"If man had been created in Spirit's image,
He would be free to be wild without being cruel,
Angry without being violent,
Sexual without being coercive,
Spiritual without being unsexed,
And able to truly love."
Okay I have had to ask myself many times in many ways what makes a real man.... Here one idea I come up with after some long research.
R = Respectful to others.
E = Not afraid to show his Emotions.
A = Equally Affectionate & Appreciative to his family.
L = Listen with intent to his wife and kids.
M = Well Mannered in all life's settings.
E = Earning his own way through life is paramount.
N = Neatness, for him everything has a place.
After seeing this I have come to the conclusion that what I live with is not a real man, but I have yet to find a real man in my life according to a lot of people in my life who have seen me go through a lot of ups and downs. Well let me give you all some ideas of what kind of so called men I have in my life and then you tell me where in the hell I can find the real man in this modern world. What kind of men I had in my life:
1. Currently I live with a man who thinks that his pot smoking is more important than paying the bills. Not only that he thinks he should be alowed to read my mail to make sure I don't have another person in my life besides him.
2. Before that I had a man who because we were suposed to just be friends he can have a piece of ass on his terms not mine.
3. Oh lets not forget the man who was charged with rapeing his own daughter who thought that meant he could **** said daughter in my bed.
4. Then there is the man I married he seems to think he can get away with hiding from the law when it comes to neglecting our kids.
5. Never for get the guy somehow thinks friends should stick there noses into relationships because the have nothing better to do.
this maybe going a bit off-topic (no pun) but my BF gets angry but not violent....I am the violent one. he gets mad and will just leave the conversation. I get mad and start getting violent and threatening. So not all guys are violent.
btw blondie, The guys you have been with seem like jerks plain and simple. You need to meet someone better for you, but your list of a realman is a bit 'perfect' thats one reason why relationships fail so much. People are too focused of finding someone 'perfect' with no faults. Truth is were human so no one is perfect, there is no such thing as truly perfect relationship. Best advice I can give is, find someone who makes you happy and you make them equally happy. And someone who loves you and respects you. don't settle for anything less.
Not to be judgmental or whatever but maybe it's where you meet these men, like I perhaps prejudiced, but you're not gonna meet a nice man at for example a rehab clinic, or a seedy bar, maybe you should try some new locations.
Thats a really good point ST brings up Try somewhere were 'decent' people would spend free time.....This maybe going a bit far. I don't know if you have religion or what it is, but try maybe meeting someone at a Church of your faith. It would give you something in common at least.
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Jul 1st, 2006 08:54 PM
So not all guys are violent.
Try somewhere were 'decent' people would spend free time.....This maybe going a bit far. I don't know if you have religion or what it is, but try maybe meeting someone at a Church of your faith. It would give you something in common at least.
