Re: r girls really that intimidating?
Originally posted by Wonderwomenbabe
r girls really that intimidating that guys can't talk to them?
Yes, some are.
Like, a woman can be so beautiful and she doesn't know what effect its having on a guy and thats intimidating. There are some women who constantly are grouped with guys they aren't even going out with and you are put off because you aren't sure if she's available to ask out. Also approaching a women who is clustered around her female friends is off-putting.
Now, I'm not saying that women do this on purpose but I see it a lot of the time and its depressing to me because I have low confidence to begin with.
Originally posted by Wonderwomenbabe
i reckon! i mean some guys u can't just walk up to and start talking to they would laugh at you, and when they around their mates they don't even wanna know bout u!
But you can easily wait until the guy is on his own and then make your move because single guys will eventually make themselves look like they are available by moving away from the large group (especially at a social event).
Women tend to sit together in pairs, walk together, shop together, dance together etc. And when women aren't with each other they'll join a group of men that might just be friends or relatives and I assume at least one of them is a boyfriend. So I am put off and intimidated.
Remember this is just how I see it.
Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
Not true.
yeah thats totally untrue.Like Lord shadow said,guys will at least eventually go away from the crowd and be alone at one point where girls always have to be in a crowd all the time,making it much harder to be able to approach them and talk with them and like I said earlier,if they are just drop dead gorgeous,they are not easy to talk to because as I said earlier,the guy unfortunately always has to make the first move.It would be so much easier if thats not how it was.there are a few out there who will make the first move,but its never been in my experience of a girl that I was attracted to,that they ever made the first move.the times I successfully got dates with girls,was because I would see someone I know talk with her and I would only be able to talk with that girl because my friend would be talking with her so while my friend would talk with her,I would come over and talk with my friend and have him/her introduce me to that girl and set me up with her,thats the only way i can do it.I just cant go up to some gorgeous girl and get a conversation going without sounding like a stammering idiot if that girl has never shown an interest in me.
Originally posted by Tired HikerAnd my name is Richard! JK!
I'm a huge pusssy when it comes to talking to really hot girls, unless I've had a few drinks. I think this will be my downfall in life. 🙁
But for the life of me...I just don't understand how and why anyone would feel intimidated by talking to a girl. Or approaching one just to talk or whatever. Seriously, for everyone that turns you down, one will eventually talk to you.
If you go up to one with the intention of scoring or because you like said chick...then you've thought too much and your nerves come into play. But if you just talk for the sake of seeing and meeting new people, why you'd most likely be pleasantly surprised as the pressure is taken off your wimpy shoulders.
Smell the flower people! Because tomorrow it'll look like shit!
because some of them are just like beyond gorgeous.the ones that are beyond gorgeous,you dont want to talk to them just for the sake of talking to,like you said,you want to score not just talk,so its quite a different story talking with one that is just drop dead gorgeous than it is with some plain ordinary girl your not attracted to.
In all seriousness I have no problems.
I just be myself wherever I can.
I don't try and pretend to be something I'm not around girls either, that way I know they like me for who I truly am. So far I'm doing fine, mainly because any girl that does like me says they prefer honesty as opposed to fakeness - which is why they like me, and is also why i like them. It's a two way benefit deal I'm quite happy with.
If a girl doesn't like me, I'm not being big headed but, her loss I guess.
I just don't understand why guys act differently (I'm talking more about acting all nice and false). If they don't like you, so what? Any girl you ever go out with is gonna find the real you one way or another - so don't even bother putting up fake bravado or niceness in the first place. Any girl worth anything understands that guys are just as neurotic, self-aware and mental as they are, so any smart girl oughta know (and many do) that any guy too good to be true, usually is. That's why you always see the attractive-but-bimbo-types going around with complete d*cks - they'll figure it out soon enough, albeit at a much slower and more painful rate. Any girl that's expecting Prince Charming is living in cloud cuckoo land and requires a sedative - so don't even bother.
Just be yourself, f*ck everyone else if they don't like it.