutionalise that commitment, to bring the church and state into it, and to create penalties for withdrawing at a later stage, is utterly ridiculous. How can you turn a human relationship into something regulated by the state? How can someone be expected to commit themselves at the age of 20 or 25 to another person for the rest of their lives? Who knows what lies ahead or how the two will change in their attitude to life and each other? The whole idea is crazy. Yet for thousands of years that is the mockery of love and relationships which religion has visited upon the human race. It is considered better to suffer your pain and stay in a marriage than to say you have grown apart and it’s time to move on.

I would suggest that anyone who sees life in terms of legitimate and illegitimate, is in need of some serious help.

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Originally posted by Darth Jello
Has anyone ever noticed that whenever someone brainlessly rails about how they hate liberals, it always sounds like it came right out of the protocals of the elders of zion only with the word Jew changed to liberal?
Anyway, I don't really see a relation between marriage vows and allegiance to your country so i don't really know what your asking Debbs

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Originally posted by debbiejo
I'm saying we are given many freedoms in this country, which is mentioned in the Declaration of Independence, and do Marriage vows go directly against them...........Though this is a little tongue and cheek, but still do they?

Read the link....

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Originally posted by PVS
actually the term has recently been changed to "sacrifice, obedience, and the pursuit of ter'rists"