Gender: Female Location: every which way but loose
It's really hard for me to disagree with you Ash, because I have pretty much the same life experience as you. But I don't think I would beat on my child for making the same mistakes I did, it'd be way too hypocritical. I'd ensure they know the dangers, graphically if necessary, but in essence they must make their own mistakes. There's only so much protection a parent can offer
Gender: Female Location: California Sexually: Frustrated
I will fully educate my daughter about the dangers of drugs, smoking, etc. You see a mistake is something you do on accident. Not intentionally trying to hurt someone. If she lights a cigarette or snorts some coke up her noes after i TOLD her what happens. It's not a mistake and she deserves to be punished.
Gender: Female Location: every which way but loose
True. I suppose my parents never did educate me completely about the dangers, so mine were mostly mistakes. I knew the deal, but I still hadn't had the experience of seeing someone OD, or die of cancer. I have now.
Gender: Female Location: every which way but loose
Duo, you have no right to comment here. You don't know Ash and you don't know Mika. Therefore you have no comprehension of the trauma that occured already. So shut it.
Gender: Female Location: California Sexually: Frustrated
there is nothing wrong with that! Are you a parent! No! I'm a mother. I know what needs to be done! I love her more than life itself and i will not let anyone or anything harm her.
the more you punish her or tell her whats right and wrong there will be an increased chance that she will
A:become submissively weak and pathetic
or B: rebel against you in her teen years
Ugh, that will work when she's young, however when she gets old enough to start thinking for herself don't expect that to fly. If anything that kind of mentality will only make her want to do things to disobey you.
...Duo, EVERYONE rebels against their parents as a teen, regardless of whether or not their parents are strict or not. Hell, even I did, to some extent.
I did not. My parents were always fair and understanding, I never felt them to be people I needed to rebel against. They allowed me to do what I wanted as long as it was within reason and never tried to rule over me with an iron fist.
Gender: Female Location: every which way but loose
I did
Guys, chill, we all do it differently because with respect, regardless of age, we are all still learning. Do it the way you think best, instincts are after all, still strong in us.
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Oct 3rd, 2004 05:44 PM
I guess not. Ok, I'm moved. I don't have any children Ash, and obviously I know about Mika. Do what you have to do hun.
