Mourning.

I have no fear of death; I just don't greet it with open arms. I continue to pay my rent on the sack of meat I we describe as a body, and I have no desire to be evicted...yet.

Originally posted by Ladyluck
I don't understand why people get so upset when someone dies, that it takes over their lives. I don't mean to sound insensitive, because I know it sucks when someone close to you passes away, but come on... move on with your lives.

What I'm trying to say is, people die. It's inevitable. You can't stop it from happening. You know it's going to happen sooner or later so why practically ruin your life mourning over it?

Go ahead, be sad for a while but don't let it ruin your day. You're just wasting your life when you do that.

So much wrong with that post I don't even know where to begin. If you have some magical ability to not give a long-term care to loved ones who pass away, fine. Good for you, I'm sure it IS easier. Not everyone has that.

I don't, because the people I do care about mean a lot to me and life is generally better as a result of them being around. I believe what I believe with regards to death, but that doesn't stop it being sad.

-AC

Mourning is a very healthy and important act when you've lost someone close to you, you feel sad knowing that you will never ever see this person again, and they are gone forever, that you'll never make new memories with them, never get to joke with them or look at them.

If you don't mourn, and just pack all these sad, lonely feelings inside of you and just go on with your life as if nothing happened, they'll eventually come out in other ways, bad ways. And it's simply not healthy to deny your emotions in the way you're suggesting.

Originally posted by Ladyluck
I don't understand why people get so upset when someone dies, that it takes over their lives. I don't mean to sound insensitive, because I know it sucks when someone close to you passes away, but come on... move on with your lives.

What I'm trying to say is, people die. It's inevitable. You can't stop it from happening. You know it's going to happen sooner or later so why practically ruin your life mourning over it?

Go ahead, be sad for a while but don't let it ruin your day. You're just wasting your life when you do that.

By the way you put it, you probably never lost anyone.
It's normal to feel sad that a person is no longer there, you can't just forget them, like they never existed.

its our american/european culture that really makes us mourn for our lost ones. in other cultures, people prepare there whole lives with ritual to prepare for death. our fast paced cultures makes us ignore death until it finally strikes.

I have lost a few close family members, and a very dear friend of mine had an unfortunate death a little more than a year ago, so I know how it feels when you lose someone... Trust me...

I'm not saying don't mourn when someone dies. I understand that mourning helps to get over the death and helps you to cope with life without that person. Never did I say not to mourn. I simply said don't let the death of someone ruin your life. I know it's an extremely difficult time to go through when someone passes away, but after so long, you need to move on. You can't dwell on the death of someone forever.

-AC

^ did u post a pic, because nothing is there

Yeah I did, laaaame.

http://www.envision7.com/~rich/pics/master_of_the_obvious.jpg

-AC

I see it

it's easy to accept until it happens to you

Originally posted by Ladyluck
I don't understand why people get so upset when someone dies, that it takes over their lives. I don't mean to sound insensitive, because I know it sucks when someone close to you passes away, but come on... move on with your lives.

What I'm trying to say is, people die. It's inevitable. You can't stop it from happening. You know it's going to happen sooner or later so why practically ruin your life mourning over it?

Go ahead, be sad for a while but don't let it ruin your day. You're just wasting your life when you do that.

yes, you do have to eventually go on with you life, but it takes time.....🙄

Originally posted by CrazyInLove
yes, you do have to eventually go on with you life, but it takes time.....🙄

I know, and I understand that, but a lot of people refuse to move on with their lives and mourn for a ridiculously long time.

Originally posted by Ladyluck
I know, and I understand that, but a lot of people refuse to move on with their lives and mourn for a ridiculously long time.

*Raises hand*

Ah yes, over here. So-sorry, sorry but erm...you said "but a lot of people refuse to move on with their lives and mourn for a ridiculously long time." Um...haha, this is so embarassing but I missed the part where the lengths of which people mourn was your problem and/or business.

Point me to this if you could.

-AC

Originally posted by Ladyluck
I know, and I understand that, but a lot of people refuse to move on with their lives and mourn for a ridiculously long time.

Who are you to say what is a ridiculously long time? People deal with grief in different ways. If this bugs you that much avoid the grieving person until they are done is all you need to do.

when my grandmother died, i did the "suck it up" thing, then i felt like shit, so i let it out. got my tattoo to signify the end of my mourning

What the **** sort of shitty thread is this. hey Ladyluck I think you should mourn this thread after it gets locked.