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I honestly think that my wife is my true love and maybe even my soul mate.
I love her now more than I have ever loved my wife and I keep growing more in love with her as time goes by. Sometimes, when I come home from work, I just hug her and kiss her neck for ten minutes because it feels so good for her to be in my arms.
Here is a "soul mate" story for you.
When we first started dating...like after three dates...I was driving home from working out and it was about 21:30 (9:30 pm). I had this strange feeling that someone very important to me was thinking about me, a lot. It was a very very strong feeling...so much so that I pulled over my car to think about it for a minute. Several names came to mind and at first, I thought that someone in my family was in trouble. It wasn't a bad feeling, but a good feeling so I discarded that idea. A few more names came and passed through my head until my wife's name popped into my head...I thought surely not...I barely know her (Because I usually dated 2 or 3 girls at a time and 3 dates was hardly "I know you well".)
Just to be safe, I called her on her cell phone. She answered in one ring with an excited voice.(She can see who calls her.) I then said, "Emily, I know this is going to sound strange, but I just had the overwhelming feeling that you were thinking about me...and that your thoughts were very nice towards me..." She paused for a few seconds before answering...
She said, 'Well...yes…. I was thinking about you just now....this is very very weird that you got a feeling like that and called me out of the blue...you are freaking me out...."
I asked her what she was thinking about and she said very slowly and coyly that she was thinking about how much she liked me. From then on out...I pursued her like she was Helen of Troy. I broke off anything I had going with any other girl.
I recently asked her what she was thinking about...with all the details. She told me that she was thinking about getting married to me and that she was already in love with me and that on our first date...she knew that I was the one...I cried a little bit because I was so caught up with all those other girls...I couldn't see that she was my life partner...my soul mate...my eternal companion.
I have never felt this way about anyone and I never will again. I am truly in love with my wife and this IS true love.
All the ways you wish you could be, that's me. I look like you wanna look, I **** like you wanna ****, I am smart, capable, and most importantly, I am free in all the ways that you are not.
love with the right person is magical. if not with the right person, it is pure hell.
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All the ways you wish you could be, that's me. I look like you wanna look, I **** like you wanna ****, I am smart, capable, and most importantly, I am free in all the ways that you are not.
There isn't any ONE reason, is there? Some genuinely fall in love and are happy enough and dedicated enough to keep it together for good, some do it out of convenience, familiarity and fear of not having anything, so they settle for something guaranteed, but not truly fulfilling.
I don't believe in any one idea of "true" love. Everyone's idea of love is different, granted, there are people with crushes who act like "OH GOD I'M IN LOVE!", but really, it's all subjective.
To answer your previous question, I wouldn't say the meeting-after-a-long-time thing is "true love", just re-igniting a flame and having another chance at making things happen. The situation or way in which things occur would not be a determining factor in the feelings involved anyway, the feelings themselves are what matter.
You wouldn't think back on a life of love with a woman and be proud because you met her in line at a post office or whatever, you'd be proud of the fact that you have what you have with her.
That's the reason too many people "fail" at love, because everyone feels they have to have an idea of what true love is so they can find it, you have to let it happen and figure it out for yourself, if it even happens at all.
It's like being an athiest and looking for reasons to believe in God because a friend does. They see something in the world that has caused them to believe in something you do not, and that's fine, just so long as you don't spend your life looking for something that someone else says is true, based on their own subjectivity.
There are people here who'd say "True love is...", and if you spent your life looking for that, you might not succeed, cos you may not agree.
good point. I look at my dad and his current wife. He and my mom split when I was 10. he married again when I was 20. well, a while back we were talking about relationships, and he admitted to me that a part of him still loves my mom, even thought he loves his second wife as he is supposed to. I know my mom doesn't love him anymore, that's why she left, duh. But I can't help but wonder....which is his true love? my mom, or his second wife? or is either of him his true love? did he "succeed" or is he still looking? or is he going to one day pass on never having known true love? On another note, could they both be his true love?
too much, man. I have decided to just live my life in the here and now, go with what feels right, and hope it works out for the best.
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All the ways you wish you could be, that's me. I look like you wanna look, I **** like you wanna ****, I am smart, capable, and most importantly, I am free in all the ways that you are not.
You have to factor in a few things... He was with your mother 10+ years, he had a child with her and from what it seems, it was his actions or inactions that caused the split. The first two things aren't something you can just let go of completely. I would imagine it would take some horrendous act for me to completely have zero love for my wife, even if we divorced.
but the question remains, which of the two is his "true love?"
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All the ways you wish you could be, that's me. I look like you wanna look, I **** like you wanna ****, I am smart, capable, and most importantly, I am free in all the ways that you are not.
**** if I know... only your father could possibly answer that.
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No matter how much "in love" you feel, there's probably someone better suited for you somewhere, and the chance of you ultimamtely finding the definitive perfect match is low, considering the 6+ billion population.
well, obviously if I ask, he will tell me his current wife. I suspect deep down it is my mom.
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All the ways you wish you could be, that's me. I look like you wanna look, I **** like you wanna ****, I am smart, capable, and most importantly, I am free in all the ways that you are not.
All the ways you wish you could be, that's me. I look like you wanna look, I **** like you wanna ****, I am smart, capable, and most importantly, I am free in all the ways that you are not.
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