Help!

My father is completely convinced that I can't buy a single piece of much needing clothing until I clean up my room. My room isn't really that dirty but since I am in the process of cleaning up the house alone the amount of trash that is taken out of it is extremely ridiculous and having only one regular sized curb-trash can I can only get rid of so much trash each week. He doesn't lift a finger around the house to help clean it and treats me like shit everytime I ask him to help. Then when we go over to one of our family friend's houses he tells them that I don't do a thing to help, and now they're convinced that I'm a horrid little brat. I have maybe two pairs of pants big enough for me that don't have holes in them and maybe five shirts big enough for me that I can wear out side of the house. And everytime I do something proactive like cleaning the bathroom. he says oh thats great and then over looks it and gets on my case for not cleaning another part of the house. And everytime i point out that he hasnt done anything he screams bloody murder at me. I feel completely over worked and unrewarded for anything I do. I don't even get allowance. I start school in a month and have practically nothing, for school, clothes and supplies wise. How can I convince him to shape up and pay attention to me? cry

My dad is the EXACT same way. He makes me do EVERYTHING and he sits on his ass on the lawnmower every once in a while and calls that work. Thank god my mom gives a shit more than he does. My best advice to you is to keep doing your stupid chores till he finally figures out that your doing something and starts rewarding you some 😬

sorry no advise.. i suck at giving advise,.. and spelling it..

😛 its your turn to get snipped at for grammer and crap 😠 use paragraphs!!! lol im joking 😄

yah welcome to adolescents... thats how parents are...cant do nothin about it 😬

Originally posted by Rob Owns You
My dad is the EXACT same way. He makes me do EVERYTHING and he sits on his ass on the lawnmower every once in a while and calls that work. Thank god my mom gives a shit more than he does. My best advice to you is to keep doing your stupid chores till he finally figures out that your doing something and starts rewarding you some 😬

Remember what I've said about someone being off worse than you, Ronny?

Yeah. Me, again.

Originally posted by Ronny
Your lucky though, I have to put up with just him, he thinks he should be pittied just because my mom died two and a half years ago and compleatly over looks my feelings 🙁 I just want him to shut up.

Oh Im sorry, I had no clue that you dont have a mom 🙁 Well in that case, mabey you should explain to him that you cant do EVERYTHING by yourself and ask him to help out just a little bit. Every little bit helps. And I dont see why he wont buy you anything, does he have a good job or not? 😬

Originally posted by dark1365
Remember what I've said about someone being off worse than you, Ronny?

Yeah. Me, again.

Originally posted by Rob Owns You
Oh Im sorry, I had no clue that you dont have a mom 🙁 Well in that case, mabey you should explain to him that you cant do EVERYTHING by yourself and ask him to help out just a little bit. Every little bit helps. And I dont see why he wont buy you anything, does he have a good job or not? 😬

Sorry.

Wait...what's your reaction when he starts yelling at you?

Originally posted by dark1365
Sorry.

Wait...what's your reaction when he starts yelling at you?

Originally posted by Ronny
He has one and he just got a payday. And I have told him that before he just yells at me

He sounds like a complete ass

He is one, he is extreamly vain

ronny id say youre best bet is not to argue with him...you wont win. in the end he always has the parental authority to send you to your room... as long as he doesnt lay a finger on you. just do your best to hang in there

Have you ever tryed to move in with another family member, an uncle, grandmother, ect... ?

Originally posted by Ronny
I yell back at him. Usally wining the agrue ment up until the point where he sees that he can't possibly win and sends me to my room screaming that hews the father hes always rtight i have no say in my life blah blah

Worst comes to worst, please modify my speech to your needs. Please adopt a tone of severe annoyance/impatience. Be in control. Don't raise your voice too loud; if he tries to interrupt, say "It is VERY RUDE to INTERRUPT ANOTHER when they are TALKING!"

"Look, you're just standing there and complaining, okay? That's all you do. That's all you EVER do, is just stand there and yell. That's what you were doing a week ago. That's what you were doing yesterday. So ONE DAY from NOW, if you start yelling at me again , I'll just ignore you. I'm sick of it, okay? I'm sick of you treating me like dirt. I've been doing what I can to clean the damn house. And you know what? You're NOT a good parent! So because of THAT, I'm not going to talk to you, I'm not going to listen to you. Until you stand and apologize to me."

It rendered my father speechless.

Originally posted by Rob Owns You
Have you ever tryed to move in with another family member, an uncle, grandmother, ect... ?

Originally posted by Ronny
My uncle, the only one who leaves relatively close is a achololic and incapable to take care of a child. I could try to move in with one of my friends but that would have to be after my 17th birthday which is to far away

Hmm mabey that dosnt sound like a bad thing but, does her parents approve?

Originally posted by dark1365
I see.
Well, for starts, I wouldn't yell back at him always. Don't raise your voice, support your arguments patiently, even if he screams his goddamn throat out. Like in a court of law, almost. Sooner or later he will realise that his reaction is worse. Does he drink?

Worst comes to worst, please modify my speech to your needs. Please adopt a tone of severe annoyance/impatience. Be in control. Don't raise your voice too loud; if he tries to interrupt, say "It is VERY RUDE to INTERRUPT ANOTHER when they are TALKING!"

"Look, you're just standing there and complaining, okay? That's all you do. That's all you EVER do, is just stand there and yell. That's what you were doing a week ago. That's what you were doing yesterday. So ONE DAY from NOW, if you start yelling at me again , I'll just ignore you. I'm sick of it, okay? I'm sick of you treating me like dirt. I've been doing what I can to clean the damn house. And you know what? You're NOT a good parent! So because of THAT, I'm not going to talk to you, I'm not going to listen to you. Until you stand and apologize to me."

It rendered my father speechless.

Then just do what I said in the first paragraph..try and be patient.