Cheaters.....

If someone cheats on their significant other and are forgiven, is it a question of IF they do it again, or is it a question of WHEN they do it again?

I wouldn't forgive them.

But I'd have to say...when

The Point is they did it. And should die. You can't trust them Anymore.

When you forgive them you are showing your weak point. Thinking that you love them too much to let them go if they go for the second kill just raises the question of WHEN will they do it again.

P.S. If you haven't learned from your past, you are condemned to repeat it.

WILL

Originally posted by ben_dover

If you haven't learned from your past, you are condemned to repeat it.

the truth^

i agree. they will do it again. on the other hand, heres another scenario. lets say jim is dating stacy. jim cheats on stacy. jim and stacy break up. then jim meets the love of his life, his soulmate, karen. is he gonna cheat on karen or does he start off with a fresh slate?

Originally posted by Rogue Jedi
i agree. they will do it again. on the other hand, heres another scenario. lets say jim is dating stacy. jim cheats on stacy. jim and stacy break up. then jim meets the love of his life, his soulmate, karen. is he gonna cheat on karen or does he start off with a fresh slate?

Definitely WHEN they will do it again... breaking a trust like that is not so easily repaired...

Originally posted by Rogue Jedi
i agree. they will do it again. on the other hand, heres another scenario. lets say jim is dating stacy. jim cheats on stacy. jim and stacy break up. then jim meets the love of his life, his soulmate, karen. is he gonna cheat on karen or does he start off with a fresh slate?

It's not definitely WHEN is it? People do make mistakes.

As unforgivable as cheating is to me, I have seen it happen when the person cheating (if it was one act and not an ongoing thing) has sincerely regretted it and never done it since.

If someone is a cheater in the sense of keeping up a secret relationship behind a partner's back, I believe it is WHEN. If it's one act, I believe there can be genuine regret and remorse there.

-AC

Some people actually enjoy the manipulation of people and the thrill of getting away with cheating...
I know one of these people, He used to date my friend, and we've never let her forget it..., and we still hate him.

I know some people who have cheated once and never did it again. I also know people who are chronic cheaters.

It really depends on the person.

Originally posted by Alpha Centauri
It's not definitely WHEN is it? People do make mistakes.

As unforgivable as cheating is to me, I have seen it happen when the person cheating (if it was one act and not an ongoing thing) has sincerely regretted it and never done it since.

If someone is a cheater in the sense of keeping up a secret relationship behind a partner's back, I believe it is WHEN. If it's one act, I believe there can be genuine regret and remorse there.

-AC

i would imagine that the person who gets cheated on would never be able to trust him or her again. every time they touch him or her they will think about the person they cheated with.

If that's a rule... then my friend is an exception... She was divorced 7 times... yet she's still out to find that special someone... Has 2 kids each from different fathers... And right now she's living with her 3rd husband...

Wow. Crazy woman. shock

^^ She knows...People tell her all the time just doesn't want to change that image I guess...😕

>> It's a bit sad really, seeing her like that...

i think its ok to cheat if the other person...doesnt find out

It really depends on the situation I guess.

I've been in the situation before, being cheated on...the first time it happened was with my first real girlfriend. I caught her with my supposed friend at the time. She did it behind my back for a couple of weeks, so she knew that she was in the wrong but did it anyways. I dumped her and never looked back.

The second, and last time, was with my girlfriend of 6 months who met someone else at a club...on my birthday...and made out with him. Not really cheating in the sexual sense, but cheating nonetheless. I forgave her, because I thought I loved her, but broke up with her anyways. She was distraught about her actions, but knew she did wrong. We're still talk every once in a while too, as friends. Nothing more.

So yeah, people make mistakes, they can be forgiven, but it would never be the same.