Originally posted by queeq:
<STRONG>Without regret one cannot learn from one's mistakes.</STRONG>
That is SO untrue. You can realise you have made a mistake, and learn from it with out having to regret making that mistake.
Regret is for people who would rather mope off their mistakes than get off of their lazy butts and learn from them...
Frankly queeq, that's BS. If you have to regret every little mistake just to know it's a mistake then you just end up being a manic depressive.... Oh, well in you case then...
REGRET (Vowel or Nown): Feel or express sorrow or repentance or distress over an action or loss; A feeling of sorrow, repentance, disappointment, etc over an action or loss.
You can realise you have made a mistake without having to feel sorrowful about it. You can learn from that mistake and do better next time.
Sometimes there will be regret, but regret is not a prerequisite for the realisation of a mistake or the learning process that can follow. IMHO OC
Originally posted by queeq:
<STRONG>However, staying so firmly away from regret is perhaps just a way of hiding insecurity. I know when I make a mistake, and I hate making mistakes. Perhaps that's just the perfectionist in me talking, but I am not shying away from admitting I screwed up and that that was not a good thing. Regret is good, it keeps you humble and it shows other people that what your true intentions are. But you have it your way.</STRONG>
How said, at any time, about firmly staying away from regret? Certainly wasn't me.
However, if you regret every little, tiny mistake then surely that takes away the value of regret cos you just treating every mistake in the same way.
I can say, with great certainty, that in recent months I have made a great many mistakes, however I do not regret all of those mistakes because they allowed me to grow as a person. Sure there are some regrets, but those mainly lie around consequences of some actions and not the actions themselves.
Regret everything and deminish the value of regret. Regret the important mistakes and regret becomes a useful tool to self development and growth.
AIMHO OC... 😉
Sure, I'll be a manic depressive if you want.
However, staying so firmly away from regret is perhaps just a way of hiding insecurity. I know when I make a mistake, and I hate making mistakes. Perhaps that's just the perfectionist in me talking, but I am not shying away from admitting I screwed up and that that was not a good thing. Regret is good, it keeps you humble and it shows other people that what your true intentions are. But you have it your way.