It's a shame that some guys are really nervous but you really shouldn't feel bad about it. Happens to literally everyone almost. The ones that just stroll up to girls and speak to them in a flash are usually never nervous based on the fact that they're not too bothered about making an impression. It's guys (and girls) who care about how they come across, that take the time.
The main thing you have to realise before going on a date, this applies to both sexes, but mainly guys (not sure if the author is a guy or a girl, slipped my mind). Females don't bite, there's no NEED to be nervous. Nothing to be afraid of. Don't put yourself in the position of "Oh god! I'm nervous, so she'll think I'm lame. Gotta NOT be nervous" coz you'll make it worse. Initiating the conversation really is half the battle over if you're a nervous guy. I've been on countless very successful dates (some alot less serious than others) but at heart I get nervous easily, I'm pretty much a nerd also.
It's just about having confidence in yourself, confidence in your ability to present yourself honestly, truthfully and respectable. In attitude foremost. Don't dress yourself up to the nines, just show her that she's worth looking nice for. Don't try to be overly funny or overly cool, just say what you feel is right at the time, can't go wrong.
When walking to or from the destination, never let your date walk alone. At the very least, hold hands with her. Too many girls walk along after dates with their arms folded wondering if their date even cares that they're there. So make sure she knows you're there.
But if that fails, fake your own death 😉.
Seriously though, overcoming the nervousness to make the approach is all that you need. Don't stroll in there in the mindset of "this is gonna fail". That's the main problem that applies to both girls and guys. Just have confidence that you'll come away, whatever the outcome, knowing that you presented yourself well. When you meet him though Sailormoon, look at his face when you greet him. If I meet a girl and STRAIGHT away the first thing she assesses is my dress code, it puts me off.
-AC
Originally posted by Ronny
That's the kind of guy we need around here, they're all like "yo, if I told you, you hade a beautiful body would you hold it against me tonght 😐"gah what i would give for a geek faint
My friends think I'm stupid. Bless them.
Now for advice: I wouldn't change yourself if I were you OR the said guy. Basically what Alpha said. You can change your personality a little, but remember that if he can't like you for who you ARE, it's not working out. And won't work out.
And whatever you do, do your utmost to break tension lines. I really hate those nervous moments, where you don't know what the hell to say next. Which lasts for seemingly eternity.
What AC said. Bless him.
Originally posted by lil bitchiness
*twitch* I was on 4 dates ini the past 3 weeks. Id rather not comment on them.*twitch*
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Just be yourself - and if he dont like it - his los. Look at his shoes! shoes tell a lot about a guy! ✅