thoughtlessness

so, when does speaking your own mind cross over the line to thoughtlessness, in your opinion?

cos ya see, today, this one girl was, in my opinion, SPECTACULARLY thoughtless.

First, we were discussing universities, and I said that my mum had asked if I could stay within 90 miles of home, which is fine by me, as my faves our only 60 miles away. To this, the girl said, "well, my mum hasn't put any constraints on my education. She has my best interests at heart."

Then, we started discussing divorces, and she said, "It's completely wrong for a person to have to live without a dad. They must grow up disturbed." this said while sitting next to one of my bessie mates, who hasn't seen her dad in several years.

What's the verdict? Am I being overly-sensitive, or has this girl had a problem keeping her foot out of her mouth today?

((maybe it's a girl thing. I talked about this with both my parents today, dad didn't get how she could possibly have offended anyone, and mum burst out laughing at the thoughtlessness.))

She sounds like a snob and an idiot...those comments I would write off to stupidity

her feelings are valid, that she doesnt think a peson should be without a father, a father is something of a necessity, unless of course the father was abusive or what have you. she just presented her feelings in a poor manner, but i dont think she was trying to hurt anyones feelings or offend anyone. i think you are being overly sensitive. but then again, i am never offended by anything anyone can ever say to me, because as far as im concerned everyone who i dont know is a retarded chuckle head.

Her feelings way be valid, but every persons situation is different, maybe she feels the need to have input from her father but not everyone does. There are many people whose parents are still married or together but the father, due to work committments, is still not seen very much by the children. It was insensitive of this girl to suggest what she said, maybe if it was explained to her she may see that was insensitive. She may not have meant to hurt anyones feelings but at times you need to consider what you are saying and how it may hurt others around you.

Originally posted by BackFire349
her feelings are valid, that she doesnt think a peson should be without a father, a father is something of a necessity, unless of course the father was abusive or what have you. she just presented her feelings in a poor manner, but i dont think she was trying to hurt anyones feelings or offend anyone. i think you are being overly sensitive. but then again, i am never offended by anything anyone can ever say to me, because as far as im concerned everyone who i dont know is a retarded chuckle head.

hear, hear

Originally posted by Corran
Her feelings way be valid, but every persons situation is different, maybe she feels the need to have input from her father but not everyone does. There are many people whose parents are still married or together but the father, due to work committments, is still not seen very much by the children. It was insensitive of this girl to suggest what she said, maybe if it was explained to her she may see that was insensitive. She may not have meant to hurt anyones feelings but at times you need to consider what you are saying and how it may hurt others around you.

yeah, but he's still there, still around, and still somewhat available, i can see where the girl was coming from, she was just obviously stupid in her presentation of her feelings.

Well as for the Uni thing..I dont see how that can be offensive.
The dad thing (you didnt say if she knew that your friend hasnt seen her father for years) I think it stupid to think that someone would grow disturbed because "it" doesnt have a dad. It would be thoughtless if she knew.
I agree with diego...she did sound kinda snob by the way you tell things.

Originally posted by Kes
Well as for the Uni thing..I dont see how that can be offensive.
The dad thing (you didnt say if she knew that your friend hasnt seen her father for years) I think it stupid to think that someone would grow disturbed because "it" doesnt have a dad. It would be thoughtless if she knew.
I agree with diego...she did sound kinda snob by the way you tell things.

the uni thing is that she meant my mother didnt have my best interests at heart - she meant my mother was being selfish

Originally posted by Corran
Her feelings way be valid, but every persons situation is different, maybe she feels the need to have input from her father but not everyone does. There are many people whose parents are still married or together but the father, due to work committments, is still not seen very much by the children. It was insensitive of this girl to suggest what she said, maybe if it was explained to her she may see that was insensitive. She may not have meant to hurt anyones feelings but at times you need to consider what you are saying and how it may hurt others around you.

I rarelly saw my dad growing up. He worked all the time.And I'm ...
Oops exexmple!

Originally posted by Phoenix
the uni thing is that she meant my mother didnt have my best interests at heart - she meant my mother was being selfish

Well isnt she?

hahha

Originally posted by BackFire349
yeah, but he's still there, still around, and still somewhat available, i can see where the girl was coming from, she was just obviously stupid in her presentation of her feelings.

Originally posted by Phoenix
the uni thing is that she meant my mother didnt have my best interests at heart - she meant my mother was being selfish

you shouldnt let this girl get to you, she obviously had sub-standard intelegence.

*hugs Corran*

see, I knew a sensible grown-up could solve all my problems!!

😂

Originally posted by BackFire349
you shouldnt let this girl get to you, she obviously had sub-standard intelegence.

😄

Originally posted by Phoenix
*hugs Corran*

see, I knew a sensible grown-up could solve all my problems!!

😂

😛

*waves*

byebye! me going now!

((stoopid bio work... but I'm determined not to fail this year!))

bye bye 🙂

Yeah i think she was a bit insensitive but i dont think u shud get too hung up on what she sed