I honestly don't know if I enjoy living here any more, one of my housemates is stressed like all the time and it gives off bad vibes. It's like cool if you want to clean up all the time that's fine, I do mine in my own time, there's no need to be all passive-aggressive/actually aggressive when me and the other guys don't do stuff all the time, especially since we didn't set up any specific rules like that. It's not like he makes it clear how he wants stuff done, he just gets all weird and stressy when we've done something that he doesn't agree with. It's patronising but also childish. Just speak to me straight like, instead of being an Anakin about everything. And it's not like he acts the same way to the girl in the house either, because apparently you can't get angry at girls for no reason but it's totally fine to be all bitchy when it comes to guys.
Get your shit together bloody hell, I don't care if you have a job and no free time, there's a ****ing reason I don't have a job as a student y'know, let me just be a student. It's not like the pots are climbing the ceiling or there are mouldy lumps of cheese behind the radiator or anything.
Toxic shit, yo
Originally posted by Piggle HumsyTo be fair, you've been at it way longer. Luckily, my mates actually voiced their concerns to me and said that they were a bit worried how much I drank (which isn't all that much, more the fact I drink solo), so I have that to work on. Plus, I'm finally getting real hangovers, so, **** that. haermm
I wish I had your strength
See, me and my other mate, we spat and argue from time to time, but we're up-front about it. If we have a problem, it gets voiced quickly, and we resolve it in about five minutes and then have a ciggie. That's how adults deal with stuff. Having a job and a car does not instantly make you an adult, mate. Speaking honestly and directly is a better step in that direction.
Originally posted by Scribble
I honestly don't know if I enjoy living here any more, one of my housemates is stressed like all the time and it gives off bad vibes. It's like cool if you want to clean up all the time that's fine, I do mine in my own time, there's no need to be all passive-aggressive/actually aggressive when me and the other guys don't do stuff all the time, especially since we didn't set up any specific rules like that. It's not like he makes it clear how he wants stuff done, he just gets all weird and stressy when we've done something that he doesn't agree with. It's patronising but also childish. Just speak to me straight like, instead of being an Anakin about everything. And it's not like he acts the same way to the girl in the house either, because apparently you can't get angry at girls for no reason but it's totally fine to be all bitchy when it comes to guys.Get your shit together bloody hell, I don't care if you have a job and no free time, there's a ****ing reason I don't have a job as a student y'know, let me just be a student. It's not like the pots are climbing the ceiling or there are mouldy lumps of cheese behind the radiator or anything.
Toxic shit, yo
Have you tried having a house meeting? I used to do that with my old housemate's. We'd each
write down our agenda and raise it, peacefully and just agree on how to fix whatever we could so we were all happy.
Originally posted by Scribble
To be fair, you've been at it way longer. Luckily, my mates actually voiced their concerns to me and said that they were a bit worried how much I drank (which isn't all that much, more the fact I drink solo), so I have that to work on. Plus, I'm finally getting real hangovers, so, **** that. haermm
Yeah I never really drink alone cause I don't enjoy it, it's completely a social thing for me.
He got pissed up on whiskey last week and started getting really aggressive because I told him I dated a 15-yr-o when I was 17, even though I'd known her for years beforehand and shit. I called him out on being dumb and I'm pretty sure he started threatening me with violence for not holding myself to the standards of the law or some other shit Batman-inspired gibberish or what the **** ever. I basically just told him not to threaten me and to back down, even though he's literally jacked as ****. I don't care how strong you are, you don't get to bully my ideals and moral code into the ground.
He's lovely really, but a bit of a ****wit.
Originally posted by Piggle HumsyWe have a policy of speaking openly, in my eyes that's enough to keep order tbh. I don't think anybody else is really noticing it but me, I tend to be really aware of stuff like that. Maybe I'm exaggerating it in my mind, I dunno. But we made a policy when we moved in to talk about any problems we had, so he should know we're open to improvement. It's in his court, the way I see it. If it gets any worse though, I probably will have to say something. But I can't gauge how likely he is to just punch me, dude has anger issues/daddy issues or something.
Have you tried having a house meeting? I used to do that with my old housemate's. We'd each
write down our agenda and raise it, peacefully and just agree on how to fix whatever we could so we were all happy.Yeah I never really drink alone cause I don't enjoy it, it's completely a social thing for me.