Originally posted by EsteemedLeader
i dont want to watch my tone. im not his pet monkey. ill do what I want. maybe i should just quit. not quit fighting him, just quit doing anything. he cant punish me if i dont care. i just refuse to do what he says. maybe that will work...
Esteemedleader. I have been exactly where you are.
I was being abused by my mom's boyfriend physically and mentally.
Beat with a belt, getting welps and bruises.
My mom would say something to him when i told her but whenever me and my sister were left alone at home with him, he would show off and act like he wad God or something and become even stricter than we she was there. It was more to me than my sister, he didn't hit her anywhere near as much as me.
And this was when i was smaller and just went to be in my tighty whities. He would always find something to fuss about and come and beat me with the belt while i was in bed.
And a about a year or more ago I brought it up to my mom while we were in an argument how she didn't deserve my respect( because as time went on she became as bad as him and was doing exactly what he wanted her to do, she started hitting me and stuff) but anyway i brought up the fact how he always used to hit me and she told me that it was only one time, I blew up and I couldn't believe it, even though one time should have been enough. But i was there and went through all that crap. But she got worse. When I turned 16 it got real bad and i was getting knocked out of cheers and getting my shirts ripped, getting fingers shoved in my mouth and eyes and getting shoved onto the floorl, bed, chair and getting the hand around the throat which caught off my airway for one second in one incident. And this went on for months while also my whole tv station thing and game systems were taken out of my room and that thing was big and heavy and guess what the excuse was for it being taken out of my room. Even though she took the plug away so I couldn't turn it on, she said that I was still sneaking and turning the tv on and watching it. How I was magically doing this, I dont know, but that was the lame excuse she used. This thing was big too, it held my 32 inch tv and two game systems and dvd's and games and she also threatened to take my computer out of my room too even though she had already taken that plug away too so i couldn't turn it on.
Re: I hate my moms boyfriend...
Originally posted by EsteemedLeaderHe sounds like some sort of control freak. 🙁
This guy is such an ass. Just now my brother asked me if I wanted to order out for dinner. I said I didnt care. I heard him say to my mom that "he says hes fine", as if i didnt want anything. i said "i didnt say i was fine, i said i didnt care what we ate". and you know what Mr Boyfriend says? "watch your mouth!". not in a nice way, not even in a friendly warning kind of way. he said it like he was threatening me. and the other day I was talking to my mom and she was really being a downer, so i said "dont be so negative". the motherf***er walks up and in a harsh voice says "WHAT WAS THAT! I dont like the way you speak to your mother. go to bed. RIGHT NOW!". i didnt even do anything...
I guess she thought it would heighten the effect. she took my hand held games and cd player and anything else entertaining.
She even made me go to a psychologist who put me on depressant/socail anxiety pills. I believed her when she said i had social anxiety/phobia, but i kept telling her that I have been depressed before and what i was feeling was not depression i was just mad at hell at my mom and her boyfriend. Was i suppose to go arounnd smiling in my kind of situation. So I was on these pills for a year and didn't feel any difference while taking them. They do say those kinds of pills make you more like to commit suicide as a teenager and i did think about it but i didn't do anything, i just liked to think about it
I couldn't do anything but read and look at the wall and think about killing myself the whole time i was sitting up in my room for all those months with nothing to do with my door wide open so they could peek in everytime they walked by, they even threatened to take the door off its hinges. I still do think about killing myself sometimes these days only in certain situations, but I never do anything, i just THINK about it.
So if your moms boyfriend is anything like mine I believe everyword you say.
But as I got older like 17 and 18 I became more distant and kept to myself and stayed in my room all the time and things have never been the same. They have gotten better but never the same. I never let myself bond with my mom like I used too. And now I am in college, just started, just finished my first week so things have really progressed.
And in distancing myself from everybody, I lessened the situations of abuse, still got the slap in the face, which i hated especially when i swole up and broke out in bumps and bruised. But I didn't get into as much disagreements and they didn't have as many times to start something with me and hit me or turn it into something.
But like while I was 18 and at home,I didnt get hit if somethingwentdown
So my eighteenth year was just arguments if anything at all cause nothing rarely happen since i didn't deal with them like anything. I didnt go as many places with them or stuffl like that. So my mom really lost her chance to have a real relationship with me, we have one but not as close as it could be. I can't even imagine a different one or closer one than the kind of relationship we have now.
At least that's all behind me now.
You'll get through it too.
Re: I hate my moms boyfriend...
Originally posted by EsteemedLeader
This guy is such an ass. Just now my brother asked me if I wanted to order out for dinner. I said I didnt care. I heard him say to my mom that "he says hes fine", as if i didnt want anything. i said "i didnt say i was fine, i said i didnt care what we ate". and you know what Mr Boyfriend says? "watch your mouth!". not in a nice way, not even in a friendly warning kind of way. he said it like he was threatening me. and the other day I was talking to my mom and she was really being a downer, so i said "dont be so negative". the motherf***er walks up and in a harsh voice says "WHAT WAS THAT! I dont like the way you speak to your mother. go to bed. RIGHT NOW!". i didnt even do anything...
next time he says that shit to you...just take a knife.....and.......
Re: I hate my moms boyfriend...
Originally posted by EsteemedLeader
This guy is such an ass. Just now my brother asked me if I wanted to order out for dinner. I said I didnt care. I heard him say to my mom that "he says hes fine", as if i didnt want anything. i said "i didnt say i was fine, i said i didnt care what we ate". and you know what Mr Boyfriend says? "watch your mouth!". not in a nice way, not even in a friendly warning kind of way. he said it like he was threatening me. and the other day I was talking to my mom and she was really being a downer, so i said "dont be so negative". the motherf***er walks up and in a harsh voice says "WHAT WAS THAT! I dont like the way you speak to your mother. go to bed. RIGHT NOW!". i didnt even do anything...
Me too, I hate my moms boyfriends. Hes a big pushover and annoying. He always screams in the phone like its a public place and he scres the living f*ck out of me when he drove the car really fast like nothin. He always blocks my way where ever I walk smiling. If my mom marries this Jackass, Im gonna runaway and live with my dad.
Originally posted by EsteemedLeader
i dont want to watch my tone. im not his pet monkey. ill do what I want. maybe i should just quit. not quit fighting him, just quit doing anything. he cant punish me if i dont care. i just refuse to do what he says. maybe that will work...
Originally posted by powerfulone1987
Esteemedleader. I have been exactly where you are.I was being abused by my mom's boyfriend physically and mentally.
Beat with a belt, getting welps and bruises.My mom would say something to him when i told her but whenever me and my sister were left alone at home with him, he would show off and act like he wad God or something and become even stricter than we she was there. It was more to me than my sister, he didn't hit her anywhere near as much as me.
And this was when i was smaller and just went to be in my tighty whities. He would always find something to fuss about and come and beat me with the belt while i was in bed.And a about a year or more ago I brought it up to my mom while we were in an argument how she didn't deserve my respect( because as time went on she became as bad as him and was doing exactly what he wanted her to do, she started hitting me and stuff) but anyway i brought up the fact how he always used to hit me and she told me that it was only one time, I blew up and I couldn't believe it, even though one time should have been enough. But i was there and went through all that crap. But she got worse. When I turned 16 it got real bad and i was getting knocked out of cheers and getting my shirts ripped, getting fingers shoved in my mouth and eyes and getting shoved onto the floorl, bed, chair and getting the hand around the throat which caught off my airway for one second in one incident. And this went on for months while also my whole tv station thing and game systems were taken out of my room and that thing was big and heavy and guess what the excuse was for it being taken out of my room. Even though she took the plug away so I couldn't turn it on, she said that I was still sneaking and turning the tv on and watching it. How I was magically doing this, I dont know, but that was the lame excuse she used. This thing was big too, it held my 32 inch tv and two game systems and dvd's and games and she also threatened to take my computer out of my room too even though she had already taken that plug away too so i couldn't turn it on.
Originally posted by KingDubya
If that sort of thing happens now, you can call the cops on them or tell someone. Or you can tell me, since my friend's mom is a lawyer who works on child abuse cases.
Well like i said, I am in college now and that is all behind me, plus that would be too much and I would be disrupting everything and nothing would be the same and since I have been in college for a week and feeling real homesick and realizing that nothing will really be the same since I am in college I need a little familiarity when I go home.
Couldn't do it then, can't do it now.............
Originally posted by EsteemedLeader
This guy is such an ass. Just now my brother asked me if I wanted to order out for dinner. I said I didnt care. I heard him say to my mom that "he says hes fine", as if i didnt want anything. i said "i didnt say i was fine, i said i didnt care what we ate". and you know what Mr Boyfriend says? "watch your mouth!". not in a nice way, not even in a friendly warning kind of way. he said it like he was threatening me. and the other day I was talking to my mom and she was really being a downer, so i said "dont be so negative". the motherf***er walks up and in a harsh voice says "WHAT WAS THAT! I dont like the way you speak to your mother. go to bed. RIGHT NOW!". i didnt even do anything...