sorry to bring harsh news, but
if you're arguing constantly your relationship is probably doomed.
either that, or one of you/both of you have issues to work out which have nothing to do with eachother and will just reoccur from one relationship to the next.
think about it. you have been with him for six months. your supposed to be in bliss. being miserable and arguing is natural, but only after a few years of marriage and being sick of seeing eachother morning noon and night and having kids and a mortgage to pay off.
and as far as the codependency, not healthy. there is a big difference between missing someone and being depressed because you're not around them constantly. seems like you expect way too much out of him or vice versa or you're both guilty of impossible expectations.
as far as the IM's, i think its a result of your's/his unwillingness to sort your problems out. perhaps one of you or both of you is bothered by whatever issues on a regular basis, but only has the courage/will/whatever to say it via IM as opposed to in person. maybe thats another thing you guys need to talk about. besides, IMs are chock full of misunderstandings, not to mention that you could probably resolve an issue in like 5 minutes in person/on the phone, where on IM it would take a couple of hours.
hope that helps
Originally posted by Morbid4Daniel
I cant. Its an addiction. I Constantly have to be with him or Im sad,.
That's not healthy. If you're sad when you're not with then you have a problem stemming deeper then petty arguing over the internet. If you force yourself to be around him all the time then chances are you'll start to smother him and he'll begin to push you away.
If you spend too much time talking too or actually being with someone, problems will arise, the best solution is to take a break from him when things start to get heated and when you start arguing about stupid things. That's a sign that it's time for some alone time. It will make your relationship better as a whole.
It's never healthy to be addicted to anything, it's a disaster waiting to happen.
Oh, and **** IM's, IM's suck. I hate talking to people on IM's for more then like 5 minutes.