Storm' s Mindbenders, Thoughts of a Scatterbrain...
I can’ t really say accepting compliments with grace was a second nature. I generally felt like a fool afterwards. One might think it is simple to thank a person for a compliment, yet it is not a talent with which many of us are blessed.
The first obstacle is distinguishing between a compliment and flattery. You’ re wondering if the person complimenting you has any ulterior motive. Are they sincere and honest or do they turn into flattery which is usually received with negativity. The easy way out is to take all compliments at face value
The second obstacle. If you take it with enthusiasm, you could be labelled as boasting, denying is discounting
The third obstacle. Are you supposed to return a compliment? Automatically returning a compliment can appear suspiciously polite and insincere, while others see it as basic courtesy
To compliment or not to compliment...
PS: Right now I' m in deep deep thought. Oh wait a second... no I' m not. I' m in a deep deep sleep.
Ceterum censeo OTF esse delendam.
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I am not driven by people’ s praise and I am not slowed down by people’ s criticism.
You only live once. But if you live it right, once is enough. Wrong. We only die once, we live every day!
Make poverty history.
Re: Storm' s Mindbenders, Thoughts of a Scatterbrain...
The key is honesty. If it's done with honesty then there is genuinely nothing to worry about. That said, you can't really prove to someone that you're being genuine.
I am not driven by people’ s praise and I am not slowed down by people’ s criticism.
You only live once. But if you live it right, once is enough. Wrong. We only die once, we live every day!
Make poverty history.
You have the right to remain silent. Anything you say can and will be used against you in a court of law
Ceterum censeo OTF esse delendam.
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I am not driven by people’ s praise and I am not slowed down by people’ s criticism.
You only live once. But if you live it right, once is enough. Wrong. We only die once, we live every day!
Make poverty history.
I am not driven by people’ s praise and I am not slowed down by people’ s criticism.
You only live once. But if you live it right, once is enough. Wrong. We only die once, we live every day!
Make poverty history.
I find it funny when it happens to me. Purely because if it's anyone I know but am not necessarily friends with, it seems like they're swallowing a bitter pill.
Re: Storm' s Mindbenders, Thoughts of a Scatterbrain...
1) Yeah, I've never trusted compliments but it's just that most humans are easily impressed. For example.. I make my first painting ever.. And people are already under the impression that it's incredible and that they could never do it themselves wich is incredibly flawed.
2) Of course you should be allowed to take it as long as you still know that improvement is always possible. What people might conclude out of it isn't anything to worry about until confronted.
3) A compliment because someone else gave you one? That's not the right thing to do.. even if you fear that they expect one in return.
Hence why it is probably better to not respond actually.
But I generally think that you shouldn't compliment people too much as it can eventually lead to delusions of grandeur wich can lead to the kind of pride that allows people to take too big of risks or let's them trust too much in their opinion.
And this all can only lead to decrease the ability to learn and grow as a person.
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I really shouldn't have quoted this post, because you're guaranteed to say something negative in response, but I have to defend those of us who are capable of complimenting objectively. If you deserve the compliment, personal preference doesn't come into it. A person may not like you, but they can appreciate your qualities.
Which was my point wasn't it? Yes. See this is exactly what I mean.
A) I was referring solely to me and my experiences with receiving compliments from those who dislike me. EG: Your vote for me followed by a remark about my "ego". Not people complimenting people in general.
B) I never said it's always impossible to compliment objectively.
How you seemingly missed the fact that I spoke purely from personal experience there, I'll never know. However, if you'd kindly read my posts, possibly a few times, before commenting...I'd be grateful.
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I didn't miss the fact that you were commenting on personal experience. How do you fathom that? I also commented from experience, I have complimented you when I felt you credited it and I don't recall having to swallow a bitter pill in the process. I just wondered why you find it amusing when someone you don't get along with compliments you. If, as you said, you see it as them humbling themselves to you, then I think you're wrong. Objectively, of course. You are so predictable.
Your post is how. Defend those of US? Who? I'm speaking from personal experience. Who exactly did you have in mind? If you thought I included you, then yes it certainly SEEMS as though complimenting me is a bitter pill for you. I take this opinion (not stating it as fact) from how you tag something semi-negative about me on the end, everytime you compliment me. As if clarifying "But I don't like him...". Much like you did in the other thread earlier. As if appearing to have any remotely positive ideas of me is a sin.
You needn't reply in defense of anyone. You missed that I was speaking from personal experience because you tried to defend people I wasn't speaking about. If you knew I was speaking from experience, you'd not have replied as you did, logically. Makes no sense.
See this: "...then yes it certainly SEEMS as though complimenting me is a bitter pill for you. I take this opinion from how you tag on something semi-negative about me everytime you compliment me. As if clarifying "But I don't like him...". Much like you did in the other thread earlier."
Whether this is intended or not, you are giving off that impression. Be it consciously and denying it, or subconsciously and not realising.
Predictable? Haha, I could probably script your KMC attitude. Moreover, I'm so predictable yet you ALWAYS either misunderstand or just straight up DON'T understand my posts. If you knew what was coming I'm sure you'd not have so much difficulty grasping my points. It's not rocket science. Anyway, the reason I find it funny is because I find it interesting how people's own egos work.
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Jan 6th, 2006 09:22 PM
Intriguing..
