Definately living together. There are too many downsides and consequences to marriage, also it's too expensive and a bit pointless. You can do and feel the same way about a person without being married.
Hey! I prefer to live alone :P
And visit my girlfriend house often. But living together is fine too. I dont see any valid reason to marry ...maybe some finantial and tax advantages here in my country. But I dont need any more papers and contracts in my live.
I saw enough divorces in my work
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Then if you are not sure why are you living with her?You are going to break her heart and maybe her life if the relionship is not doing very good.
IN fact relionship is not a toy that you can pass to one girl to another sleeping with alot of people until you find that one.You wil wake up as a old man and relised that your life is over and you did nothering possible to get married or be with someone.
Hopfully soon you guys will relise this.But for now I doubt if you think of this that offen.Feeling will get hurt and sleeping with someone is different after a while and then you lose that person.
Going back as a old man you may even relised that you should had marryed that person.Well too late now.LIfe is too short to go around playing the field.
And counting your life like this is not going to get you anywhere.JM
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Jackie, no offense...but you're 14. What could you possibly know about love and marriage? You don't seem to realize that people can live together without being married and still be faithful to each other.
You're forgetting one very important piece of the puzzle here: divorce! Being married does NOT mean you have some kind of magical, unbreakable bond between the two of you. Like I said before, over 50% of marriages end in divorce. And I can imagine that if a couple had lived together for several years before getting married, they would know what they were getting into better, and stand a better chance of staying married. As I also said before, I know several couples who are unmarried, and have lived together for ten or fifteen years. They are more commited than most married people I know. Living with your gf doesn't mean you're sleeping with as many girls as you can find, and I don't know where you get that. Dr Laura, maybe? Dr Phil? Your local pastor?
who said anything about being unsure about our situation. We are sure of our relationship and we aint gonna marry cause to us it is enough just to live together.
Jackie you need to understand that marriage aint a security pad, here in Norway there are more married couples breaking up than couples who "just" live together. It aint all that important to be married, you live together for awhile and then you realise that there is no need to marry cause the arrangement you have works out just fine. I am just as devoted to my girlfriend as married couples are to their spouses.
dont know why you get back to the sleeping around thing all the time, it is just as easy or as hard for married people to sleep around as it is for one commited in a realtionship where they "just" live together
Nonono... It's almost as likely that a married couple will break up as a nonmarried one. And if they do, they have to get a divorce, which is a huge pain in the ass. It's much less painful for both parties if the government is not involved, and all they have to do is pack up their stuff and leave. People don't choose to live together unmarried because they don't think their relationship is as strong as a married couple's... People throw marriage around so much these days that it no longer means anything.
You might say a lot of pretty sounding things at a wedding ceremony, doesn't mean either side will keep those promises. A lot of married couples cheat on each other. And being just a youngling as you are, I doubt you've heard of a creature called a swinger... They like to go out and basically have sex with a bunch of other people. Often married ones.
Personally I still believe in marriage, to me it's the ultimate commitment, if you love someone and are willing to bind yourself to them sort of speak, then that's true commitment in my eyes.
And yes it is expensive, but if you only plan on doing it once, why not do it right?
Plus if I ever have children, not that I want any , I would want them to be able to say that their parents are married specially if we plan to raise them as being catholic
But that's just me, of course living together works, different things for different people.
yeah but you speak out of a religious view and for you marriage is right.
I aint religious so to me marry and living together is an equal thing
I have a daughter and we are her parents just as much as married couples are parents to their children, but again you did mention the religious so I understand and fully acknowledge your view because thats what wouold be right for you.
what our young friend havent understood though nor accepted is that other people sees things diffrently and they have the right to do so, so it must be up to them what is best or the right thing for them.
oh and Silver the thing about having a child will probably change at least if you ever get married which I am certain wou will
The thing is I have friends who have parents who aren't married and have been together for 20 or so years perfectly happy, immense trust in those relationships in my opinion
And you're probably right, I will most likely change my mind about children, but at the moment they're very far off on my priority list
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Oct 20th, 2004 06:03 PM
, I would want them to be able to say that their parents are married specially if we plan to raise them as being catholic 
