Falling in love is a mating instinct.... Love is a herd-protection instinct... nothing more and nothing less.... If I fall in love with someone I know I will never have a "proper" relationship with them... I never fell in love with my ex-wife, even though (at the time ) I loved her... i have fallen in love four times in my whole life... the first time ended in schizophrenia, the second with rejection due to inaction, the third fizzled out because although (apparently) she felt the same she was too scared to do anything about it in case she ended up hurt, and the fourth... well, the less said the better, except that I very nearly lost a very good friend, and i'm really surprised that she still has any contact with me... so I now look at love in a purely scientific way.... its less complicated and easier t understand...
Also, I think that we are all confused by the fact that the word "love " covers so many different things... theinuit have many words for love, with different words for "the love of a father for a daughter," "the love of a man for his wife," the love of a woman for her female friend," and so on... a lot easier for everyone....
I believe that love can be whatever we allow it to be. Love is different for each individual. Love can consume every thought, every breath if we let it. Love is what we make of it and who we make it with. I believe that love is the most precious gift that we have been given. It can can cause us so much pain at times, making us to believe that there is no other option, but to give up or look for it somewhere else. Yet, it is love, and our experiences with love that help us to grow and become more aware of what it is to us, allowing us to share it with those around us.
Love is the most powerful emotion there is, it can lift you up higher than the sun and it can make you do things you could never do otherwise. It controls a lot of other feelings and will guide all your actions when you have it.
Without love the world is cold and dark.
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Falling in love is also a projection. You project something from yourself unto another person, thus not really carring for that person as an individual, but as a part of yourself. Falling in love is actually a very selfish thing, where loving is something quite different.
The is no such thing as a selfless act. No matter what you do, there is always something in it for you. No matter how small that is, it is still more reasoning to do... whatever it is you did.
However, you made a very good point with Falling being Selfish and Loving being different.
I agree, though this is a rather big subject which easily gets very very philosophical.
Still, I think there's a difference between a selfish act and an act that isn't selfless. Falling in love is a very personal 'project'. For the period of time you're in love, you see that beloved person as the ultimate truth about yourself. That person becomes the centre of your world. You desire this person, rarely for the person him/herself, but for what you see in him/her that reminds you of yourself or of something you'd wish you yourself had. Falling in love is therefore something concentrated almost solely about you, not the beloved, which is why I called it selfish. It's your project.
Another act may involve something which will benefit you, but still you're not completely blinded by a personal desire and can therefore see other people 'clearly', so to say, and act in a way that'll help or just please them, thus caring for their 'projects' as well.
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i dont get how 10-16 year olds go out with others...not like anything is going to happen in the future, like say marriage? im 14 and been asked out before but i refuse to say yes.
It is the experience of a relationship. How can you be a 21 year old that wants to get married and have little to no experience in relationships and expect said marriage to be successful?
They are getting necessary relationship experience. Learning how it functions, and somewhat the effort that must be put forth.
Love has received such a bad image over the last 20 years or so. There are far too many teenagers abusing the word love. Far too many couples getting divorced. The divorce rate is horrific.
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