I miss the good ol' days

Originally posted by Capt_Fantastic
If I met the right person, maybe I wold consider changing my life to better suit a relationship. As it is, I like my life. I like not being attached to one person.

Originally posted by Alpha Centauri
Relationships on the internet are weird.

I don't think internet relationships are worth anything, pointless if you don't ever plan to meet.

Internet born relationships aren't really that bad, you can't help where you meet. Just gotta be extra aware, extra careful and extra investigative because as Linkster said, people lie.

-AC

Originally posted by Alpha Centauri
Relationships on the internet are weird.

I don't think internet relationships are worth anything, pointless if you don't ever plan to meet.

Internet born relationships aren't really that bad, you can't help where you meet. Just gotta be extra aware, extra careful and extra investigative because as Linkster said, people lie.

-AC

I agree with that. I met my last boyfriend on the internet. We've met in person several times. Everything in that relationship was pretty much on the up and up.

The problem is always meeting. Because you could be in love, everything going great, then meet and find out it doesn't work for whatever reason. Just sorta prolongs heartache, should meet as soon as possible. Or only pursue internet born/long distance relationships if you are absolutely able to continue it and keep it up.

-AC

and how can you know that?

How can I know what?

It's common sense.

-AC

Originally posted by CherryPie
I miss the days when the sex was free when I first joined and everyone wanted me and now I am a sad little girl

I am soo badly needed of some lovin'

Don't beg for sex...that makes you look cheap.

No one likes a whiner.

Originally posted by Clovie

you;re right
but i guess it doesn't go for everyone.
as far as i noticed you don't lie, i don't lie, there is some more ppl who doesn't.
and the fact that you've had a really bad luck is just an exception that confirms the rule 😕

internet relationships can be wonderful... 😊

Originally posted by Alpha Centauri
How can I know what?

It's common sense.

-AC

Originally posted by shellie
exactly, not everyone is a liar....some but not all.

Originally posted by Lan©eWindu™
Don't beg for sex...that makes you look cheap.

It makes her look free, not cheap. Giving her too much credit Sir Lancelot.

On the relationship thing, just because certain people on here (AKA Shellie) have been fortunate enough to have everything go right, doesn't mean that the likely scenario is that it will go wrong, because it is. It's common sense to know that you shouldn't get into that nature of relationship unless you're absolutely serious about it and have thought about it.

Originally posted by Clovie
how do you know if when you;re meeting someone onlie it is really a through feeling and that it will be able to survive? 😕

You don't. Hence why meeting is absolutely neccessary. Anyone can type "I love you, no really I do". You'll never know if it's real or not until you meet. It's obvious.

-AC

Originally posted by Alpha Centauri
You don't. Hence why meeting is absolutely neccessary. Anyone can type "I love you, no really I do". You'll never know if it's real or not until you meet. It's obvious.

-AC

Originally posted by Alpha Centauri
It makes her look free, not cheap. Giving her too much credit Sir Lancelot.

On the relationship thing, just because certain people on here (AKA Shellie) have been fortunate enough to have everything go right, doesn't mean that the likely scenario is that it will go wrong, because it is. It's common sense to know that you shouldn't get into that nature of relationship unless you're absolutely serious about it and have thought about it.

You don't. Hence why meeting is absolutely neccessary. Anyone can type "I love you, no really I do". You'll never know if it's real or not until you meet. It's obvious.

-AC

Yeah, you're right...too much credit.

Anyways, I've had an Internet relationship, we were in it for 6 months. Once we broke up her true feelings came out and she said that she never loved me and that I annoyed her. So there is the lying issue.

Regardless I am getting close to some one on KMC here, and there is a possibility of something happening, but it's not certain. We're just friends, but I'd like to be something more, and she already knows that. Taking it slow is the wisest thing to do though.

Originally posted by Clovie
i know...
but what if meeting is impossibleat the moment? 🙁

You'll have to stick it out until the chance to meet becomes available, and then see how the two of you click together. Like AC said, you won't know your true feelings until you meet.

Originally posted by Lan©eWindu™
You'll have to stick it out until the chance to meet becomes available, and then see how the two of you click together. Like AC said, you won't know your true feelings until you meet.

Originally posted by Clovie
so maybe it is better to assume that there was no feelings in the first place?

I wouldn't say that.

There really could be feelings, but you won't know for sure until you meet and have time to truly get to know one another.

Just be cautious and take things slowly, make sure this is something you really want before taking the next step by meeting them.

If it's impossible to meet, then bail out because it will only end badly.

If you know you will meet, then continue if the desire is there. By "know" I don't mean "Oh I totally know we will meet", I mean actual plans acted upon to meet.

Good luck Lance, I hope things work well either way.

Internet born/long distance relationships can work and have worked. They have more chance and more reason to go wrong that any other relationship though. Especially when you've not even met. The most important thing is to not kid yourself. Don't let your crush feelings persuade you to enter something that isn't gonna work, or don't convince yourself it's gonna work if it's not.

-AC

and what if you don't know? and you are not sure abotu anything...but you feel that there might be something? 😕

Originally posted by Alpha Centauri
Good luck Lance, I hope things work well either way.

Don't let your crush feelings persuade you to enter something that isn't gonna work, or don't convince yourself it's gonna work if it's not.

-AC

Thanks AC.

Those were the downfalls of my previous Internet relationship. It was more of a crush than anything else, and things moved too quickly for a relationship that wasn't real. Plus neither of us had the resources to meet each other. Those are the main killers of a long distance relationship.

Then you have the jealousy issue, they are far away from you and you never know if they are blowing you off to go see someone else, or you're afraid someone else is going to move in on them when you aren't there. (Another thing that happened to me, and she DID go with someone else, on my birthday no less 😠 )

Originally posted by Clovie
and what if you don't know? and you are not sure abotu anything...but you feel that there might be something? 😕

Then give it lots of time, and think about everything before you come up with a decision.

Originally posted by Lan©eWindu™
Then give it lots of time, and think about everything before you come up with a decision.