In my 20s all I wanted to do was finish work and go home, finish the week and **** lots and get hammered, stoned, coked up.
By 30 all I wanted to do was get promoted, get more money, get my power etc.
By 40 my career stalled a bit, bored at work and bored at home.
Early 40's I made some changes to my financial detriment, then by my late 40's my financial success.
Now at 53 I estimate over the next 10 years I will make twice as much as in the last 30. I also never want to go home and often am in the office till 7,8 or 9 pm, I get up between 5:30 and 6:30 and start working again by 7:15, I sometimes work 7 day weeks, what I used to hate I now love. Does any of this resonate with you?
To be honest I was a pretty shitty husband and father first time around, the kids turned out O.K. because I got better when we got divorced. In those days. I lived for Rugby on Saturday Afternoon and Clubbing on Saturday Evening and Friday if I wasn't playing. I spent more time out of the house at the gym, doing muay thai and taking coke and ecstasy than on them. I was better second time around, by then I only did roids and booze.
@Squall the quote stopped working halfway through this post as it often does. If I'm honest with you, I never truly just worked for myself and I don't now. Having kids means you always need to be able to put food on the table for them and bail them out. When you are a father it will shock you how often that actually is. So whilst I may have sometimes been not the perfect parent, but few are... I always got the providing part down. Hopefully I'll get the other parts right third time around, we will see. If you raise this thread when you are 40, I will only be 63 so, I should still be around if you raise it at 50, less likely.
Around 27-31 I was a night shift supervisor at an MCI call center, it was absolutely the craziest work environment I ever had that which essentially brought your desires as a 20-year-old into the work environment everyday hiring university students nonstop lol.
This is a definite truth Rob, some people will never have the satisfaction of a job well done. I'm not saying work defines me, but I sometimes think it gives me much more than just an income.
IMO as you leave your 20's you need a better reason to get up in the morning and go to work other than, 'Make money for partying'. So many people I know are struggling in that way and a lot of them develop drug or alcohol problems because that's all they live for now. Instead of having a great time as a youngster and moving on they keep chasing that hedonism of youth. Not saying that having kids is the answer either, I know plenty of coke-head parents too, but living the same way for more than a decade can't be good for you. Become excellent in your chosen field, work really hard and take a bunch of vacations each year, start a jazz band, etc. What worked for you at 23 probably won't work for you at 33. I'm much happier now that I no longer obliterate my wages by Sunday afternoon and have found other things to do with my time and money. Although a champagne/cocaine fueled threeway is still good every once in a while.
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I don't care if you're making minimum wage cooking burgers or the CEO of a multi-billion dollar company, generally speaking, people find pleasure doing something well and being rewarded for their work.
Just like there's more satisfaction earning your own wealth compared to it being given to you via inheritance or luck.
the older I get, the more revolting the notion of retirement seems to me.
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Might be cos you're in your 40's and can't see yourself doing nothing work-wise. That might change in your late 50's.
Though I've known people who were over retirement age and still worked, not because they had too, they were very well off financially, but because the thought of not working was anathema too them. Some people simply enjoy working and earning their own way. Some people are content scrapping by on free handouts.
Your Lord knows very well what is in your heart. Your soul suffices this day as a reckoner against you. I need no witnesses. You do not listen to your soul, but listen instead to your anger and your rage.
my feelings on retirement are not based on a belief structure or any moral/ethical dilemma. For example I don't find it coincidental that so many people (typically men) drop dead very soon after retirement
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Your Lord knows very well what is in your heart. Your soul suffices this day as a reckoner against you. I need no witnesses. You do not listen to your soul, but listen instead to your anger and your rage.
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