Once you know you are pregnant you should do everything in your power in insure that that baby will be healthy. A selfish person would deny 9 months out of her WHOLE life for someone else. There's something wrong with that. Someday that child will come to know WHY he/she is different whether it's brain problems of malformed. And someone has to do the explaining and someone might NOT forgive them. That child will know how selfish it was that his/her mom couldn't give up 9 months for him, and now he/she will live the rest of their life with these handicaps.