Dilemma, difficult one.

Originally posted by Alpha Centauri
I do appreciate your words.

But this is slightly deeper than "She's a jerk" and "You'll find someone better."

Doesn't exactly provide major comfort at the end of a 3 year loving relationship.

Thank you though, genuinely.

I'm just in that "I don't have anything to live for" major depression at the moment. Also happens to be true, which adds to it.

-AC

I'm sorry to here this AC.

3 years? That's as long as my prior relationship, and wouldn't you know it, she left me for someone else too. So I pretty much know what you're going through.

I'd like to tell you that it will be easy to get over, but that's not true. It's going to take a long time to get back into your life. However, good can come from this. Take this as an opportunity to get back in tune with yourself, learn to love yourself and be happy with yourself. In the end, you WILL be stronger because of it, and one day, you will look back on this day and laugh, because things will be so much better in the future.

Best of luck to you.

Thank you Backfire.

-AC

dude, that sucks. well, brush off your shoulders and get right back into the sh!t. don't wallow in your sorrows too long. i totally know how you feel...

ac, i'm so sorry, i really am, i try to do everything to make my gf happy, and it scares the shit outta me to think she may leave me. ive had my heart broken before though, i feel your pain, i do.

but if it was meant to be she'd still be with you, at least remember that. when i had my heart broken i thought id never recover, but i did, and now i have someone ten times better than the last.

sorry man, i diddnt read through all of the posts. That really is a shock blow. Try your best not to despair on it to much though man. Despair is even harder to get over than what drove you to despairing in the first place.

I appreciate all your words, I truly do. You see, despite my nature of debate, Alpha Centauri is actually human.

I appreciate everyone's words. But it really is too late to not despair, I'm already deep into it.

She didn't leave me for someone else I now know, but she does love me. She said that, she just doesn't feel it's gonna work with the distance always there. It makes her too sad to be apart from me.

So there it is. I feel like everything I have, my life, just hit a brick wall and wont be getting around it any time soon.

-AC

yes you will... I had this 4 yr relationship - and when me and my (ex) bf broke up I couldn't imagine life would be good again - I was so sad ... cried all the time and didnt eat.. but after some time it was ok-- I look back now and just laugh at myself (he is such a dumbass) and all that happened--

I know thats hard to see now ... you will be fine...

if it is meant to be (with her) it will be

sorry -- feel bad for ya .. I know (Im sure lots of ppl here) know how you are feeling right now 🙁

You obviously have trust issues if you checked her Emails, that's no a good grounding for a relationship; if you are concerned about whether you can trust her or not this will put a strain on the relationship; you need to voice whatever concerns you have without mentioning the Email checking - if you do not then you may never get to the bottom of it.

Well she came back to me upset asking for me to forgive her.

As much as I want to I dunno if I can. I love her but I just dunno if I can deal with it.

-AC

difficult situation AC, you two need to sit down and talk things over , but most of all YOU NEED to sort OUT YOUR OWN FEELINGS and that you have to do alone......and you need some time to do so, it aint done in a day or two

AC> First of all: Shame on you for checking your girlfriends e-mail. It shows you don’t really trust her, and that I think is the core of the situation here.
It won’t be justified no matter what you do. BUT… there’s nothing to gnaw at ones inside as doubts in regards to loved ones.
If you and she are good friends as well as being lovers, TALK to her. Tell her, that you FEEL (!) she’s been a little short with you as of late and wonder what’s wrong. If she says “nothing” press the matter.
If you and she are not “friendly” as friends are, become secretive yourself. Most people are en-dowed with a sense of curiosity, and it’s a matter of activating that trait.

alpha, it just sounds like shes depressed because of the distance, i know because i'm in the exact same situation. LOng distance relationships are so difficult, but both of you have gotta just hang in there. it will work out eventually, just keep telling her that.

it honestly sounds like she just panicked, if you love each other then give her another chance, you'll regret it if you don't.