Lying

I prefer to say the truth, sometimes in a toned down version, but to me tell the truth is important.

As an answer to your question, I would say that the example of the haircut belongs to what I call PR, as it is used in companies (Maybe this word is not a very good one, but anyway...), i.e our being with other people, which I think is some kind of social mask... The fact is you never reveal yourself completely and utterly to others...So it's kinda normal...

"Oh, you've got a new haircut ! It's great, (but personally, I prefered your former one)"

I like to be honest with people all the time. SO if a person SUCKS then i'll them.

Can lying sometimes be excused to spare someone's feelings?

I prefer sticking to the truth but I wont ouright lie to spare someones feeling. For example if they've had their hair cut and it looks crap I wont say it looks crap and I wont say it looks good either, I'll tell them it doesn't look as good as the last time or something...

You’re never lying to protect someone else’s feelings. You’ll just be lying to protect yourself from being “the one who hurt so and so’s feelings.”
If I had a crappy hair-cut I’d like to know so I could do something about it.
The truth all the way. Lies are for the weak.

lies attract lies. but sometimes lies prevent an argument. So sometimes you have to lie unless you like sleeping on the coach or being made to feel like shit for weeks to come because woman never let you forget

*backflash*

well, at least two people here (FM and evy_o) know by now what I think of lying...

imho, if you lie, you don't respect the other person and when someone lies to me, that person will have an extremely difficult time to get me to talk to him/her ever again, I'm quite severe in that as I absolutely HATE lies (bad experience years ago with a "friend"😉

One of my friends has a psychological condition meaning that she can't help herself from making up things. It sounds strange but it's real. I feel really sorry for her because nobody trusts her and it's not her fault!

lies do the most damage to the person telling the lie assuming that person is aware, most people arent lying is like breathing to some people, but if your aware when telling the lie it always comes back to haunt you

I don't think of little white lies so much s lying, but of being inventive with the truth...

you know, like saying "wow!" when they ask you what you think of something - cos you may mean bad wow, but they can interpret it as good wow!

that's their fault then?

no-one's fault!

the best fault there is...

though I still blame it on the others 😛

Yeh...not lying as in lying. More like work the truth. Make it a bit softer 🙂

Bend the truth to your needs.

that's still lying, imho

Originally posted by LanceWindu
Bend the truth to your needs.

Not to my needs. Like the hair thing. I wouldnt say:"I think its horrible."
I'd say: "I liked it better the way it was."

Yeah, making it easier for other people to bear is not lying.