Botankus what is your problem!?
Dogbert you can't beat yourself up about it, death is fate. Fate is nothing we can argue with. I've been close to suicide too, it's often used as a back-up plan for if anything goes wrong in your life. Or you just think 'I'm sick and tired of living like this, I want to be reincarnated as somebody else, I can't live this way anymore.'
But in twenty years time ask yourself this 'If I could go back and save him, would I?'
It would make you the strong and caring man you are and will be then.
I often think years after a loved one died 'if I could go back to the beginning and save them, would I?'
Originally posted by BlackC@t
I've been close to suicide too, it's often used as a back-up plan for if anything goes wrong in your life. Or you just think 'I'm sick and tired of living like this, I want to be reincarnated as somebody else, I can't live this way anymore.'
May I ask what nearly drove you to suicide?
i beleave suicide is the last resort. it is the thing you end up doing or turning to when you think there is nothing else left or nothing else worse trying for. it is a harsh choice and can hurt so many people around you. it might end your suffering of the person which does it but i soesn't help the family and friends of this person.
it doesn't mean that you shouldn't give the person who did this respect because thats wrong. so think about it, the person who did this or is thinking of doing this must be prety low and there will have to be a reason for that and im taking it it will be a prety good one. so don't go around telling people that they shouldn't respect the dead or you yourself respect them because they must of bben hurting or suffering bad for this. so don't go slanting them or putting them down, repect them!!
Wow, that is horrible Dogbert. I'm real sorry to here that. I know any kind of death is horrible, but to me suicide has to be one of the worst. Its not easy to deal with or understand. I've been close to situations that involved suicide, it's a very tough for the person thinking about it and/or doing it and family and friends. My prayers go out to you and the family, May God be with you.
I came across this website by mistake and I felt that i really needed to leave a message in here because i knew Franky for 4 years, and since he's not here with us to defend himself I'm gonna do it for him. So let me first start off by saying that I'm a senior at SEA and i spent my last 4 years with Franky in a lot of the same classes. I can't say that I was friends with Franky b/c while he was on this earth we never hung out and I admit that we never tlaked as much as we should have, but I love Franky and not a day goes by that I havent thought of him. Its been a little over a month now since he died and it still feels like that morning i found out. I had lied to my boss to get the weekend off. Homecoming '04 the last one i would ever have in high school. I invited my two best friends to come over and stay the weekend with me. We had a really awesome weekend planned. Friday we were gonna go to the movies, saturday afternoon we'd catch the varsity football game, then go back for the Homecoming Dance. Well Saturday morning i was at the hair salon getting ready for the big day when one of my friends called and sed dont bother going to the game its cancelled and so is the dance. I asked why and she said Franky died. I heard the words but they didnt set in for another few hours. I just sat there saying no he didnt dont lie Franky would never do that. I spent the day breaking out in tears and holding back the urge to physically be sick. I just wanted to make Franky come back, I wanted to hear his special voice(no one has ever sounded like Franky before). I didnt know what to do. A lot of kids went down tot he school to cry and be with eachother. I just sat home and cryed. I could go on for hours about how i felt but i won't. I just asked WHY? why would someone as beautiful, athletic, intelligent, and blessed as Franky do something that caused us all so much pain. I wanted Franky back, but i knew he was never coming. That Tuesday was our first day back at school. The principal sed we shouldnt worship the place he died at so we brought our makeshift memorial into the school chapel. There was a Mass for Franky and I spent the entire day with the rest of the senior class in the chapel praying for Franky, remembering all that he left behind. He was a hero to us all, he was what we all wanted to be. The wake was horrid.
The lines were in excess of an hour to get in and once you were in there was no preparing yourself for the truth. Franky looked so cold and lifeless and i was nauseas being there, i broke down and completely started to fall apart. The guys that were there had to hold me and it helped a little but the reality had hit too hard. Franky's funeral mass was packed out. Over 1000 people went and the church was completely filled. no more seats or standing room. It rained all morning then the sun peaked through and I knew it was Franky's way of telling us he loves us too and he's in a better place. So for all of u that knocked him down after he died. I want you to know that while he took the easy way out Franky deserved to be happy and now i know he is. And he's in heaven watching over us and loving us everyday. He accomplished so much in so little time and he will never be forgotten. Franky I Love You.
RIP #21- Our Viking In Heaven.
OMG im a freshman at the school but i really know him.It was was very hard to all my friends that where juniors and seniors including my brother. I went to the funeral mass to help my friends get through it. It was my first homecoming and it was really bad that it had to be that way. Be4 they told us everyone was sohappy and haveing a great time but wen they told us everyone just fell into sadness.he was a very loved person and from wat i saw that day he will never be forgotten.
Frankie RIP you will always be remembered
its a sad loss u r trying to cope with if you opened a thread for it.
the year 2001 was the worst year i ever had having lost not 1 but two close friends in the space of 4 MONTHS ! they both decided to take their lives.
its a terrible pain, but whats even worse, is the toughts that pass through the minds of the closest persons. The toughts of a miserable situation. Only god knows what was going through the minds of a person about to commit suicide.
The tought of being a useless person.
The tought of not standing a chance.
The tought of fear at being mocked.
you may begin to wonder if there was anything that you could have done to avoid this tragic scenario.
Its all a point of picking yourself up, give yourself a dusting and get back to work on it, keeping in mind that mistakes are there to be learned from.
cannot forget that quote from 'Haunted Mansion' movie:
You try , You fail
You try , You fail
The biggest failure is when you stop trying